lovekillsslowly Posted November 4, 2009 Share Posted November 4, 2009 Hi All ~ I'm really feeling the urge to call xMM today and I am trying to fight my way through it. I keep telling myself that if I call he will simply not answer or he will take my call and tell me that he is busy working and will call me back later and that call will never come. So in order to not break down and call him I'm trying to remind myself of all the things he said to me that I believed at the time and now know that they were just something he said in the heat of the moment that most likely he never meant. So I'm asking all you former OW's what are some of the lines you heard from your xMM while you were involved with him. Here are a few of the ones I was told - "I want to wake up next to you and smell you on my sheets, I want to cook with you, I want to clean house with you....I want to run away with you." "I wish I could carry you around in my pocket while I'm at work" "I wish I could pack you in my suitcase and take you with me" (in regards to going on his family vacation) "I miss you already and I'm not even gone yet" "I'll be thinking about you the whole time I'm gone." "I enjoy spending time with you." "Nobody makes me want to f**k like you do. Only you do that to me." "I've wanted you for so long." "Someday you and I are going to be on that white sandy beach with that clear blue ocean. We may be in our 80's and in wheel-chairs but we will get there someday." "They're playing our song" (this was said to Clay Walker's "Fall") "You've made me feel things I thought I'd never feel again. You brought me back to life. You make me really happy. And for that I thank you." and my all time favorite - (drum-roll please) - "Damn girl you fit like a glove." What a pathetic fool I was to believe any of that! It makes me sick insdie of myself to think I was that STUPID!!! I asked him one time "did you ever mean any of those things that you said to me????" And his response to me was "well I meant them when I said them." Gee - that's like writing a check and the check bounces and so you tell the business owner "well the money was in the account when I wrote it." LOL!! My sisters favorite from her xMM was when he told her "I will love you till the day I die." Well guess what???? He's still alive and he's not with her anymore!!! Pigs I tell you!!! They are all a bunch of Pig F***ers!!!! And I'm the IDIOT who believed the P.F!!!! Link to post Share on other sites
Alpha Female Posted November 4, 2009 Share Posted November 4, 2009 I love you and only you. You are the only one I want. No one has ever believed in me the way you do. You are the dream I dream. I wake up in the middle of the night whispering your name. I think about you all day long. I can't wait for us to be together. We will have such a wonderful life together. There could never be another after you. I promise you I am leaving my W and we will be together. I swear we will be together. And the one we ALL hear: PLEASE BE PATIENT A LITTLE WHILE LONGER. Link to post Share on other sites
2sure Posted November 4, 2009 Share Posted November 4, 2009 I buy my wife anything she wants and she still isnt happy I work and work and work for my family, thats all I do My wife is emotionally unable to care for our children She and her entire family are crazy I coulda been a contender I'm lucky to get a blow job on my birthday The best of everything, thats what my family gets. Me?? I dont need anything, I only sacrifice. Variations on all of these from each MM I was OW to until I finally made the no talking about your wife rule. After that was in place and they realized I didnt need justification...they seemed quite happy with their lives at home. Also told me most of the things listed above by the other posters....it seemed to make them happy to do so. Link to post Share on other sites
Author lovekillsslowly Posted November 4, 2009 Author Share Posted November 4, 2009 Well I never heard "Please be patient with me a little while longer" BUT I did hear "Please don't give up on me." And I didn't....and yet it didn't matter....because in the end he chose to work on his marriage instead of having anything with me other than a friendship. Well as the saying goes "with friends like that who needs enemies????" And guess what??? I never, ever asked him to leave his wife for me....I told him straight from the get-go that I wasn't leaving the situation I was in and becoming a part-time mom and sharing custody with my kids on holidays and weekends and I didn't expect him to ever have to be a part-time dad. What flipping insane man is giving THAT opportunity and "can't handle it." What a bozo!!! Link to post Share on other sites
