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Old 23rd January 2018, 2:42 PM   #1
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Affair partner physically thrashed my husband and had a physical fight with my sons

Here is my story:


Married for last 18 years to my husband, have two sons and a daughter.


I am 43-year-old, my husband is 44-year-old, 1st son is 17-year-old another son and daughter are 15 years old (both are twins).



Affair partner is 28-year-old and married with kids.


I am having an affair with my younger colleague from last two years, we are working together in the same department, it started when for the first time we went for a business trip 2 years ago,


Somehow, we were able to manage that without anyone notice and not leaving anything suspicious to our family.


This Friday, I was working from home and I called my affair partner to my house, but to my surprise, my husband along with sons and daughter came with food and gifts in the afternoon to surprise me as my husband got promoted this January.


So, me and my affair partner were caught naked, in the middle of our sexual act.


My husband and kids were shocked, and my affair partner got furious, before anyone should react or say anything,


And affair partner suddenly jumped out of bed and started thrashing my husband and my sons and daughter were also got involved in that fight, where my both sons brutally assaulted my affair partner, my husband is fainted, my daughter called the cops, affair partner fled away with me from my house.


My husband leg and hand are fractured and he is seriously injured, and currently hospitalised my kids got bruises and at the hospital,


I never saw that my sons can do such things, my daughter and sons are not talking to me, other family members came to know from my sons and daughter, my parents and in laws are with my kids and taking care of my husband, I got this information from our mutual friend.


Currently I am staying at a hotel with my affair partner, I want to meet my kids and see my husband in the hospital, but I donít know how to proceed further, I am scared and worried because cops got involved.


I do love my family and I love my husband and affair partner both, but now this incident and mess has happened, donít know how to sort it out.


Looking for serious suggestions and realistic advice
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Old 23rd January 2018, 2:46 PM   #2
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I suggest you get a good attorney, and a good therapist. And advise your husband, your affair partner, and your affair partner's wife to all do the same.

Make sure all the kids involved get therapy, too.
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Old 23rd January 2018, 2:49 PM   #3
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He should face charges. This man assaulted your sons so you should be pretty to tear his head off.
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Old 23rd January 2018, 2:55 PM   #4
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Just my opinion but the best way for you to proceed is to give your husband an uncontested divorce, the image of you with your [affair partner] will never leave their minds. His attack on your children and husband was brutal. The fact you are still with your boyfriend while your husband is in the hospital tells everyone who your loyalty is to, it is not with your family. Shame, shame, shame on you for not defending them, you do not deserve them in your life. I do not see them recovering from your actions on discovery and your actions after being discovered. Get yourself some psychological help, there is something really wrong with the way you are handling this.

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Stay away from them. None of them are going to be too keen on seeing you for some time, maybe forever.

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Old 23rd January 2018, 3:11 PM   #6
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Wow..


File for divorce and give your husband everything.

You clearly decided your AP is more valuable to you than your family so why not just make a clean break and walk away.

Don't worry your husband will find someone eventually and your children will grow to love that woman. They will heal without you.


Now if this isn't the path you want then leave the place your staying at right now. Go home and block your AP on every level. Don't call him don't talk to him in any way shape or form. If he tries to talk to you show your husband everything. Beg for forgiveness and give your husband time to decide what he wants. If it is a divorce be incredibly giving in that process. Once your divorce maybe you and your OM can be together.

I feel for your husband and children. It had to be incredibly painful to see you defend your new OM and run to him.

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Old 23rd January 2018, 3:12 PM   #7
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First, I think your husband should press charges against your affair partner.

Second, I think you should leave your husband and children alone. You had the audacity to have sex with your affair partner in your own home, and then you are upset and say "you never knew your sons could do this, and your children aren't talking to you..." Do have no empathy for your children, no ability to see the situation through their eyes?

I would bet that they never thought they would stumble upon their mother having sex with another man, not their father, in their family home.

If your husband is wise, he will file for divorce and take everything he can get!
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Your statement "my boyfriend fled with you from the house" I take it to mean you fled with him of your own accord and of your own free choice. You fled rather then helping your husband who had to be hospitalized. Your daughter and two sons who intervened to help their dad were all injured and the last thing they saw was their mother running from the scene with the man that caused the injuries. I suspect you are both wanted by the police and are now fugitives hiding in some cheep hotel. I suspect that you and your boyfriend won't have to worry about buying anniversary gifts again. I am sure you and your 20 year younger boyfriend are a perfect match for each other. I am sure his wife is real happy to hear what you have done to her family. You need a lawyer.
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Had your sons not been there to intervene, what would your lover have done to your husband?
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[]I commend your sons for jumping in to defend their father. That was the right thing for them to do.

Where is your shame and remorse for putting your family in such a horrible position? And now you are hiding away at a hotel with your affair partner after causing so much trauma to your children. I don't think you love your husband and I seriously have to question if you even love your kids.

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Old 23rd January 2018, 3:19 PM   #11
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My husband and kids were shocked, and my affair partner got furious, before anyone should react or say anything,


And affair partner suddenly jumped out of bed and started thrashing my husband and my sons and daughter were also got involved in that fight, where my both sons brutally assaulted my affair partner, my husband is fainted, my daughter called the cops, affair partner fled away with me from my house.


My husband leg and hand are fractured and he is seriously injured, and currently hospitalised my kids got bruises and at the hospital,


I never saw that my sons can do such things, my daughter and sons are not talking to me, other family members came to know from my sons and daughter, my parents and in laws are with my kids and taking care of my husband, I got this information from our mutual friend.


Currently I am staying at a hotel with my affair partner, I want to meet my kids and see my husband in the hospital, but I don’t know how to proceed further, I am scared and worried because cops got involved.
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[Y]our AP got "furious". Really? WTF reason could he have for that. You don't "belong" to him. Not his house. Not his bed. []

Third, your AP attacks YOUR FAMILY. And, I guess you lay there and watch this carnage. This naked AP is attacking your 15 year old DAUGHTER!!!

And your husband feints?!?!?!??!?!?! []

And you are shocked that your sons beat this guy to defend themselves, their father and sister!!!! I say they are the real heroes! Good for them.

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Old 23rd January 2018, 4:04 PM   #12
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[T]here is no sorting this out except through a lawyer. Do you know if you both still have a job? The best thing for you to do is find out if you are wanted by the police, if you are both still employed and if your charge cards still work.

I doubt if you'll need to worry about future anniversaries, birthday's for your children or for your future grandchildren.

The potential felon( depending on your husband and children filing charges) your with looks like your future. I don't think you need to worry about being in love with him and your husband anymore, running off with him took care of that issue.

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Old 23rd January 2018, 4:48 PM   #14
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Your children have been raised well. To come in defense of their father against a madman speaks to their maturity. And your daughter was smart enough to call the police instead of panicking.

At this point in time, the most important thing is the healing of the victims in this. Your husband and children need space from you at present. Or possibly permanently. They also need to go through the process of pressing charges against your affair partner. As the police were called, this WILL go through legal processes.

What you want or how you feel is of little consequence at this time.
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Old 23rd January 2018, 4:55 PM   #15
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WOW.

So someone comes along and assaults YOUR FAMILY, you take that person's side, and you "don't know how to sort it out".

Leave. And leave everything behind. Let our husband have everything and apologize to your kids for being such an awful mother. Your family would just be so much better without you.

I'd say what I really feel about you but I don't want to get banned so I'll leave it at that.
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