AnotherSadSong Posted July 4, 2015 Share Posted July 4, 2015 Hi. I am at norm highly active and very fit. The last few days I have been extremely stressed. I have only eaten what is left in a bare kitchen. I need to go to the store. I never keep snacks around and only eat healthy things that you cook or micro. My stress is so enormous I lost a lot of body fluid because my stomach will not stop being extremely overactive, its noises were actually waking me up and are now obnoxious. My intestines are gurgling non stop. I woke up and was in the bathroom mirror and it startled me that I have drastically lost weight in 3 days, massive, my stomach is less than my lower back and has no more room to lose, eyes gaunt, and face extremely pale on a tan body. I feel like I have no energy. I am thinking it is possible dehydration and nothing else, but it alarms me, heart raced. Stress?? Link to post Share on other sites
lookingforclosure Posted July 4, 2015 Share Posted July 4, 2015 I'm pretty sure it's stress. I've lost a considerable amount of stress dealing with my situation as well. I have barely an appetite most days and am fatigued quite a bit too. I try to get extra sleep/rest because I know my body is taking the brunt of the stress. My stomach has days of extreme nausea and I can barely eat, then I'll have bouts of diarrhea. It's all pretty "normal" when going through a breakup or any traumatic event. Hang in there... 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Author AnotherSadSong Posted July 4, 2015 Author Share Posted July 4, 2015 I'm pretty sure it's stress. I've lost a considerable amount of stress dealing with my situation as well. I have barely an appetite most days and am fatigued quite a bit too. I try to get extra sleep/rest because I know my body is taking the brunt of the stress. My stomach has days of extreme nausea and I can barely eat, then I'll have bouts of diarrhea. It's all pretty "normal" when going through a breakup or any traumatic event. Hang in there... I am not happy to hear you have stress, but happy to read this is normal. I was alarmed after glancing in the mirror. Thank you, I am hanging in there too. Link to post Share on other sites
Art_Critic Posted July 4, 2015 Share Posted July 4, 2015 Go to the DR, stat.. unexplained weight loss and you are calling it massive is something a DR should know about. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Satu Posted July 4, 2015 Share Posted July 4, 2015 (edited) Go to see your doctor, and also: 1. Recognise that you're still in the crisis phase - you are very hurt, disappointed and angry, but the intensity of your feelings will reduce. 2. Don't suppress your feelings, or tell yourself that you shouldn't be feeling what you're feeling - that never helps. 3. Externalise your feelings by writing them down, talking to a trustworthy person, or using any other mode of expression that feels right. 4. Remind yourself frequently that you can and will have a good life without this person. 5. Remind yourself frequently that you can and will love again. 6. Take care of your body: Eat enough and eat healthily. Drink enough water. Thats 2 litres a day for a male. Get a bit more rest than you think you need. Do some easy exercise - nothing too strenuous. If you feel physically unwell go to see your doctor. 7. Do not allow yourself to become socially isolated or withdrawn. 8. Establish Total No Contact with your ex. No contact directly, indirectly, or by social media. 9. Keep up with all your responsibilities and things you have to do. 10. Do not use alcohol or drugs in an attempt to self-medicate. 11. Post here as often as you want to. Take care Edited July 4, 2015 by Satu 2 Link to post Share on other sites
Arieswoman Posted July 4, 2015 Share Posted July 4, 2015 AnotherSadSong, Please get an appointment with your GP/Physician and get this checked out. Please do it now. Dehydration causes the urine to be various shades of orange. If this is the case drink small amounts (half litre) boiled cooled water regularly until the colour lightens. Dehydration Symptoms, Treatments, Causes, Emergencies 2 Link to post Share on other sites
Author AnotherSadSong Posted July 4, 2015 Author Share Posted July 4, 2015 Thank you for the concern. I am going to give it another day and see if symptoms improve. I need to shower and be ready if I do have to run in somewhere to be checked. I feel awful. There is a lot of stress but it is not from feelings of wanting the ex. I am overwhelmingly relieved, but the thoughts of mistreatment and disrespect keeping overturning in my mind. It is bothering me. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Mount Posted July 4, 2015 Share Posted July 4, 2015 The post in your content, that is what your doctor needs to know/read exactly. Also you said your MM is kind of sex addict, so I assume for the sake of your health you had already made him checked to make sure he is clean(hopefully with you being present) before you were involved with him sexually? Hadn't you? Hi. I am at norm highly active and very fit. The last few days I have been extremely stressed. I have only eaten what is left in a bare kitchen. I need to go to the store. I never keep snacks around and only eat healthy things that you cook or micro. My stress is so enormous I lost a lot of body fluid because my stomach will not stop being extremely overactive, its noises were actually waking me up and are now obnoxious. My intestines are gurgling non stop. I woke up and was in the bathroom mirror and it startled me that I have drastically lost weight in 3 days, massive, my stomach is less than my lower back and has no more room to lose, eyes gaunt, and face extremely pale on a tan body. I feel like I have no energy. I am thinking it is possible dehydration and nothing else, but it alarms me, heart raced. Stress?? 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Author AnotherSadSong Posted July 4, 2015 Author Share Posted July 4, 2015 The post in your content, that is what your doctor needs to know/read exactly. Also you said your MM is kind of sex addict, so I assume for the sake of your health you had already made him checked to make sure he is clean(hopefully with you being present) before you were involved with him sexually? Hadn't you? We have only had safe sex. I have had those concerns if he is freaky. I no longer have to care because he is permanently out of my life. I was secure with the fact that we both are from high social standing and backgrounds, but that means nothing and disease does not bigot itself. Thank you for your concern. Link to post Share on other sites
