Manofsteel2621 Posted November 25, 2017 Share Posted November 25, 2017 Ok been thinking about doing this for awhile. Me an my wife watch IR porns together. I've asked her would she like to try something like that. One day she isn't sure the next day she is completely against it. But when we do role playing that is the wettest she gets. She said she would let shane diesel get it if he wouldn't record it. We have been married 10 years she has only ever been with me. Just looking to let her have some fun. So I thought the blindfold route would be best. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
amaysngrace Posted November 25, 2017 Share Posted November 25, 2017 What's IR porn? in your rear? 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Author Manofsteel2621 Posted November 25, 2017 Author Share Posted November 25, 2017 Interracial Link to post Share on other sites
elaine567 Posted November 25, 2017 Share Posted November 25, 2017 What's IR porn? in your rear? I guess IR= interracial porn and "bbc" is a big black c***. So basically she is blindfolded and gets a "surprise entry" from some other guy... Tantamount to rape really as there would be no consent given. I guess she would not appreciate that one bit especially since "One day she isn't sure the next day she is completely against it." I.E. she is telling you NO. Don't do it. Fantasy is fantasy, converting fantasy into real life is often not what it is all about... 6 Link to post Share on other sites
Author Manofsteel2621 Posted November 25, 2017 Author Share Posted November 25, 2017 Thanks. I appreciate the advice. I will definitely listen to it. I didn't think about it like that. Thanks. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
road Posted November 25, 2017 Share Posted November 25, 2017 I have too many marriages end because of this. Also what happens if the wife gets knocked up? It has happened. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
DKT3 Posted November 25, 2017 Share Posted November 25, 2017 Whatever you guys are into is good for you. Just don't allow anyone here to push Thier morals and ideas on you. Saying it rape is ridiculous, but expected from that posters. I think maybe the better way to do would be surprise her with the guy and allow her to proceed as she wants. Yet, I totally agree that introduction of another sexual partner can damage your marriage. Sometimes (most of the time with women) fantasy is best left fantasy. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
basil67 Posted November 25, 2017 Share Posted November 25, 2017 I guess IR= interracial porn and "bbc" is a big black c*** hehe, I thought he was referring to the British Broadcasting Company. I was rather confused about them doing porn. 4 Link to post Share on other sites
road Posted November 26, 2017 Share Posted November 26, 2017 I have too many marriages end because of this. Also what happens if the wife gets knocked up? It has happened. I left out the third word in the post. "seen" As in "I have seen too many marriages end" 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Author Manofsteel2621 Posted November 26, 2017 Author Share Posted November 26, 2017 So it could damage our relationship is what I'm gathering. I see how it could . I just always get mixed signals from her.one day she is like don't talk about it just set it up. An the next she like I don't want to. I just get confused. Link to post Share on other sites
BaileyB Posted November 27, 2017 Share Posted November 27, 2017 So it could damage our relationship is what I'm gathering. I see how it could . I just always get mixed signals from her.one day she is like don't talk about it just set it up. An the next she like I don't want to. I just get confused. If that's the case, you default to "I don't want too..." You need a definite, unequivocal "YES!" to do something like this. And doing it without her consent, is tantamount to rape. If you did that to me, I would serve you with divorce papers before you even showed up at work the next day... 4 Link to post Share on other sites
Cephalopod Posted November 27, 2017 Share Posted November 27, 2017 This is a very dumb idea. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
RecentChange Posted November 27, 2017 Share Posted November 27, 2017 "not sure" and "completely against" are very very very far from YES! This would need a big - yes we have talked about it, we have openly talked about and settled all of our concerns, all doubt is gone, yeah we really want to do this - kinda of yes. Not a "I don't want to but sometimes tell you maybe because you are turned on by it" type of yes. I agree with others, keep it a fantasy if it really does turn her on. Next step would be to start talking about it even more, and maybe looking at "prospects" together. If this is really for her, let her set the pace. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
CautiouslyOptimistic Posted November 27, 2017 Share Posted November 27, 2017 hehe, I thought he was referring to the British Broadcasting Company. I was rather confused about them doing porn. Haha! That's what I thought too . And I have no clue who Shane Diesel is. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
