Gracyd Posted December 13, 2017 Share Posted December 13, 2017 Hi I'm Gracy, I'm 25 been married for five years! My husband is always telling me I have a fetish for older men. I work as a waitress in a restaurant my husband comes in two or three times a week to eat and hang out. He makes jokes that he watches me flirting with the older men that come in. He said if it's younger men I'm professional to them. He told me on a couple of occasions he watched this one guy put his hand on my butt and I didn't stop him. He reminds me how I had young guy thrown out because of that. He asked me if I would like to have sex with an older gentleman if he let me. I didn't know how to answer him! Any other couples ever done this or anyone have info on this? Link to post Share on other sites
central Posted December 13, 2017 Share Posted December 13, 2017 Are you interested in older men, or do they just tip better, so you give them more leeway and are nicer to them? Link to post Share on other sites
stillafool Posted December 13, 2017 Share Posted December 13, 2017 What do you want? 2 Link to post Share on other sites
Author Gracyd Posted December 13, 2017 Author Share Posted December 13, 2017 Are you interested in older men, or do they just tip better, so you give them more leeway and are nicer to them? Yes I am interested in them! Link to post Share on other sites
Author Gracyd Posted December 13, 2017 Author Share Posted December 13, 2017 What do you want? I'm not sure! For the last month we have been kind of role playing with this and it has really changed our sex life dramaticly Link to post Share on other sites
stillafool Posted December 13, 2017 Share Posted December 13, 2017 First decide what you want as far as experimenting sexually before you submit to your husband's wishes. If you aren't comfortable with what he wants don't do it. Be firm. Link to post Share on other sites
central Posted December 13, 2017 Share Posted December 13, 2017 I'm not sure! For the last month we have been kind of role playing with this and it has really changed our sex life dramaticly Role playing is one thing, and often a good, fun thing. Reality can bite you back, though, and cause problems in your relationship if not approached very carefully and thoughtfully. Be sure you really want it, and discuss all the negatives with your husband before seriously considering it. Also, other than seeing/hearing about you enjoying yourself, what would your husband get from this, if anything? Anyway, I was (until recently) one of the lucky older men who had a much younger FWB situation that lasted for nearly 6 years. (I've also had a few short-term flings with both younger women, and some closer to my age.) We have an open relationship, so my wife sometimes has her own fun, too. As long as we agree and check in first, we're good - but either of us can say no if things don't go well or we have serious insecurities. But, we have moved carefully on this, and jumping in is seldom wise. Link to post Share on other sites
BarbedFenceRider Posted December 13, 2017 Share Posted December 13, 2017 fantasy is one thing...Bringing another in on it...Whole new barrel of monkeys. Pandora's box is not one to be opened carelessly. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Author Gracyd Posted December 13, 2017 Author Share Posted December 13, 2017 First decide what you want as far as experimenting sexually before you submit to your husband's wishes. If you aren't comfortable with what he wants don't do it. Be firm. I'm not rushing into this Link to post Share on other sites
Author Gracyd Posted December 13, 2017 Author Share Posted December 13, 2017 Role playing is one thing, and often a good, fun thing. Reality can bite you back, though, and cause problems in your relationship if not approached very carefully and thoughtfully. Be sure you really want it, and discuss all the negatives with your husband before seriously considering it. Also, other than seeing/hearing about you enjoying yourself, what would your husband get from this, if anything? Anyway, I was (until recently) one of the lucky older men who had a much younger FWB situation that lasted for nearly 6 years. (I've also had a few short-term flings with both younger women, and some closer to my age.) We have an open relationship, so my wife sometimes has her own fun, too. As long as we agree and check in first, we're good - but either of us can say no if things don't go well or we have serious insecurities. But, we have moved carefully on this, and jumping in is seldom wise. No I'm not going to rush into anything! I told him I wanted to do some checking on this. My husband would be totally supportive, so I'm not worried about that Link to post Share on other sites