learnfrommymistakes Posted November 4, 2009 Share Posted November 4, 2009 LOL I was going to ask the very same thing this week... HERE ARE MINE, this is therapuetic, and makes me sick..lol YOU MAKE ME FEEL ALIVE AGAIN YOU ARE MEDICINE FOR MY SOUL I STILL LOVE YOU YOU WERE ALWAYS SO GOOD TO ME YOU ARE THOUGHT OF (THAT WAS THE BEST, LOL. NOT I THINK ABOUT YOU, BUT YOU WERE THOUGHT OF PRETTY GIRL) I AM PASSION FILLED FOR YOU IF ONLY WE LIVED CLOSER (BITE MY ASS...THATS MY RESPONSE) YOU MAKE ME FEEL YOUNG AGAIN I THOUGHT OF YOU LAST NIGHT WHEN I WAS HAVING SEX WITH MY WIFE (THATS THE BEST, HAH?) BARF I LOVE YOUR COMPANY YOU ARE SUCH GOOD COMPANY I DONT FEEL PASSION FOR HER ANYMORE, WE ARE LIKE ROOMATES, SEPARATE LIVES WHEN ASKED HOW IS THE MARRIAGE....RESPONSE...WELL IT IS NOT WHAT IT ONCE WAS, (NO SH##)..LOL YADA YADA YADA, AH I FEEL THE RAGE A' STIRRIN Link to post Share on other sites
unhappylady Posted November 4, 2009 Share Posted November 4, 2009 I have plenty of these: Marry me next year I want to kill myself (when I broke up with him) My wife and I have absolutely no physical contact. I will never love anyone like I love you. You are the most beautiful woman on the planet (bleurghh) You are my best friend (funny way of showing it!) Oh I could go on and on and on Loveshackians....! Link to post Share on other sites
1Angel Posted November 4, 2009 Share Posted November 4, 2009 "My wife and I have a very inconsistent sex life." "I wish I would have met you _____ years ago." "I think about you ALL the time!" "You're beautiful." "You're hot." Every day in text for months. "You will always be treated with respect." :lmao: And lots of other absolute lies about W. Link to post Share on other sites
MaureyL Posted November 4, 2009 Share Posted November 4, 2009 These are quite painful for me to recall, so just a choice few.. "you make me so happy" "you are in my skin" "I will take you everywhere I go" I miss you so much when we are apart" "I love you. It is important for me to say it." "I would love for you to meet my family one day. Could you call me on the telephone and let me put you on loudspeaker so they could hear you talk?" "It is not possible for you not to be sexy" "your french sounds like a fairytale in my ears" "what if I have made the wrong choice? (about going with the girlfriend)" "If only we could have met before I met -----" "Who knows what will happen? Tonight I spent all night on the computer looking at 'Once' while my GF and her sister watched movies on television. This is because the movie reminds me of you" By the time it is time for me to leave ---------, you will have found someone else (this said with tears in eyes, you can imagine it I'm sure) "your perfume is with me everywhere. Even when I take a shower, the smell still lingers." There are a ton of them. I was completely bewitched! Link to post Share on other sites
ladydesigner Posted November 4, 2009 Share Posted November 4, 2009 I hate thinking about them as it has been so long since I've heard them, but will never forget what he said to me he was my now XOM, he has a Significant Long Term Girlfriend: I miss you so f**king much it hurts. I hope this never ends (of course he ended it). I would be so heartbroken if you ended it (again he ended it). It feels good to be loved back by someone you are in love with. You have made me the happiest I have ever been in my life. Run Away with me. Beautiful Lady, sexy girl, amazingly beautiful (oh god the list goes on how sickening). You are the most beautiful woman I have ever been with. If I had to choose I would choose you. My shirt still smells like you. ....oh and the beloved: I LOVE YOU (*puke*) Link to post Share on other sites
Devil Inside Posted November 4, 2009 Share Posted November 4, 2009 I know that the point of this thread is to have fun and get some of these lies out of your systems. However, as a former MM, I do have to say...some things are lines and some things are not. We all say things that we feel in the heat of the moment...but that later may change. That said...many of the things I said in my A were not exactly the truth. That is why if my daughter ever told me she was seeing a married man I would tell her..."you know how to tell if he is lying...his lips are moving." Carry on. Link to post Share on other sites
