rubirosa Posted January 4, 2013 Share Posted January 4, 2013 I've been with my wife for 11 years and we've been married for 4. About 4 years into our relationship I started going to massage parlors and visiting escorts. I also occasionally search the casual sex ads on dating websites to see if there are any women in the area looking for a FWB type arrangement. I love my wife and I'm not sure why I do these things that make me dislike myself. Link to post Share on other sites
sweetkiwi Posted January 4, 2013 Share Posted January 4, 2013 Well you cant stop. You're having unsafe encounters. Are you at least using condoms? During oral as well? IME true sex addicts do NOT use protection. It is a compulsion coupled with obsession. You need to research sex addiction groups in your area. But SA is a serious program. Don't go into it half heartedly. And tell your wife. The whole truth. Then its up to her what she wants. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
richardd2805 Posted February 8, 2013 Share Posted February 8, 2013 I understand the pain and difficulty that you feel in this situation. It's up to you to decided if you want to tell your wife or not, but one thing you may want to think about is how will she feel if she finds out about this another way? I would strongly urge you to consider therapy or attend some groups on the subject. Sex addiction is something that people are starting to become more aware off, which is good because it means that there is more help becoming available. Link to post Share on other sites
Doitright Posted February 8, 2013 Share Posted February 8, 2013 Do you know why you feel so strongly compelled to do these things? Does your wife satisfy you in bed? Is the frequency there? Or, is it more about the excitement of being with someone new? I am very interested in your post because of my own personal situation. Link to post Share on other sites
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