BrokenPrincess Posted December 18, 2012 Share Posted December 18, 2012 Good morning LSers! I have decided that I can no longer walk around with things everywhere triggering me, so in an effort to hold myself accountable to taking them back, I am going to start here and list the worst offenders. When I see my list, I can’t help but sort of laugh. It’s time to get over this! Feel free to release your worst triggers in this thread too! Word With Friends Several cities Blue swimsuits Journey music Brisket People wearing just socks Baby potatoes Singing duets Meteor showers His favorite craft beer that’s now available at my local grocery store FaceTime Flavored lip gloss Our “makeout music” Beards Book clubs Two-stepping Comparing tan lines Mens Health magazine survey results Link to post Share on other sites
Spark1111 Posted December 18, 2012 Share Posted December 18, 2012 my children's tears and anger Econolodge Holiday Inn Express Courtyard By Marriott off the highway Our anti-versary, the day before his birthday Our son's birthday(see Econoldge) The local florist where I bought their prom corsages and boutineers Mother's Day Christmas and Easter My birthday Fourth of July Cell phones, texting and emails The first time our daughter was a bridesmaid for her best friend trinkets of jewelry A favorite B and B upstate, no longer Apple picking with his extended family My FIL's funeral upstate, because he'd tell me "don't forget, I can't get any reception up there." what, she's only a friend. there was NOTHING that remained untainted by his affair. I have since reclaimed every single trigger, when I finally stopped sobbing and vomiting. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
nofool4u Posted December 18, 2012 Share Posted December 18, 2012 Well if I were still married, then the following would be triggers for me: Movies/shows depicting any kind of infidelity Hearing of people I know involved in an affair The topic of cheating comes up Hearing about other people engaging in affairs. That would be pretty much it for me. Things like places, dates, etc wouldn't really trigger me. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
drifter777 Posted December 18, 2012 Share Posted December 18, 2012 I think that all BS's list of triggers shrinks over time meaning you will probably end up with maybe 2 or 3 things that set you off a few years in the future. It's probably not reasonable to expect that your list will get to zero or that you can "shorten" your list simply because you want to. Link to post Share on other sites
beenburned Posted December 18, 2012 Share Posted December 18, 2012 nofool4you, Well, I'm still married many years after d-day, and your list still triggers me too! The places, dates, locations don't bother me at all. They had sex in the car in the work parking lot, sex in the back rooms at work, and once at a sleazy cheap motel. Yea, like that is something to really strive for! Link to post Share on other sites
Phoe Posted December 18, 2012 Share Posted December 18, 2012 I'm having a trigger right now, and it's not necessarily a trigger about any one person, but of bad feelings in general. I'm very sick right now (have been for 3 days) and have no one to take care of me, and my guy up and bailed on me about 4 days ago and I have not heard from him since. Literally every time I got broken up with or cheated on by past boyfriends it was when I was sick. I'd get sick out of nowhere, and literally that same day I'd get sick, the day before would be the last that I'd hear from them... several days would go by with me being sick in bed, alone, no one to take care of me or even just talk to me, and then finally after several days of misery I'd get the phone call/text/email being broken up with or finding out I'd been cheated on. Now whenever I get sick it's like a bad omen... 1 Link to post Share on other sites
nofool4u Posted December 18, 2012 Share Posted December 18, 2012 nofool4you, Well, I'm still married many years after d-day, and your list still triggers me too! The places, dates, locations don't bother me at all. They had sex in the car in the work parking lot, sex in the back rooms at work, and once at a sleazy cheap motel. Yea, like that is something to really strive for! Well I do not have triggers any longer because I got rid of the source of the problem. Not saying you should do the same. We all cope in our own way. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
ladyinthemts Posted December 19, 2012 Share Posted December 19, 2012 A few good songs parties with my friends the particular road they did it on, under the moon and stars... his truck him working late and not calling me til 5am my spirituality (long story, but I've had a huge spiritual block since d-day) eating (she called me fat) kissing (they made out in the house while I was in it), kissing is still very hard for me fairy crap (she was into fairies and crap like that) gypsy/boho stuff (she stole my style, it was creepy) certain friends (other married men I know are cheating with her as well, its awkward) my church (its public and she knows I'm hired to watch the kids so she threatens to show up - I can't leave) Every sunday is me trying not to have a panic attack Certain books I liked Painting and writing (she copied me there as well) Candle making and shell making (again, she copied me) The stuff I made for the party they kissed at (but I just burned it) My house (the hardest by far) I can't just move and they started their relationship in my house.... Thanks, this venting was kind of nice. Made me think about stuff. Link to post Share on other sites
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