ladydesigner Posted November 4, 2009 Share Posted November 4, 2009 "you know how to tell if he is lying...his lips are moving." Good one DI. Good one. Actions always speak louder than words. Link to post Share on other sites
Morelikeher Posted November 4, 2009 Share Posted November 4, 2009 DI - what you posted reminded me of what Randy Pausch's advice was to his 2 year old daughter.. [FONT=Arial]“When men are romantically interested in you, it’s really simple. Just ignore everything they say and only pay attention to what they do.”[/FONT] Link to post Share on other sites
whatisgoingon Posted November 4, 2009 Share Posted November 4, 2009 (edited) JUST SO YOU KNOW ME AND W NEVER HAVE SEX IM ONLY STAYING TILL HER DAUGHTER IS DONE THIS YR OF SCHOOL WHEN THEY SPLIT UP, I HAD TO LET HER MOVE BACK IN WHERE ELSE IS SHE GOING TO GO, HER DAD WILL NOT HAVE HER THERE ANYMORE PLEASE PLEASE BE PATIENT WITH ME IT WILL HAPPEN YOU ARE THE BEST SEX I HAVE EVER HAD MY ALL TIME FAVORITE: WE DO NOT HAVE TO HIDE ANYMORE W AND I ARE DONE! That was the night before she showed up needing a place to live and I did not see him for 2 weeks.....LOL Edited November 4, 2009 by whatisgoingon 4 GOT ONE Link to post Share on other sites
Spoiled Posted November 4, 2009 Share Posted November 4, 2009 My xMM and I were friends 11 years prior to our 1 year A. We became very close to having an intimate R twice shortly before our marriages. His lines included: "I just don't want our friendship to be ruined." "I wish we would have acted on our emotions when we first met." "You are so beautiful.".......................this was no lie:D "My body has never reacted like this to any other woman." followed by.... "You are so sexy and you have the best pu$$y!!!":) "You make me feel like THE MAN."............again, no lie:D "I think about you ALL day." "I don't know what you have done to me." "I'll never make any promises to you I can't keep."........he made no promises "If our spouses found out, I don't think I could let you go.".....after d-day #3, he was still holding on....I finally let him go. Link to post Share on other sites
Confused4Now Posted November 4, 2009 Share Posted November 4, 2009 "You are the perfect size for me" I only got it once or twice a month.. "I'm am ready to move forward with you" This was after meeting her and sister 4 months ago. Nothing happened yet. "I understand" This is when I went no contact. "I see us together on the Holidays" That was last year and this year for sure. "I miss you soooooo much!!!" A million times I heard that. "No one gets me like you do!!! hahahahah "Let's go to our place and make love in our bed" Everything at my place was always referred to as OUR's Link to post Share on other sites
ednadean Posted November 5, 2009 Share Posted November 5, 2009 I've never felt this way about anyone I want to marry you It's going to take some time for me to sort this all out I think about you every day and... I love you. Link to post Share on other sites
SillyLady Posted November 5, 2009 Share Posted November 5, 2009 "I just wanted to hear the dulcet tones of your sing-song voice." - One I heard him use on his W while I used to work for him "I want you to have my children." - His W already had 3 of his at the time he used this one "Will you marry me?" - In retrospect, it was my favorite line in that it underscored just how much BS he was really feeding me. DI hit the nail on the head with the "lie detector." Link to post Share on other sites
whatisgoingon Posted November 5, 2009 Share Posted November 5, 2009 just so you know me and w never have sex im only staying till her daughter is done this yr of school when they split up, i had to let her move back in where else is she going to go, her dad will not have her there anymore please please be patient with me it will happen you are the best sex i have ever had my all time favorite: We do not have to hide anymore w and i are done! That was the night before she showed up needing a place to live and i did not see him for 2 weeks.....lol and i forgot the one that he said drew him to me.... You are so easy to talk too, you have such good advice and you are my very best friend.... Link to post Share on other sites
