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Old 25th December 2017, 4:10 AM   #16
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Hi Pallavie, thank you for responding. Well your last post clarified things in a crystal clear way. Your husband is NOT remorseful and he cares two hoots about your feelings. He wants to retain his comfort zone( having you as the house keeper and him warm at night) but apart from that you are just a convenience. If he could get someone like you who wouldn't hold him to his vows, he would replace you in a heartbeat. If you can live with that and have no more expectations of him, your marriage, whatever that term signifies to you, may survive. If you raise the stakes he is not going to like it and may show just enough change to keep you in the stable till he can make alternative arrangements.

It is up to you to not accept this situation and decide unilaterally, what you want to do. As they say in the Military, you can strike at a time and place of your own choosing. That will not only catch your husband off guard but will prevent him from taking immediate retaliatory action. Folks on here have analysed your situation quite accurately for you to see where you stand vis a vis your husband. The ball is now in your court. Warm wishes.
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Old 3rd January 2018, 6:22 PM   #17
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I really appreciate all your replies guys. I know I reply late and I'm sorry for that. Going through the down phase. Depressed all the time. It's hard even to get up from the bed.

As for my husband, he has stopped talking with that woman completely. He is really afraid that I might leave him. I try to be normal with him because my mother in law is here for the holidays and I don't want to tell her what happened. We don't get much time to talk and I don't how to handle my frustration.

On one hand I want to forgive and forget this whole incident because I still love him. But then I remember all the lies and him fooling me for 4 months and I get so angry that I don't know if I can ever trust him again. I have no idea what to do.
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Old 3rd January 2018, 7:50 PM   #18
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You need to look around for a burner phone.

And please disclose what he's done to his Mother.

No consequences means the affair will continue - he's just gonna become better at hiding it (hence, the burner phone).
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Old 4th January 2018, 2:36 PM   #19
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There is no burner phone. He is working from home nowadays so he is literally in front of me 24/7.
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Old 5th January 2018, 9:53 PM   #20
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kick him out tell him if he wants to come back he needs a new job
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