MarieB215 Posted July 4, 2015 Share Posted July 4, 2015 I 100% believe it's stress related. I myself have lost over 30 pounds since separating from H and I'm still having trouble sleeping. I would definitely go to the doctor to be on the safe side, but be sure to explain the stress you're currently under. Good luck 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Mount Posted July 4, 2015 Share Posted July 4, 2015 That does not make any sense, virus would not treat people differently (going to body system) by identifying whether you are a CEO or just a Walmart Cashier. Also if he has more opportunity, he can go to so many services out there, escort, prostitute, illegit massages...etc, which make his sexual partners in more danger. I do not understand why OW, even it is affair, they can allow so much. Because in regular BF/GF, or couples before getting married, that is for sure that each one needs to check the another one being clean FIRST. We have only had safe sex. I have had those concerns if he is freaky. I no longer have to care because he is permanently out of my life. I was secure with the fact that we both are from high social standing and backgrounds, but that means nothing and disease does not bigot itself. Thank you for your concern. Link to post Share on other sites
sandylee1 Posted July 4, 2015 Share Posted July 4, 2015 When you have a bad break up you feel terrible . It's like any food you eat tastes horrible and your mouth has this bitter taste in it. So you don't eat and you don't drink , because it hurts to swallow. Like you said your stomach makes noises and it's because it's empty and is waiting for something to come it's way. I lost 7 pounds in 4 days once when I had a betrayal of sorts . You feel like crap in these situations. You need to eat something , drink water and get fresh air 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Author AnotherSadSong Posted July 4, 2015 Author Share Posted July 4, 2015 When you have a bad break up you feel terrible . It's like any food you eat tastes horrible and your mouth has this bitter taste in it. So you don't eat and you don't drink , because it hurts to swallow. Like you said your stomach makes noises and it's because it's empty and is waiting for something to come it's way. I lost 7 pounds in 4 days once when I had a betrayal of sorts . You feel like crap in these situations. You need to eat something , drink water and get fresh air I am going to drink water today. I normally only drink water throughout the day. My stomach is still loud and I am holding off food because it goes through me at lightning speed. It is stress. I feel stressed out. Link to post Share on other sites
Author AnotherSadSong Posted July 4, 2015 Author Share Posted July 4, 2015 That does not make any sense, virus would not treat people differently (going to body system) by identifying whether you are a CEO or just a Walmart Cashier. Also if he has more opportunity, he can go to so many services out there, escort, prostitute, illegit massages...etc, which make his sexual partners in more danger. I do not understand why OW, even it is affair, they can allow so much. Because in regular BF/GF, or couples before getting married, that is for sure that each one needs to check the another one being clean FIRST. I mentioned in the post it does not treat people differently and we have only practiced safe sex. If it feels to be more than completly stress related, I will look into it being something other than nerves. Link to post Share on other sites
whatatangledweb Posted July 4, 2015 Share Posted July 4, 2015 I think it is stress, anxiety, and depression all mixed together. You just went through a very ugly breakup a few days ago. I had all that when I found out about my husband's affair. I was 109 lbs and dropped to 98 in a week. Make sure you drink water and if you get worse or it doesn't improve next week, go see your doctor. I am so sorry you are hurting so much. It is that one sentense he told you that is eating you alive. He didn't mean it. He wouldn't have been with you that long if it were true. You said some ugly things that hurt him and his ego, so he got ticked and hit you with the worse thing he could think of. I lash out like that also. He wanted to hurt you like you hurt him. It wasn't true. Please stop letting it torment you. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
Author AnotherSadSong Posted July 4, 2015 Author Share Posted July 4, 2015 I think it is stress, anxiety, and depression all mixed together. You just went through a very ugly breakup a few days ago. I had all that when I found out about my husband's affair. I was 109 lbs and dropped to 98 in a week. Make sure you drink water and if you get worse or it doesn't improve next week, go see your doctor. I am so sorry you are hurting so much. It is that one sentense he told you that is eating you alive. He didn't mean it. He wouldn't have been with you that long if it were true. You said some ugly things that hurt him and his ego, so he got ticked and hit you with the worse thing he could think of. I lash out like that also. He wanted to hurt you like you hurt him. It wasn't true. Please stop letting it torment you. I think this was a time his truth came out in anger. I am ok with this now, it hurts, but I can no longer engage in any manner with him. I would never be able to look up at his face. I am ready to move on to healthy things in my life and thank you. Link to post Share on other sites