Author Gracyd Posted December 13, 2017 Author Share Posted December 13, 2017 fantasy is one thing...Bringing another in on it...Whole new barrel of monkeys. Pandora's box is not one to be opened carelessly. No we are not going to be careless Link to post Share on other sites
BarbedFenceRider Posted December 13, 2017 Share Posted December 13, 2017 I'm not rushing into this Alot of times in life. Things we imagine are actually ruined with real life getting in the way. This just maybe one of them. How serious are you two as a couple? Are you traditional in the sense of marriage and kids and stuff? How is he concerning the two of you? Has he always been faithful with you? Is this an easy way for him to have his cake and eat it too? Lots of ladies here have posted in the past that it's better to role play with your safe partner and keep the bed sacred to the both of you. Just spice it up and play your parts.... Link to post Share on other sites
RecentChange Posted December 13, 2017 Share Posted December 13, 2017 Honestly - I agree with others this can be a real mine field and you two of relatively young and inexperienced. Rather than considering actually F'ing and old guy.... You two might want to consider a baby step of sharing online. There are a lot of swinger, etc online groups where you can talk with, flirt with, and share online with, without going all the way. This may be a better step for you two. Your husband sounds like he is aroused by the idea of sharing you - and if you are also into that, this may be something that will scratch that itch. You can have old guys lust after you and give you that ego stroke, he can get turned on by the fact that these guys want you.. And the you two can go screw each other's brains out without risks of STDs or all the unintentional consequences that often come with sharing sexual partners. 5 Link to post Share on other sites
amaysngrace Posted December 13, 2017 Share Posted December 13, 2017 How much older are you talking? Grandpas? 1 Link to post Share on other sites
TexasRob Posted December 14, 2017 Share Posted December 14, 2017 I agree that if your going to go this route I would start by putting a toe in the water first, given my circumstances I have become something of an expert on internet pornography. I can tell you that there are plenty of websites out there where you can have sexual experiences of various types online in a safe manner whatever your fetish. I would try that before inviting a stranger into your bedroom. Just so were clear I don't actually use the interactive sites myself, I just like the pictures (I sound like the guy who reads Playboy for the articles ) 1 Link to post Share on other sites
carhill Posted December 14, 2017 Share Posted December 14, 2017 OP, perhaps a middle ground is staying safe with your partner, as suggested, and use interactions with other guys as fluffing for your bedroom role playing. If you can box up fantasies and not let them interfere with your M it can be kinda fun. Guys are easy. Just pick one who tickles your nether regions and play a bit, bonus if you can think dirty but deny yourself and keep it clean, then flesh it out in the bedroom with H. At 25 you're reaching the height of your sexual power so enjoy it to the full, of course respecting your love and commitment to your H. Good luck! Link to post Share on other sites
Michelle ma Belle Posted December 14, 2017 Share Posted December 14, 2017 Honestly - I agree with others this can be a real mine field and you two of relatively young and inexperienced. Rather than considering actually F'ing and old guy.... You two might want to consider a baby step of sharing online. There are a lot of swinger, etc online groups where you can talk with, flirt with, and share online with, without going all the way. This may be a better step for you two. Your husband sounds like he is aroused by the idea of sharing you - and if you are also into that, this may be something that will scratch that itch. You can have old guys lust after you and give you that ego stroke, he can get turned on by the fact that these guys want you.. And the you two can go screw each other's brains out without risks of STDs or all the unintentional consequences that often come with sharing sexual partners. Bingo! So much debauchery can be found online where you can be as interactive as you want without ever leaving your home Just gotta know where to look. Great way to ease into this sexual genre without risking your relationship or your health. Fetlife would be a good place to wet your whistle. 3 Link to post Share on other sites
road Posted December 14, 2017 Share Posted December 14, 2017 I have seen too many marriages end when they let another man in. What happens and you get a STD that can't be cured? What happens if the OM knocks you up? No form of birth control is 100%. Link to post Share on other sites
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