understanding women better, question for women

ccc2001 · 17th January 2006, 1:43 AM

I've heard many times that women are sometimes "too busy" to want to date someone. It's not that they don't like the guy, but apparently it is too much for them emotionally to handle at the moment. I'm in my mid 20's and this has happened on a few occasions. Usually the women ended up contacting me again a month or two later wanting to get to know me. Maybe not "dating", but at least going towards that.
My question for women: is this really true? Are my assumptions correct?
If so, could you explain why women are like this?

My question also stems from the fact that it appears it's happening again, since I tried to pursue a woman that had too many things going on. I am able to see her once a week, but where I see her I would probably have to approach her myself. I don't want to be "pushy", but if she's "not busy" anymore, I would like to be able to keep my foot in the door per say. It has been 2 months since she turned me down.
Question: If I approach her and just have friendly conversation for a few minutes...is that appropiate? Any opinions welcome.

nancyann82 · 17th January 2006, 2:24 AM

First of all, the last thing you want to do is to seem desperate, even if you are just trying to be friendly, women can see through that. Try to be as nonchalant as possible. When approching a woman, keep in your mind that you could care less what her response is.
A woman won't be attracted to you if you seem too needy. And, in response to the "Too Busy" excuse, i'm sorry if this sounds bad but i believe that nobady is too busy when they find somebody they realy like. But on the other hand, i know of very few women who don't want to be consumed by a realitionship. But if you really think about it, if you were a woman who was dedicated to her work or studies and Brad Pitt or somebody supercharming were to come and ask you out, would you really turn them down to study????
Good luck!
P.S. i hope i answered your question

My_Other_I · 17th January 2006, 2:32 AM

I'd say that saying HI and chit-chatting is fine, but respect her wishes. If she says she is too 'busy' (whatever that means), take it as she's not interested for now.

Mz. Pixie · 17th January 2006, 10:31 AM

Sorry, if a woman is interested she will never be too busy for a guy.

EMJ · 17th January 2006, 9:31 PM

If she says she's too busy she does not want a romantic relationship with you. She may actually be busy, but we all make time for what and who we want in our life. Keep moving. Say thanks and don't think about asking her out again. These women may really like you as a friend and don't want to hurt your feelings. But they aren't interested beyond that, not at all. Sorry. But it's good that you asked, you won't waste any more time hoping and waitng for them to come around. They won't. Only pursue the receptive women. Good luck.

Outcast · 17th January 2006, 10:05 PM

I don't think it's necessarily a rejection of you personally. I have been in the situation where I wasn't actively seeking a relationship and would have turned down pretty much anyone who asked.

ccc2001 · 17th January 2006, 11:54 PM

Thanks for your responses. They are all very helpful. It appears that each woman is different in how they approach this. Some will drop everything for a really cool guy. While others will not even worry about dating, knowing that they can get a cool guy anyways.
Of course, if dating was straightforward, I would know why she is the way she is and this web site wouldn't exist.