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Old 14th September 2017, 5:04 PM   #16
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Block his number.
I have but on my phone if you block a number the messages to through to a spam folder so you can still access them and on your call log it tells you when they have called and been forwarded to voicemail.
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Old 14th September 2017, 11:40 PM   #17
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I have but on my phone if you block a number the messages to through to a spam folder so you can still access them and on your call log it tells you when they have called and been forwarded to voicemail.
Then get a new phone so you can totally block him or talk to your phone provider to see if it's possible to do a total block.

Though I am suggesting you ditch your number and get a new one. That will for sure keep NC in place. It might be a pain in the butt to change and let all your contacts know about your new number but it'll be worth it for you.
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Old 15th September 2017, 1:33 AM   #18
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This thread is helping me too, thanks so much.

Best wishes to OP also!

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Old 15th September 2017, 7:04 AM   #19
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is there any way that you can have a fiend who you really trust screen any calls form him, at least for the time being. Give her your phone for a couple of days if you have to, Anything important, she can pass it along to you. Calls/texts form him? They get deleted right away.

While she's doing this, get yourself a new phone number. Ask her to send out a message to your contacts ( except him, of course) you new phone number.

When you do this, you never see the calls so you are not tempted. Also, if you need a friendly shoulder to cry on. she'll be there.

Before you do that, send him a strongly worded message that the relationship is over and you do not want any further contact with him.

If you have web based email like gmail. set up a filter so that any messages coming from your ex-mm's email so they get sent right to the trash or are deleted right away without you ever seeing them.
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Old 15th September 2017, 7:11 AM   #20
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There are actually very few reasons to sacrifice ones life.... and this is faaaar from being one of them.

Girl, pull yourself together and call for help.
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Old 15th September 2017, 7:33 AM   #21
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What are you in love with?

You are giving everything to a man
that only gives you the crumbs off of
his table.

And now you want to give your life?

This man is not worth your everything
that you have given him now.

And, now you want to add your life to
the list?

Do you see the folly of your logic?
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Old 15th September 2017, 10:21 AM   #22
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I do understand your pain, but your MM had sex with you in his house when his children were upstairs. I read your backstory. I do not know any man who would do that as a single man on a date. I cannot imagine what kind of character would place his children in a situation like that. What do you want from this man? You did not meet in person. You met him on an online affair hook up site. That is who this man is. He does not respect women period, apart from having an affair.

I would leave his wife alone. I would be freaked out if a woman my husband met as a stranger on a hook up site was calling me or coming to my house.
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Old 19th September 2017, 7:07 AM   #23
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In my opinion heartache when combined with depression is one of the best salespeople in the world.

Together they convince you that:-

*This feeling will never pass
*That the future holds nothing for you
*That you will always be alone
*That there must be something wrong with you
*That you aren't good enough, pretty enough, skinny enough, smart enough....
*That life without them is not worth living
*That you are worthless
*That you will never feel this way about anyone ever again.

But the thing to remember is that HEARTACHE AND DEPRESSION LIE!!

The story they tell you is not the truth, even though they are so convincing.

Try to remember that the way you feel is temporary.... yes it is painful, but it is temporary.

When the fog lifts you will realise that it was not the truth, the feelings do pass, and there are many great things to live for.

Please do not be fooled by depression and heartache.... they are liars.
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Old 19th September 2017, 7:41 PM   #24
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In my opinion heartache when combined with depression is one of the best salespeople in the world.

Together they convince you that:-

*This feeling will never pass
*That the future holds nothing for you
*That you will always be alone
*That there must be something wrong with you
*That you aren't good enough, pretty enough, skinny enough, smart enough....
*That life without them is not worth living
*That you are worthless
*That you will never feel this way about anyone ever again.

But the thing to remember is that HEARTACHE AND DEPRESSION LIE!!

The story they tell you is not the truth, even though they are so convincing.

Try to remember that the way you feel is temporary.... yes it is painful, but it is temporary.

When the fog lifts you will realise that it was not the truth, the feelings do pass, and there are many great things to live for.

Please do not be fooled by depression and heartache.... they are liars.
Amen to this!! There have been times where I prayed God to take me in my sleep. Days of darkness where I pretended all was well. Nobody knew. It hurt physically, too. But, one day you "wake up" and the clouds are lifted and you have beat depression and heartache. When it strikes again, you hold on knowing you will come out of it.

Nobody is worth this! Wishing you all of the best! You will come through!
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Old 21st September 2017, 6:52 AM   #25
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How are you doing crazyinlove?
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Old 27th September 2017, 7:37 PM   #26
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Crazyinlove-please let us know how your doing, I've read all previous posts, we are all here for you.🙏
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Old 29th September 2017, 12:45 AM   #27
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Hi everyone thanks for checking up on me. I've been okay until a couple of days ago. I've had a few tough days but I'm getting through them

I feel like I have a few good days but then go back and my bad days are worse than before. 😢
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Old 29th September 2017, 6:16 AM   #28
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I hope you are feeling better already, and...

I haven't seen your earlier posts, but I hope you find something to do that will make you laugh...

I used to hoard to mad books/magazines way back, or some oter comic books that make me laugh, and read through them when I am feeling so low...

Please do something that you like, well, other than that which makes you bad later.
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Old 29th September 2017, 1:18 PM   #29
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(((crazyinlove27))) Hugs, I, too, hope you are feeling better after experiencing a suicidal spell. I don't like to admit it, but I have been there, too. For me, the thoughts are greatest when I feel that I have failed at something and on top of that feel too tired to try again or start over. I suffer from depression, and the heartache combined with it is exactly as reed1971 describes. I feel 10X worse when I go without sleep; sleep is *very* important to me feeling good and more objective. I really hope you get to a place where you feel like you deserve the gift of Life you have been given, and that you will live your Life to the best of your ability. Hugs!

Just wanted to add that everyone's responses have helped me, too! Thanks!

And K.K., you are hilarious! Very motivated to go out and do something when I read your posts
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