LoveShack.org Community Forums

Reload this Page LoveShack.org Community Forums > Romantic > Marriage & Life Partnerships > Infidelity

nude pics red flag??


Infidelity In an affair or suspect your significant other? Share your experiences and concerns here.

Like Tree2038Likes
Reply
 
LinkBack Thread Tools Display Modes
Old 10th February 2017, 1:24 PM   #1
Established Member
 
Join Date: Feb 2017
Posts: 190
nude pics red flag??

Caught my wife taking nude photos of herself with her phone. Asked what she was doing and she said they were for her, then she said they were for me? We dated 3 years and have been married for 12 years and she has never sent me a nude pic or a sexy pic for that matter.

One week goes by, I hear her in our bathroom so I peek in and she is again taking nude pics of herself and posing too. I don't say a word for 3 days hoping the pics will be coming to me but nothing came.

Last night I confronted her about the 2nd nude photo shoot I witnessed. I told her to give me her phone so I can check it. She has her phone locked and will not let me in it. I told her there needs to be 100% transparency in our marriage. She through a fit about this slamming doors saying everyone is needs privacy.

This is all new with her. She never locked her phone, she has also shut down her email on our shared home PC. She is always on her phone and she seems very happy, like she is a teenager or something. Also she is being overly nice to me, telling me I'm her best friend, we are a team, initiating sex all the time.

There is something going on. There is a rat in the woodpile. I think she is having an affair. My gut is screaming at me.

I'm going to try to find a way to get in her phone and see what she is up too.

Do you people think I'm crazy or do you think she is having an affair?
zombiehead is offline   Reply With Quote
Old 10th February 2017, 1:27 PM   #2
Member
 
Join Date: Jul 2016
Posts: 2,288
You're not crazy. She's cheating.
aileD is offline   Reply With Quote
Old 10th February 2017, 1:28 PM   #3
Member
 
Join Date: Jul 2016
Posts: 2,288
Get a voice activated recorder and put it in her car. I bet you you'll catch her talking to whoever she's cheating on you with in her car
aileD is offline   Reply With Quote
Old 10th February 2017, 1:28 PM   #4
Established Member
 
RecentChange's Avatar
 
Join Date: Jul 2015
Location: San Francisco Bay Area
Posts: 3,970
Ahh yeah you have more than a few red flags flapping here.

I am not usually one to jump to conclusions, but you have a serious problem on your hands.

She is taking nude pics, sending them to another guy. Emailing and texting him, and is as giddy as a school girl from the extra attention and perhaps sex.

As a woman who has cheated - she's cheating.

And BS on the privacy no access to phone crap. She is your spouse, there shouldn't be secrets on that phone, but obviously there are.
RecentChange is offline   Reply With Quote
Old 10th February 2017, 1:34 PM   #5
Established Member
 
Mrs. John Adams's Avatar
 
Join Date: Jan 2015
Location: midwest
Posts: 5,356
Yes I would be doing some real digging here...
if she is taking nude pix and not sending them to you... they certainly are not for herself.

I am really sorry because I think trouble is ahead for you
Mrs. John Adams is offline   Reply With Quote
Old 10th February 2017, 1:35 PM   #6
Established Member
 
Join Date: Jan 2017
Posts: 771
Yeah man, not to pile on.. But there's absolutely no doubt she's having, at best, an emotional affair. At worst, physical. Not a shadow of doubt, no woman takes selfie nudes "for herself". And the phone lock, even without the selfies, is already incriminating (my WW's phone lock "appeared" just around the time of the start of her affair).

Sorry man, if you need evidence, the VAR is a good idea. But, frankly, IMHO, you have all you need at this point to confront. Wait a few days for it to settle down, then sit down with her in a relaxed setting and explain to her, if she doesn't unlock the phone for you, RIGHT NOT, she can leave the house tonight and D papers will be there shortly. Because, without a shadow of doubt, there's going to be something incriminating on that phone.

BTW, if she does start to spill the beans, don't "forget" about unlocking the phone. I was trickle truthed for weeks after I found out; had I not cracked her phone and recovered the TXT messages, I probably would have stopped in my discovery before it was all out. You need that phone for proof of either what did or what did not happen. The mind movies you'll play are probably worse than the reality; at least for me, finding the electronic evidence was a relief, I saw what really happened and, while terrible, wasn't what I had pictured in my mind.
Overtaxed is offline   Reply With Quote
Old 10th February 2017, 1:44 PM   #7
Established Member
 
Join Date: Feb 2017
Posts: 190
Thanks, tonight when she is sleeping I'm going to try to unlock her phone. She has it finger print protected, so I guess I'll have to put her finger on the phone without waking her up. Do you think that will be possible?

Or should I tell her, let me in your phone or you can pack your stuff and move out?

I have an old cell phone that I could put in her car on voice record. It has a strong battery and could hold up at least 18 hours. I'll do that tomorrow and in the meantime I'll go buy a voice activated recorder from bestbuy.

Locked phone, nude pics, zero transparency, overly nice (guilt), yup there is a rat in the woodpile.

