[jenny]

as a poll, do you think it is ever acceptable to wander through your partner's computer? this includes: email, history, last documents, etc. or their rooms, mail, telephone calls, etc.

i'm horrified by how many people do this - this is something so removed from my psychology that it would not even occur to me - but maybe my values are skewed. why do people do this? how do they justify themselves? i'd love to understand.

i remember my mom, when i was 5, taking a letter to my brother away from my prying hands and explaining that it was actually a crime to intrude in someone's business that way. i guess it stuck.

i'm looking to expand my understanding of prying so as to reduce my prejudice against it - it obviously won't change my behaviour but maybe i will get it when my women friends talk about it. i can't ever help them because i cannot get over the horror of this invasion of privacy.