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Old 24th January 2018, 4:03 PM   #46
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I thought maternal instincts would cause a woman to protect her own flesh and blood.... But I guess not.

A man you brought into your home, assaulted your children and your concern appears to be your boyfriend's well being?

I have to say, this is one or the most shocking stories I have ever read.

You say you wonder what will happen now.

Well here are my guesses. Your children will be astranged from you. You failed to make them first priority, you failed to protect them, and you abandoned them, so I suspect they will abandon you.

You disgraced your husband in the worst way possible. He will divorce you, and fight like hell to keep you from getting anything. He will seek full custody. You have endangered your children.

You disgraced your parents, they will want to hide away from you, just like they would wish to hide from the shame you brought forth to them.

You did the equivalent of bringing a venomous snake I to the house, let it lose to bite all your family, then ran away with the snake (and made sure it didn't hurt it's self too bad bitting your husband and children).
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Old 24th January 2018, 4:21 PM   #47
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I find it astounding that OP's lover hasn't at least had to post bond, if not actually be held in jail. Or that you and your kids haven't had a long interview w law enforcement yet (or maybe they have).

Anyway OP, your actions are unforgivable, and if there is any justice in this world, your family--including your parents--is about to disown you. After your kids testify against you and your lover in court that is. Hopefully your lover gets a long jail sentence too.
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I find it astounding that OP's lover hasn't at least had to post bond, if not actually be held in jail.

Anyway OP, your actions are unforgivable, and if there is any justice in this world, your family--including your parents--is about to disown you. Hopefully your lover gets a long jail sentence too.
Perhaps they haven't gone to his place of work yet because her husband and children haven't recognized him as one of her work colleagues. His B/S must know something went down since he's been gone for a few days. I am sure they must have come up with some spectacular excuse for his bruises and giant blue ba*ls. She probably doesn't know he's cheating yet. I wonder what sophisticatedlady is going to do when he doesn't leave his wife for her? Boston has a prison doesn't it?
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Perhaps they haven't gone to his place of work yet because her husband and children haven't recognized him as one of her work colleagues. His B/S must know something went down since he's been gone for a few days. I am sure they must have come up with some spectacular excuse for his bruises and giant blue ba*ls. She probably doesn't know he's cheating yet. I wonder what sophisticatedlady is going to do when he doesn't leave his wife for her? Boston has a prison doesn't it?
But, wouldn't the cops have interviewed OP by now to find out who this guy is? OR at the very least, OP's place of work would be the first place they would check. Surely mugshots were taken too.

I would think that if you gravely injure someone else in his own home, then LE would take that seriously. Yet this guy didn't even get a night in jail it seems. It's all very strange.

Meanwhile, OP asked what was going on in her family. Yes what we all said before that they likely are planning on disowning her, and also, probably legal action is being taken against her as well. I hope boyfriend gets prison.

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Sophisticatedlady never said anything about her children striking her. I hope she at least directs her husband to this site so we can help him. He needs to file charges against her other man so he can protect his children. She thinks she can make peace with her family and get them to now accept the other man into their life, delusional. She thinks she and other man are going to start a new Brady Bunch, wrong. Other man is going to beg his wife for forgiveness because this much older boss lady forced herself on him and he feared loosing his job. sophisticatedlady's husband needs to get a restraining order keeping her boyfriend away from his children. The children will never accept him into their lives after what they saw and the beating they took from him. This is going to end very badly for her, nothing like fantasy she imagined, this is her new reality.
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Old 24th January 2018, 6:13 PM   #51
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Thanks for the suggestions and advice, I know what I have done thatís wrong, I know what I have done thatís awful and I deserve the hate, but I want to do something at least for my husband and kids,
If my husband and kids decide to forgive me, I will do my best to heal them and I know right now everyone is angry and upset with me, and I admit that my deeds were disgusting and shameful,


My affair partner is fine, on the incident day , after we reached the hotel, we went to the hospital, affair partner got some bruises and injuries on the face, head and on his genitals, and got the treatment.

We both are going to our office, and acting normally, but today after office hours, i am planning to see my husband and kids, none of my kids, parents or inlaws have contacted me till this day, i am just wonedring, what going on,and what will happen to my family and our relationship.
So you went to a hotel and a hospital with your boyfriend even after he assaulted your husband and your children? Your little girl?

Wow!
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{SNIP} Currently I am staying at a hotel with my affair partner, I want to meet my kids and see my husband in the hospital, but I don’t know how to proceed further, I am scared and worried because cops got involved.


I do love my family and I love my husband and affair partner both, but now this incident and mess has happened, don’t know how to sort it out.


Looking for serious suggestions and realistic advice
You could go to jail as being apart of the assault against your husband and kids.

Why did you flee with the guy that just beat your husband and kids?

Good to see you can love someone that has done this to them.

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I would have intervened and try to calm down the situation.
BS, you ran away with him and now acting like nothing happened. You both need to be in jail. That might help you realize what you have done.
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At minimum your AP will get changed with A & B against your husband. As well as A & B against your children. Which will land him in jail for a long time. Sense you ran with him you might be charged as well.
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Sophisticatedlady never said anything about her children striking her. I hope she at least directs her husband to this site so we can help him. He needs to file charges against her other man so he can protect his children. She thinks she can make peace with her family and get them to now accept the other man into their life, delusional. She thinks she and other man are going to start a new Brady Bunch, wrong. Other man is going to beg his wife for forgiveness because this much older boss lady forced herself on him and he feared loosing his job. sophisticatedlady's husband needs to get a restraining order keeping her boyfriend away from his children. The children will never accept him into their lives after what they saw and the beating they took from him. This is going to end very badly for her, nothing like fantasy she imagined, this is her new reality.
OM is going to jail. OP might also.
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But, wouldn't the cops have interviewed OP by now to find out who this guy is? OR at the very least, OP's place of work would be the first place they would check. Surely mugshots were taken too.

