good for you for having the foresight, and wisdom to not water the seeds.
Your wife is a lucky woman.
You, 2, 2Long
One thing I've observed since I've been on LS~~~there's new stories about infidelity every week, sometimes every day.
Either someone is suspicious, and trying to make sense of erratic behavior from their partner, or D-day has happened, and the rollercoaster is in full swing.Or reconciliation has happened, and suspicions are renewed....
What I haven't seen--- is very many discussions about preventing affairs in the first place...........discussing the dynamics, and really looking at how easily they can start.
--you hit an important point:
"just a couple of people playing into a fantasy"
"If I was more needy or more vulnerable I might have totally got carried away with the romantic notion of reconnecting with my long lost love. Instead I was kind of annoyed that this guy expected me to be the same lovestruck dummy for him that I had been years ago. "
Unless we haven't grown or evolved at all in the years/decades since we were with a former love--we are NOT the same person NOW who felt those feelings in the past.I look back at who I was in my twenties, shake my head, and chuckle.........
I think what might be happening in a lot of these rekindled romances, is that the warm fuzzy feelings resurfacing from nostalgia, are mistaken for love.......