I'm trying to find the humor in this but the truth is I feel like dying, I feel like crying. I have already cried several times today.
zombiehead is offline   Reply With Quote
Old 10th February 2017, 1:45 PM   #8
Established Member
 
Join Date: Oct 2012
Location: India
Posts: 1,546
Hi Zombie, can you not check your phone records to see if she has been contacting one particular number? If you do find such a number you can go from there. Also if you can afford it a PI would crack the case for you in a matter of days. Warm wishes.
Just a Guy is offline   Reply With Quote
Old 10th February 2017, 1:50 PM   #9
Established Member
 
Join Date: Feb 2017
Posts: 190
Phone records are not showing anything. Her calls are clean. She is smart so she is probably using a messaging app of some sorts. Also she switched to wifi calling default so those calls and texts are not showing any contact information, just the number of wifi and text calls. If she is send out the pics through a messaging app it will not show on the phone bill.
zombiehead is offline   Reply With Quote
Old 10th February 2017, 1:55 PM   #10
Established Member
 
Join Date: Aug 2016
Posts: 529
Check phone records. Check her fb pms. VAR, keylogger. She's cheating. Her privacy reply is LITERALLY what they all say. Every. Single. One. Of. Them.

Asking for her phone right now "or else" would be a mistake bc she'll have sanitized it after the initial confrontation.
GoldenR is offline   Reply With Quote
Old 10th February 2017, 2:11 PM   #11
Established Member
 
Join Date: Oct 2016
Posts: 200
Quote:
Originally Posted by zombiehead View Post
Caught my wife taking nude photos of herself with her phone. Asked what she was doing and she said they were for her, then she said they were for me? We dated 3 years and have been married for 12 years and she has never sent me a nude pic or a sexy pic for that matter.

One week goes by, I hear her in our bathroom so I peek in and she is again taking nude pics of herself and posing too. I don't say a word for 3 days hoping the pics will be coming to me but nothing came.

Last night I confronted her about the 2nd nude photo shoot I witnessed. I told her to give me her phone so I can check it. She has her phone locked and will not let me in it. I told her there needs to be 100% transparency in our marriage. She through a fit about this slamming doors saying everyone is needs privacy.

This is all new with her. She never locked her phone, she has also shut down her email on our shared home PC. She is always on her phone and she seems very happy, like she is a teenager or something. Also she is being overly nice to me, telling me I'm her best friend, we are a team, initiating sex all the time.

There is something going on. There is a rat in the woodpile. I think she is having an affair. My gut is screaming at me.

I'm going to try to find a way to get in her phone and see what she is up too.

Do you people think I'm crazy or do you think she is having an affair?
1000% cheating. This could have been written by me and my situation.
40somethingGuy is offline   Reply With Quote
Old 10th February 2017, 2:14 PM   #12
Established Member
 
Join Date: Feb 2017
Posts: 190
She stopped her email from coming to our home PC a few weeks ago. However all prior emails are still there, and yup back at the beginning of November she opened a new Skype account and in December a Tango account. I just pulled up her profile pic on those and she is trying to look naughty/sexy. Also she is not using her real name, it is a fake sexy name.

Man my heart is racing, pounding hard and my hands are shaking. She is having an affair, now I need to find out if it is just a cyber affair or a traditional in person affair.
zombiehead is offline   Reply With Quote
Old 10th February 2017, 2:16 PM   #13
Established Member
 
Join Date: Oct 2016
Posts: 200
Quote:
Originally Posted by zombiehead View Post
She stopped her email from coming to our home PC a few weeks ago. However all prior emails are still there, and yup back at the beginning of November she opened a new Skype account and in December a Tango account. I just pulled up her profile pic on those and she is trying to look naughty/sexy. Also she is not using her real name, it is a fake sexy name.

Man my heart is racing, pounding hard and my hands are shaking. She is having an affair, now I need to find out if it is just a cyber affair or a traditional in person affair.
EA is just as bad as a PA except maybe you won't have to worry about STDs with the EA. She has her heart and mind elsewhere. I am sorry.
40somethingGuy is offline   Reply With Quote
Old 10th February 2017, 2:18 PM   #14
Established Member
 
central's Avatar
 
Join Date: Sep 2013
Location: NW Florida
Posts: 2,894
Unfortunately, all the signs point to her cheating. It may be "just" an emotional affair (EA) at this point, but it could easily progress rapidly from there.


Get what evidence you need, but give some thought to how you will handle this if your suspicions are correct. Would you be open to reconciling if she comes out of this obsession? Or, would you call it quits? In the latter case (or if she is unwilling to let this go), you might want to have a lawyer lined up, and act quickly. Remember that hacking her phone or recording her conversations can be a felony, so do that only for your own information, knowing that you cannot use it in court, say. Best not to even tell her how you know, since she could turn it on you - and to her advantage - if she is intent on leaving you no matter what.
central is offline   Reply With Quote
Old 10th February 2017, 2:22 PM   #15
Established Member
 
Join Date: Aug 2016
Posts: 529
Want to shock her back into reality?

File. Today, tomorrow. Asafp. You can always stop it from going thru.
GoldenR is offline   Reply With Quote
Reply

Bookmarks

Thread Tools
Display Modes

 

Similar Threads
Thread Thread Starter Forum Replies Last Post
Boyfriend wants nude pics? Cadenza Dating 46 21st March 2014 7:45 PM
Nude pics Ultimatum Irisu General Relationship Discussion 47 9th November 2013 11:56 AM
Nude pics Cherry Blossom 35 Long-Distance Relationships 28 13th March 2008 9:24 PM
Caught bro looking at nude pics! pinkDoll Family 18 9th September 2004 5:41 PM

 

All times are GMT -4. The time now is 7:21 PM.

Please note: The suggestions and advice offered on this web site are opinions only and are not to be used in the place of professional psychological counseling or medical advice. If you or someone close to you is currently in crisis or in an emergency situation, contact your local law enforcement agency or emergency number.


Copyright © 1997-2013 LoveShack.org. All Rights Reserved.