basil67 Posted November 27, 2017 Share Posted November 27, 2017 Haha! That's what I thought too . And I have no clue who Shane Diesel is. Google just informed me he's a black porn star. Link to post Share on other sites
JS84 Posted November 27, 2017 Share Posted November 27, 2017 No idea why some men out there think it's a great idea to let other men **** their wives. Seen this blow up in men's faces more than a handful of times. Sometimes the fantasy is better as fantasy. Leave Pandora's box closed. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
grays Posted November 27, 2017 Share Posted November 27, 2017 I agree that this is a bad idea on several levels. One not mentioned so far is that if she is gonna **** another guy she would probably want it to be a guy *she* likes rather than one picked out for her. Sometimes I wonder if this black guy fantasy is based in part on the idea that black guys are all the same, like interchangable machines, and therefore less threatening. But they really are individuals and your wife may want a guy she actually has some chemistry with. But it sounds to me like she's not pursuing it at all. Link to post Share on other sites
elaine567 Posted November 27, 2017 Share Posted November 27, 2017 No idea why some men out there think it's a great idea to let other men **** their wives. Seen this blow up in men's faces more than a handful of times. Sometimes the fantasy is better as fantasy. Leave Pandora's box closed. I agree, there was a recent thread on here about a woman in an open relationship who is grieving the loss of her other sex partner as her husband just doesn't match up to him. Sounded like a great idea to get some guy who was leaving town to have threesomes with, only he didn't leave, became the husband's boss and the wife started seeing him on her own as he was a fantastic lover and she was perfectly entitled to do that as their marriage was open. Husband shut it down as he did not like the idea of his boss sleeping with his wife, and she is left in turmoil missing her lover and the great sex he provided... Be careful what you wish for 2 Link to post Share on other sites
RecentChange Posted November 27, 2017 Share Posted November 27, 2017 As for the anecdotes... There are many many different ways in which couples have sex, open things up, from one time threesomes, to swinging, to polymory etc. Because one completely different scenarios didn't work for on couple, doesn't mean something else won't work for another. Kinda like saying all marriages are the same, have the same problems and solutions... That said, this sort of stuff can't be taken lightly as there can be real consequences and it takes a high level of openness, communication, trust, and mutual desire to make "unconventional" practices work. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
road Posted November 28, 2017 Share Posted November 28, 2017 "not sure" and "completely against" are very very very far from YES! This would need a big - yes we have talked about it, we have openly talked about and settled all of our concerns, all doubt is gone, yeah we really want to do this - kinda of yes. Not a "I don't want to but sometimes tell you maybe because you are turned on by it" type of yes. I agree with others, keep it a fantasy if it really does turn her on. Next step would be to start talking about it even more, and maybe looking at "prospects" together. If this is really for her, let her set the pace. If not for this sentence I would of hit the like button. This sentence is the worse advice ever. She has shown no real interest. This behavior has ruined so many marriages. The OP can handle the fantasy. So much painful when it becomes reality. Then more pain when then the wife gets a STD, pregnant, she stops having sex with her husband, the marriage ends. Minutes of thrill are not worth the risk of a lifetime of pain and regret. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
road Posted November 28, 2017 Share Posted November 28, 2017 I agree, there was a recent thread on here about a woman in an open relationship who is grieving the loss of her other sex partner as her husband just doesn't match up to him. Sounded like a great idea to get some guy who was leaving town to have threesomes with, only he didn't leave, became the husband's boss and the wife started seeing him on her own as he was a fantastic lover and she was perfectly entitled to do that as their marriage was open. Husband shut it down as he did not like the idea of his boss sleeping with his wife, and she is left in turmoil missing her lover and the great sex he provided... Be careful what you wish for Notice how that women stopped posting here when she was told her husband was right to shut things down. 5 Link to post Share on other sites
Just a Guy Posted November 30, 2017 Share Posted November 30, 2017 Hi Man of steel, I guess you are posting on the wrong web site. The kind of stuff you are contemplating is better addressed on alternative lifestyle web sites. However, what the others have said rings true. What Elaine said is very true. "Be careful what you wish for. It may just come true." With that said your marriage may end in disaster. Warm wishes. Link to post Share on other sites
Cephalopod Posted November 30, 2017 Share Posted November 30, 2017 Dumb idea. Don't do it. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
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