LoyalGirl Posted August 19, 2008 Share Posted August 19, 2008 We seem to be having a debate in our house, and I was wondering what most people believe about this. Is love a feeling or a choice? Link to post Share on other sites
beautifullove Posted August 19, 2008 Share Posted August 19, 2008 I think it's both, and I also think it's an experience. Link to post Share on other sites
crystal_lostheart Posted August 19, 2008 Share Posted August 19, 2008 I think both.... We feel alot of the time but we also make choices when it comes to love. When you feel love, it's those hard choices and decisions you sometimes have to make that can break you heart..... Link to post Share on other sites
showupbutbroken Posted August 19, 2008 Share Posted August 19, 2008 Well said. Love means not having to make all the fun choices. If you really love someone, sometimes it means sacrificing for their happiness (i.e. giving things up, letting go). And at the end of the day, if you really love someone, you are ok with making those decisions. Link to post Share on other sites
Meaplus3 Posted August 19, 2008 Share Posted August 19, 2008 We seem to be having a debate in our house, and I was wondering what most people believe about this. Is love a feeling or a choice? I believe love is a choice. AP:) Link to post Share on other sites
Taramere Posted August 19, 2008 Share Posted August 19, 2008 I think it's a combination of instincts. The instinct to give and receive nurturing, the sexual instinct, the homing instinct, the instinct to avoid being alone thus vulnerable to predators. Because we have the ability to talk, we can put those instincts into words, analyse them in depth and call them emotions or choices. I still believe that ultimately we follow our instincts in most situations. Link to post Share on other sites
GreenEyedLady Posted August 19, 2008 Share Posted August 19, 2008 Love is a feeling... The feeling of putting another above yourself... If love were truly a choice, then would it matter who anyone married? They would just choose to love their mate, would they not? We would be back to arranged M's. Saying love is a choice cheapens what true love is. True love is the joining of two souls. Likening it to a choice, as in what I want for breakfast toast or cereal, simply downplays the magic. And true love is magic. GEL Link to post Share on other sites
astra77 Posted August 20, 2008 Share Posted August 20, 2008 Love is a feeling... The feeling of putting another above yourself... If love were truly a choice, then would it matter who anyone married? They would just choose to love their mate, would they not? We would be back to arranged M's. Saying love is a choice cheapens what true love is. True love is the joining of two souls. Likening it to a choice, as in what I want for breakfast toast or cereal, simply downplays the magic. And true love is magic. GEL This is true GEL - i dont think you have any control over who you fall in love with, but it is a choice to follow your feelings and continue to love that person. It can be magic, captivating and exciting, but it can also hurt like hell. Link to post Share on other sites
Owl Posted August 20, 2008 Share Posted August 20, 2008 do a search on the OW forum for the last six months...we've had several threads along these lines already...you'll probably find some interesting reading in those threads Link to post Share on other sites
lovestruck818 Posted August 21, 2008 Share Posted August 21, 2008 "what is loveee? baby don't huuuuurt me, don't huuuuuuurt me, no more, yeah yeah" :::bobs head::: Link to post Share on other sites
Agent_99 Posted August 21, 2008 Share Posted August 21, 2008 We seem to be having a debate in our house, and I was wondering what most people believe about this. Is love a feeling or a choice? I think that is is a lot of things. Love is a feeling, an emotion, just like other emotions it can come on quickly or slowly, it can be felt intensely or softly. Love is also an action, a verb, in the sense that you can act on it or not. You can show someone love by your actions towards them. You can act lovingly. I don't think it's a choice though, although you DO choose how to act on your feelings. Like if your mad, you can deal with it by throwing things, or by taking space to calm down. Either way your still angry. Emotions aren't a choice, what you do with them is. ~99 Link to post Share on other sites
The Collector Posted August 21, 2008 Share Posted August 21, 2008 Love is a stranger in an open car, to tempt you in and take you far away. Love is a danger Of a different kind To take you away And leave you far behind And love love love Is a dangerous drug You have to receive it And you still cant Get enough of the stuff Its savage and its cruel And it shines like destruction Comes in like the flood And it seems like religion Its noble and its brutal It distorts and deranges And it wrenches you up And youre left like a zombie But also Six foot six he stood on the ground, he weighed 235 pounds But I saw that giant of a man brought down to his knees by love He was the kind of a man that would gamble on luck Look you in the eye and never back up But I saw him crying like a little whipped pup because of love You can't see it with your eyes, hold it in your hands But like the wind that covers our land, Strong enough to rule the heart of every man, this thing called love It can lift you up, never let you down Take your world and turn it all around Ever since time nothing's ever been found that’s stronger than love Most men are like me they struggle and doubt They trouble their minds day in and day out Too busy with livin' to worry about a little word like love But when I see a mother's tenderness As she holds her young close to her breast Then I thank God that the worlds Been blessed with a thing called love Link to post Share on other sites
vanilla87 Posted August 21, 2008 Share Posted August 21, 2008 Love is both a feeling and a choice. When you fall in love you feel it, but you choose to express it. When you choose to love someone one, usually its when you have to make one or when you feel if you should choose to love that person or someone else. But really when it comes down to it, you feel it in your heart, because you choose to let yourself love someone... Link to post Share on other sites
Cliche Posted August 21, 2008 Share Posted August 21, 2008 "what is loveee? baby don't huuuuurt me, don't huuuuuuurt me, no more, yeah yeah" :::bobs head::: I sang the same song in my head and now I'm annoyed. :lol I agree with GEL, it's a feeling. I think we all make choices once we find love, but the love, itself, is pure, raw emotion. BTW, I think to say love is only a "choice," is to set oneself up for pain. Because that means two people have to make the exact same choice all of the time. And we all know from our own human experiences, that as we grow, we choose different things. Love being a feeling is a constant. Love being a choice may change with experience. Link to post Share on other sites
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