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i know exactly how all of you feel. My boyfriend and i have been together for 8months. And were getting married next months.
I hate his EX. They went out for about a year. They broke up last year. But they made out twice after they broke up. The last time was 2months before he met me. That's what bothers me. He said in the beginning of their relationship it was okay, but the rest was just them fighting and breaking up. he told her he loved her but it was a lie. I believe him on that part, i know he didn't love. He couldn't stand her and thought she was fat and ugly and stupid, but he wanted to help her feel better about herself. He hates her. He would make her go away forever if he could. When he looks back at that time, he sees it as a mistake. She tried to IM him but he blocked her. A few months after dating both of us got rid of all the stuff from our ex's. So we can have a fresh start. He also stopped going to his church, because i asked him to stop cause she went there.
But I can't get it out of my head that he was stupid enough to date someone so psycho for so long and make out with (even tho she is so hideous and ugly). He says he just went out with her cause she liked him and he wanted to be with someone and didn't care who. I think this is true, he must not have cared cause he stayed for year no matter what crap she put him thru. I think she might try to get with him again. I shouldn't let it worry me cause he knows he wouldn't go back to her ever. I know my problem isn't jealosy because i've seen her and she is fat and ugly.
I know he loves. but i just don't like thinking that he would spend so much time with someone he couldn't stand. I don't want to admit he could be so stupid. He knows how much it bothers me and we argue about it. He usually starts crying, because he realizes how unspecial I feel to him. He always tells me he loves me and I'm the only one he's ever loved, and he regrets his past. But I always want him to prove it, it seems like. But he doesn't know how. All he can say is "why isn't it enough to tell you that i tell you i love you and that you are special to me?"
I don't know what to do? how do i stop thinking about how immature and stupid he was?He never questions me about my past, and i left the guy I was dating for him. I think he doesn't talk about it cos it does bother him. He knows I did love someone before I met him.
I love him so much. I don't know why I don't except everything he does for me as his love for me. He does so much but I always just wonder if he would do the same thing for someone he doesn't care for, and I don't need to think about it cos it's not true. I think I made myself feel better. I like what one of you recommended, Just give them love and you will get love in return. I remember what one of my guy friends told me, whose gf couldn't stand his past. You can't get mad about what they did before they met you. If I follow tha advice, I have nothing to be mad about because since we have been together he has done nothing wrong. He would never break up with me (cos i've tried pushing him). All he has ever done was show me he loves me and wants to be with me.