[rani]

Hi Everyone,


I'm totally new to this site, sitting in my new house, my daughter upstairs asleep, I have work that I need to do, but I can't focus at all. So I thought that if I could pose this situation to you all, maybe you could help.


My husband of 10 years asked to split up on Sept. 20, it took this long to find a place to move into and in that time we have slept together quite a few times, argued, and I found out that almost a week to the day that he wanted to split, he met this woman that is his "friend" that has "been there for him."


I did it, I snooped, and I found that there was an emotional affair going on. I'm angry, insulted, scared, and I have NO idea of how to handle this. He says he still loves me, but that we have NOTHING in common, we agree on NOTHING and that counseling would do no good. -- I even broke down and downloaded one of those "save your marriage" e-books in my desperation.


I love him still, but it seems as though I have no chance here. But he doesn't want me to get anyone else to help me with the moving or fixing up the new house. What is he doing to me? And why? Does anyone else have this experience? Advice?

Thanks,
Rani