moaningmyrtle Posted November 5, 2009 Share Posted November 5, 2009 Oops - I'm the BW but I read the e-mails he sent to the OW. Paraphrasing only a bit (most of them sadly, are burned into my brain): "I love my children like floating on the sea; with a bit of luck I'll always be on the sea; I love my wife like being on a slow moving river; the water is shallow and with good fortune I won't sink; I love you (the OW) and feel like I'm on a fast mountain stream in an out of control kayak going to unknown destinations" "I like to think when we have sex that I'm affecting every cell in your body when you come; but it's not just about the sex which comes at no extra cost when we have lunch together" "I want you in the night; I'd like to change your light bulbs and iron your clothes and would be honoured for you to cook and clean for me" "I've never stopped loving you and think about you every day; can I see you twice a week every week?" "Sorry I can't see you tonight as planned, as I forgot I have to be home with the kids while Myrtle is out" "I'm going on holiday with Myrtle and the kids so won't see you for a while" "I'm not at work today because I'm home helping Myrtle with the kids" Link to post Share on other sites
affairshipper Posted November 5, 2009 Share Posted November 5, 2009 (edited) I was attracted to you when I first saw you. I want to date you. I like your face. I like your lips. I like your hair. I like your toes. I like your curves. I like your bosom. I like your personality. I haven't been attracted to other women since I met you. I haven't been with a women in 3 years. I like you. I want you. Luvu You make me happier. You make me stronger. I want to spend more time with you. I don't want to hurt you. I respect you. I want a healthly and uncomplicated relationship with you. Edited November 5, 2009 by affairshipper Mistake Link to post Share on other sites
Author lovekillsslowly Posted November 5, 2009 Author Share Posted November 5, 2009 (edited) Thanks for the honest answer DI. As disappointing as it is to read it I needed to hear it from an MM who had an A to confirm what I already suspected.... and that is that he meant what he said when he said it but the moment it left his lips he didn't mean it anymore. Edited November 5, 2009 by lovekillsslowly mistake Link to post Share on other sites
Jacky Posted November 5, 2009 Share Posted November 5, 2009 My ones from OW was "I love you more than anything in the world" "You are the best thing that has ever happened to me in my life" "My H doesn't listen or understand me like you do" "I have imagine how it would be like if we were living together" "Sometimes I regret marring my H" Maybe these are not lies but the line she once said to me was "Everything is different when you have respondsibilities." Link to post Share on other sites
Blindsidedagainalive Posted November 5, 2009 Share Posted November 5, 2009 I said to WW...I bet he said the following: You are so sexy You have a great laugh You have such soft skin I knew this because they are all subjective and can easily lied about. You wouldn't tell someone with rotten teeth that they have a great smile. But soft skin.....you can say that to any woman. She said that OM emphasized all of these things. Yes, I too am embarrassed for the woman that listened to the corny **** written on these posts. It is such obvious inauthentic corn. Link to post Share on other sites
2sure Posted November 5, 2009 Share Posted November 5, 2009 Things I said as OW to MMen: I dont need anyone else but you You deserve more You make me laugh like no one else You are absolutely brilliant I adore you, you know that right? I miss you when you're not here I think about you all the time My pillow smells like you, I love that You make me smile even when you're not here Tell me now when I can see you again OMG, you are the best lover Ive ever had ALL LIES, all believed, all included in the package Link to post Share on other sites
Devil Inside Posted November 5, 2009 Share Posted November 5, 2009 Thanks for the honest answer DI. As disappointing as it is to read it I needed to hear it from an MM who had an A to confirm what I already suspected.... and that is that he meant what he said when he said it but the moment it left his lips he didn't mean it anymore. Not exactly. Everything I meant when I said it. Some I meant for a month. Some I meant until it ended. Some I mean even now. Point is...he may adore you, he may think you are beautiful, we all think that of our beloved...at least I always do. However, when he says he is leaving...don't believe him, watch his actions...that reveals the truth. Link to post Share on other sites
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