I would think that if you gravely injure someone else in his own home, then LE would take that seriously. Yet this guy didn't even get a night in jail it seems. It's all very strange.

Meanwhile, OP asked what was going on in her family. Yes what we all said before that they likely are planning on disowning her, and also, probably legal action is being taken against her as well. I hope boyfriend gets prison.
Not if they donít know who it is or where to find OP.
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OP some of your story doesn't stack up to me.

I think there are some things you aren't telling us.

I don't believe that your husband "fainted". I've worked in healthcare long enough to know that people don't "faint" during an assault. If they collapse then it's due to a head injury.

You also say that your husband is in the hospital with a broken hand and leg. The "broken hand" I can accept as a defence injury -but no-one get a broken leg during an assault unless they fall awkwardly over/against a solid object or they have been struck with a weapon (iron bar/piece of wood etc) on the legs. Or they get kicked by someone wearing shoes with steel toecaps.

If your AP was naked then this wasn't a kick injury.

So either your AP was a lot more violent than you are telling us or the "broken leg" is BS.

I, like others, are also wondering why the police havn't been around to talk to both you and your AP ?

Could it be that they have already interviewd your children and are waiting for your husband to regain consciousness?

Either way you need to take the advice you have been given ;

Cease contact with your AP, and get good legal advice.
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I used to box in high school and college, and I can tell you that it is very, very difficult to knock someone unconscious with a single punch. It's not like it is in the movies. Knocking a person unconscious requires that you either hit the person with a very particular kind of punch to a very particular part of the chin or jaw (causing trauma to the nerve plexus at each jaw joint). Only skilled and trained boxers or martial artists are generally taught how to do this correctly, and even then it only works about a quarter of the times you try it.


The other way to knock someone unconscious is to strike them repeatedly to the head with a hard blunt object causing concussion. If it gets to this point, the person has suffered some form of head trauma or serious brain damage requiring hospitalization.


So either your boyfriend is some kind of martial artist, or boxer, or he got your husband down and kicked him in the head repeatedly causing brain trauma. If that is the case your husband could be facing a life threatening head injury. A wife who loved her husband would do what she could to be by his side wouldn't she? Well you aren't, you're with your boyfriend ostensibly hiding out from the cops. If that is the case you are aiding and abetting a fugitive and I hope they throw the book at you.


....Or you are a pimple faced 20-somthing mallpunk living in his mom's basement getting his jollies by jerking the kind people here around with a salacious fairy tale.
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Finally i met my family and yesterday i was in the hospital to see and meet my husband and kids,


it was so horrible and one of the worst time i ever had with my family members,


name calling and so many things heard from my kids,parents and inlaws.


when i was in the hospital, i dont know after few hours, cops came to the hospital and started questioning me, then we went to the Boston Police Department office and they have questioned me like i was a criminal or a bad women,they gave me the warning ,not to leave the city for few weeks.


then they questioned about my affair partner and they aksed the details, and wherabout of my affair partner.


and they caught my affair partner from the office,and boston police department have pressed certain charges,which i heard from my office colleagues.



everyone is asking so many questions,about injuries to my husband,there is a podium and stairs like strutcture on the entrance of my bedroom and there is a base ball and other sports equipment in the cupboard near to the podium and stair like structure,


affair partner used that baseball to hit on my husband and husband fell on that particular structure.i was hesitant to speak about these things,


things are so blur and messy, i am worried,how things will be with my family and other friends, what will happen, may be i will get fired from the organization.

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Finally i met my family and yesterday i was in the hospital to see and meet my husband and kids,


it was so horrible and one of the worst time i ever had with my family members,


name calling and so many things heard from my kids,parents and inlaws.


when i was in the hospital, i dont know after few hours, cops came to the hospital and started questioning me, then we went to the Boston Police Department office and they have questioned me like i was a criminal or a bad women,they gave me the warning ,not to leave the city for few weeks.


then they questioned about my affair partner and they aksed the details, and wherabout of my affair partner.


and they caught my affair partner from the office,and boston police department have pressed certain charges,which i heard from my office colleagues.



everyone is asking so many questions,about injuries to my husband,there is a podium and stairs like strutcture on the entrance of my bedroom and there is a base ball and other sports equipment in the cupboard near to the podium and stair like structure,


affair partner used that baseball to hit on my husband and husband fell on that particular structure.i was hesitant to speak about these things,


things are so blur and messy, i am worried,how things will be with my family and other friends, what will happen, may be i will get fired from the organization.
All I see is "me, me, me". It's shocking how you don't appear to show any remorse whatsoever. The only things you seem to feel bad about are the effects on your feelings and the possibility you might lose your job! Nowhere do I see anything like, "I hope my kids are going to be ok", or "I hope my husband is going to make a full recovery", or "I see that my affair partner is a violent thug and I will testify against him in court", or anything else that shows any kind of remorse. It's even worse - you were "hesitant" to give the police a proper account of what happened!

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