What steps to take with a newly divorced man

[Pebbles0018]

I have know this man for a few years. I saw everything in his marriage from the wedding to his child grow. We just hung out in a group of friends and flirted a little every once and a while, but nothing serious. Anyways now he is going through a divorce and we are hanging out more and getting closer. I just also got out of a bad realationship. So we know what eachother is going through and we talk a lot. We also just had our first kiss! I don't want drama because I know the wife and her family and we are from a pretty small town. But we really like eachother's company and have talked of starting a relationship. I just want to know what to do and what not to do. I don't want to mess this up for anyone.

[Annacabana]

I personally would not have a relationship with a newly divorced person. I wouldn't want to be the rebound relationship. I also wouldn't want to be in a relationship with a man who flirted while he was married. That would always be in the back of my mind,the trust issues. Going through a divorce means he is still married though, I would let things cool down before it went any further.

[Gunny376]

As Daddy use to say, "Heed a Fool's Advice"

 

I'm 49, married once ~ shacked up with another for 6-1/2 years. This is what I've learned from the experience.

 

Men have it harder 'emotionally' than women when it comes to divorce ~ because much of their social~emotional network comes from the wife, and the family ~ friends that came about as a result of the marriage ~ and so when they go through a divorce ~ they're mentally, emotionally bankrupt.

 

Don't get involved with anyone ~ who hasn't been divorced at least two years after the ink has dried on the actual divorce papers.

 

It takes years to recover, mentally, psychologically, spiritually ~ and most definately financially from a divorce. If there are kids involved ~ multiply times five!

 

Re-bound is a bitch, a lying bitch!

 

There are reasons, they got divorced ~ and it wasn't just the other person

 

You can and will "lie" to yourself!

 

Relationships are easy to get into ~ hard to maintain ~ and hard to get out of!

 

Used men/women are like used cars! If they were worth a damn to begin with the orginal owner would have kept them in the first place.

 

Personally, if a woman tells me she's separated, going through a divorce, just got a divorce ~ I avoid them like the plague. I might ~ might consider someone who's been divorced for two years. If I were a woman ~ I would make that three to five years.

 

Finally, the mere fact that you posted here means your internal radar is going off ~ as though China had just launched nukes toward the US ~ by posting here ~you've answered your own question ~ listen to that little inner voice that's screaming at you!