AndyMate30 Posted August 7, 2017 Share Posted August 7, 2017 (edited) Somebody asked me how my marriage is going. I said it's going great, want to know why ? He said, sure... So I said... Number 1. Because I actually love women... I'm not just after some pu$$y with the all day baseball on TV...after I voted for Donald Trump. I voted for Hillary Clinton, in both elections she was in. 2. I actually listen to my wife,and obey her.. You don't need to know our business, but let's just say this much... She's the boss. 3. I'm a grown man... I don't want just play basketball... I want to be here with her, for her... And she's a grown woman and she wants to nurture, love and be a lady and be here for me. 4. Because she knows who I am, she knows I have Asperger, she knows she has to lead, she knows that she's actually rasing me, sort of... And that the most I can do is pay for a highly organized, planned vacation or an outting once in a while and pay a few bills. Edited August 7, 2017 by AndyMate30 Link to post Share on other sites
GorillaTheater Posted August 7, 2017 Share Posted August 7, 2017 If it's working for both of you, I guess that's all that matters. 9 Link to post Share on other sites
mikeylo Posted August 7, 2017 Share Posted August 7, 2017 Everyone should have a relationship what works for them. But only few do that. The society ( friends, family and unsolicited people!)puts a lot of pressure to tell others what to do or how to live. A couple who make their own little world without letting others influence them, are few , as it needs a lot of courage. Whatever works for you , is your world. Live it. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
d0nnivain Posted August 7, 2017 Share Posted August 7, 2017 Shortly after I got married FB became mainstream I got an account. Various people from HS popped up as people I might know & I reconnected with them. I was reading one guy's profile; he & I had stayed friends through professional school & I knew he was a doctor. He had also dated my post-grad roommate so I had a relationship with him as an adult too but I lost contact with him when she broke up with him. . I read through his profile & realized he'd been married for 15+ years. During one of our chats I asked him what his secret to a happy marriage is and he replied: Hire a housekeeper so you are not fighting about whose turn it is to clean & try not to have money problems. Having been married for almost 9 years, I can't say he is wrong. Two years ago my husband was in his city on business. I drove down there & we went out to dinner with him & his wife. It was fun to catch up & I enjoyed meeting their kids. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
BettyDraper Posted August 8, 2017 Share Posted August 8, 2017 Good for you, OP! May your marriage last forever. 3 Link to post Share on other sites
dichotomy Posted August 8, 2017 Share Posted August 8, 2017 (edited) Somebody asked me how my marriage is going. I said it's going great, want to know why ? He said, sure... So I said... Number 1. Because I actually love women... I'm not just after some pu$$y with the all day baseball on TV...after I voted for Donald Trump. I voted for Hillary Clinton, in both elections she was in. 2. I actually listen to my wife,and obey her.. You don't need to know our business, but let's just say this much... She's the boss. 3. I'm a grown man... I don't want just play basketball... I want to be here with her, for her... And she's a grown woman and she wants to nurture, love and be a lady and be here for me. 4. Because she knows who I am, she knows I have Asperger, she knows she has to lead, she knows that she's actually rasing me, sort of... And that the most I can do is pay for a highly organized, planned vacation or an outting once in a while and pay a few bills. Sounds like you both understand the roles and care about doing for each other. Thats what I think is important - knowing each others needs, wants, strengths, weakness and looking out for each other and doing your part in a partnership. Sometimes people conflict over expectations, roles, needs, and wants from each other. Love is as love does - and everyone has a different love language. Edited August 8, 2017 by dichotomy 2 Link to post Share on other sites
wmacbride Posted August 9, 2017 Share Posted August 9, 2017 Glad to hear you are both happy and have found your way. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
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