genwalt Posted November 12, 2015 Share Posted November 12, 2015 (edited) My partner cheated on me and the sad thing was with an escort model. Why most men love female escorts? What will you do if you're in my situation? Edited November 12, 2015 by a LoveShack.org Moderator Removed name of escort agency ~6 Link to post Share on other sites
dreamingoftigers Posted November 12, 2015 Share Posted November 12, 2015 (edited) My partner cheated on me and the sad thing was with an escort model. Why most men love female escorts? What will you do if you're in my situation? So sorry that this happened to you. You are probably in shock and its very painful. Dump him faster than you can retype that post. A guy that does this offers very little and zero stability or security. Not to mention your STD risk. Get tested. Don't listen to his lying, whining or blaming you. A good partner will NEVER run off to screw an escort. Edited November 12, 2015 by a LoveShack.org Moderator Removed name of escort agency ~6 2 Link to post Share on other sites
sandylee1 Posted November 12, 2015 Share Posted November 12, 2015 Sorry this has happened to you. How long have you been married? Any kids? How did you find out? Has he apologised? How many times did he go there? What has he said since you discovered this? Link to post Share on other sites
dichotomy Posted November 12, 2015 Share Posted November 12, 2015 My partner cheated on me and the sad thing was with an escort model. Why most men love female escorts? What will you do if you're in my situation? love? oh I dont think love had anything to do with it. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
qubist Posted November 12, 2015 Share Posted November 12, 2015 l. Why most men love female escorts? I don't think it was love, it is most likely lust. Most men( don't want to say all100% of us) will be attracted to female model, it is just who we are. But the the level of the lust after that atraction differ from one person to on other based on many factors. Link to post Share on other sites
lollipopspot Posted November 12, 2015 Share Posted November 12, 2015 I'd leave. I'm someone who might forgive a short affair, depending on the circumstances. But actively going out to cheat with a sex worker is a hard line for me. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
SmartDude Posted November 12, 2015 Share Posted November 12, 2015 My partner cheated on me and the sad thing was with an escort model. Why most men love female escorts? What will you do if you're in my situation? I am not sure women can ever understand why men would visit escorts. Try to explain to a female that you love her and that your feelings for her have not changed..That you only wanted a little bit of variety by having sex with another woman. See what I mean? It will never work! There is no way most women can truly understand a man's primordial desire for recreational sex. Ask your partner if he is ok with you sleeping with another man so that you may also indulge in some recreational sex. If he says he is not ok with that then he is not being fair. Link to post Share on other sites
Author genwalt Posted November 15, 2015 Author Share Posted November 15, 2015 So sorry that this happened to you. You are probably in shock and its very painful. Dump him faster than you can retype that post. A guy that does this offers very little and zero stability or security. Not to mention your STD risk. Get tested. Don't listen to his lying, whining or blaming you. A good partner will NEVER run off to screw an escort. Thanks for your advice! It's really painful.. I am actually thinking of leaving, but it's hard for me to leave him just like that because I really love him.. Link to post Share on other sites
Author genwalt Posted November 15, 2015 Author Share Posted November 15, 2015 (edited) Sorry this has happened to you. How long have you been married? Any kids? How did you find out? Has he apologised? How many times did he go there? What has he said since you discovered this? We've been married for almost 6 years now and yes, we have 2 kids. I found out when I opened up his laptop and maybe he forgot to close the escort site. Yes, he apologized. He said he only did it once.. Edited November 15, 2015 by genwalt Link to post Share on other sites
sandylee1 Posted November 15, 2015 Share Posted November 15, 2015 We've been married for almost 6 years now and yes, we have 2 kids. I found out when I opened up his laptop and maybe he forgot to close the escort site. Yes, he apologized. He said he only did it once.. Just once? I'm not sure I'd believe that... What's happening now? Are you trying to reconcile? How will he gain your trust back? 1 Link to post Share on other sites
dreamingoftigers Posted November 15, 2015 Share Posted November 15, 2015 We've been married for almost 6 years now and yes, we have 2 kids. I found out when I opened up his laptop and maybe he forgot to close the escort site. Yes, he apologized. He said he only did it once.. Bullshirt! What are the odds he did it one time and you caught him just that one time. Seriously think about that. I hope you get tested for STDs. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
No Limit Posted November 16, 2015 Share Posted November 16, 2015 He said he only did it once.. No, he definitely didn't. Most likely he's been trying out a few escorts every once in a while. Chances are he's a crossed a line he also won't want to come back from. Are you financially dependant on him? Link to post Share on other sites
Friskyone4u Posted November 17, 2015 Share Posted November 17, 2015 No one knows, nor do you at this point, if it was a one time thing of a regular thing. So all of this is speculative. i would concentrate less on who the infidelity occurred with, and more on if you think it is a deal breaker for you and why. do you really think you would feel better about it if he screwed one of your neighbors and paid a couple of hundred dollars for a nice hotel room.?? This compulsion to obsess on escorts is not helpful. Quite honestly, if he paid a high priced escort, the chances are more likely they had protected sex than if he picked up a woman at a bar at happy hour. Sometimes i get perplexed at how many advocate immediate divorce when a guy cheats with an escort but not the same immediate rush to action when a wife bangs multiple OM. You need more facts to make a decision and so far you are getting only speculation on what he did. Link to post Share on other sites
dreamingoftigers Posted November 17, 2015 Share Posted November 17, 2015 Actually, practically everyone rushes to divorce then too. And seriously, paying for sex is absolutely repugnant. No one cares how "classy" the escort was. I can't believe that term is even applied to the sale of vagina. Link to post Share on other sites
Gemma1 Posted November 19, 2015 Share Posted November 19, 2015 I am not sure women can ever understand why men would visit escorts. Try to explain to a female that you love her and that your feelings for her have not changed..That you only wanted a little bit of variety by having sex with another woman. See what I mean? It will never work! There is no way most women can truly understand a man's primordial desire for recreational sex. My husband visits brothels on the reg. His job requires him to travel about 30% of the year. Sometimes I go with him, sometimes I dont. When I don't, he will often go to prostitues if he's in an area where there are good brothels (recently it was Germany, sometimes Amsterdam, Nevada, etc.) I don't mind, I understand it's just for something new. Sometimes I even help him find places with the best reviews. Haha. And we always talk about it afterwards, about what it was like, the other patrons, the girls, whatever. I realize that him having sex with someone else has literally nothing to do with me and I just don't feel the need to restrain him in that way. But that being said, I would still be pissed if I were you, OP. You don't have an arrangement so I understand your anger - this is cheating, plain and simple. I would try to realize that it really doesn't have anything to do with you (in the sense that he probably didn't do it because of something lacking with you). He, selfishly, was just having fun. Some of the most amazing, kind hearted men that I know use prostitues occasionally. Sleeping with an escort doesn't necessarily mean that he's immoral or that he has something wrong with him. It's the cheating that makes him immoral. Now you just have to decide if you can forgive him or not. I would completely understand if not. Link to post Share on other sites
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