Satu Posted July 4, 2015 Share Posted July 4, 2015 If you get dehydrated, the first organ to suffer is the brain. If you don't drink enough water because you're stressed, you get more stressed. Don't get stuck in that loop. 3 Link to post Share on other sites
eye of the storm Posted July 4, 2015 Share Posted July 4, 2015 Towards the end of my M I was hospitalized twice for nausea and dehydration. The second time the doctor told me it was stress. That is it. Stress. So they treated my nausea and gave me anti anxiety meds. Turns out it can cause a massive amount of physical reactions. Weight loss, hair loss, weight gain, insomnia, lots and lots of reactions. But just because it is caused by stress does not mean you should not go to the doc and have it checked out. thinking peaceful thoughts for you 2 Link to post Share on other sites
lftbehind Posted July 4, 2015 Share Posted July 4, 2015 Hi. I am at norm highly active and very fit. The last few days I have been extremely stressed. I have only eaten what is left in a bare kitchen. I need to go to the store. I never keep snacks around and only eat healthy things that you cook or micro. My stress is so enormous I lost a lot of body fluid because my stomach will not stop being extremely overactive, its noises were actually waking me up and are now obnoxious. My intestines are gurgling non stop. I woke up and was in the bathroom mirror and it startled me that I have drastically lost weight in 3 days, massive, my stomach is less than my lower back and has no more room to lose, eyes gaunt, and face extremely pale on a tan body. I feel like I have no energy. I am thinking it is possible dehydration and nothing else, but it alarms me, heart raced. Stress?? Hi AnotherSadSong, Yes, it's sounds like stress. Please make sure you eat, drink plenty of fluids and go to the doctor if you need to. I know it can be hard to do when you feel bad, but you need to take care of yourself physically the best that you can. I have been bullimic when under stress and it makes things worse. I get more down and it's hard to think straight. Think of it as survival and you need to take care of you. Just know that you will see better days, although it might not seem like it now. Best wishes 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Author AnotherSadSong Posted July 4, 2015 Author Share Posted July 4, 2015 Hi AnotherSadSong, Yes, it's sounds like stress. Please make sure you eat, drink plenty of fluids and go to the doctor if you need to. I know it can be hard to do when you feel bad, but you need to take care of yourself physically the best that you can. I have been bullimic when under stress and it makes things worse. I get more down and it's hard to think straight. Think of it as survival and you need to take care of you. Just know that you will see better days, although it might not seem like it now. Best wishes Thank you, I hope better days are nearby. I had an event to go to for the fourth but I cannot attend in the heat feeling this physically sick. I am having a hard time accepting I did this to myself. I am miserable on the fourth. The ex is out with family having a blast. I will never put myself in this situation again. It is unbearable. Happy 4th. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Author AnotherSadSong Posted July 4, 2015 Author Share Posted July 4, 2015 Next year, however, none of this will have mattered or co exist. I will have a warm heart next to me enjoying the 4th, polar opposites of you never meant a thing to me....you were just a f____. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Poppy47 Posted July 4, 2015 Share Posted July 4, 2015 Song, allow your common sense to kick in.... have a big drink of water and something good to eat even if you don't feel like it. It will calm your whole system down. You cannot exist on fresh air forever because you have had a horrendous break up. YOU WILL LIVE. YOu need to be healthy to do it. That's and order.... Grandma Poppy. 3 Link to post Share on other sites
still_an_Angel Posted July 4, 2015 Share Posted July 4, 2015 Please do the skin test, you might be dehydrated. You need to see your doctor asap. Look after yourself, it will be doubly bad if your body collapses, your mind is already going through so much. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Author AnotherSadSong Posted July 5, 2015 Author Share Posted July 5, 2015 Song, allow your common sense to kick in.... have a big drink of water and something good to eat even if you don't feel like it. It will calm your whole system down. You cannot exist on fresh air forever because you have had a horrendous break up. YOU WILL LIVE. YOu need to be healthy to do it. That's and order.... Grandma Poppy. This made me laugh! It has been such a weird day. Sick and it is the 4th of July. I am listening to the fireworks and it is making me so depressed. I have all these wonderful things happening and I cannot let this set me back. I was looking at ready for marriage dating sites for when I jump in about a month if I am not set up by then. I am figuring the ready for marriage ones will have healthier minded men. God someone shoot me! I am going to jump in shower and order something to eat. Thank you for making me laugh. Link to post Share on other sites
Author AnotherSadSong Posted July 5, 2015 Author Share Posted July 5, 2015 But then again, their could be strange from that site. I can see a fun dinner but maybe the man will be determined and clingy if marriage minded already. I will have to do a lot of searching and investigating before I sign up for one. Link to post Share on other sites
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