Linda9999 Posted July 29, 2011 Share Posted July 29, 2011 How often do you talk about 'IT' with your spouse? And how long since your last D day? We rarely do. It's on my mind several times a day but I don't bring it up. I wonder how much what he did is on his mind though. Link to post Share on other sites
Tech_E Posted July 29, 2011 Share Posted July 29, 2011 Almost a year since our D-day. There will only be one D-day. Period. We don't necessarily talk about the affairs (hers and mine) specifically a lot, but she does brining mine up in anger from time to time. We do talk about the surrounding issues quite a bit though. Link to post Share on other sites
JRoy Posted July 29, 2011 Share Posted July 29, 2011 30 + years since D-day. We are just now beginning to discuss my wife's affair. From D-day forward the subject was 'off limits' because that was the concealing advice I received at the time. I am forcing myself to ask because I never did ANY healing after. There are other issues as well, but I am trying to focus on the first one and move on from there. I always thought after 38 years of marriage that we were communicating. Turns out that I was wrong. I would like to at least try to get it right before one of us passes on. I also find that there it the PAIN of the question(s) and a different PAIN in the answers. Good luck to you. Link to post Share on other sites
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