sunnylu, I think that this is actually a very common problem. Have you tried googling "bored with my husband"? You might be surprised with what you find.
Being bored in a long-term relationship usually means that you're not being continuously challenged and that the novelty has worn out. So, why is your husband boring? Because we, humans, continuously need a challenge, we need to learn something continuously to feel the pleasure of life. It seems to me that your husband is too nice of a guy. He's not cheating on you, he's not creating thrills for you, he's not playing mind-games with you and you're bored because he's just content with being with you at home
. What I am trying to say is that a relationship which is too safe and too serene might feel boring.
Now, you're taking the right steps about it. What you need to do is have a transparent and honest talk about this with your husband. Your husband does not understand that he needs to work on himself and his hobbies to keep people constantly interested in him. Oftentimes, people engage in many activities in order to attract others but once they are married and are not looking for anyone else, they get too comfortable. well, he needs to understand that he needs to be interesting for YOU and for himself. Another thing you are doing right is challenging him. I have come to believe that the people that are being constantly challenged might complain about this but you know what? Men also love challenging women
. So, don't worry if he complains about it. He will eventually enjoy the different things that he's doing with you.
Third thing you need to do is work on yourself. Don't give up everything you want to do because he does not want to do anything else but sit on the couch. Learn and grow for yourself, otherwise you will be unhappy and you will feel trapped. It's always better to feel that you have all the time and energy to do what you like and become what you want to become than use a lame excuse that you give up on yourself because of your husband. Unless he's aggressive and abusive (which he does not seem to be) he's not your excuse for your not doing the things you love, even if this means doing them alone or with your friends.