misspatience Posted February 28, 2015 Share Posted February 28, 2015 When my partner and have a bit of banter, he often tells me jokingly I nag so much about how he 'should' be treating me, I ought to write a Manual for him. To his surprise one day I decided to actually do it, I thought if he's asking for it he can have it lol! I am actually sick of nagging at him and I know he is tired of hearing it, and to make it worse we are thousands of miles apart! I thought to myself if I can try and make him understand where I am coming from without sounding like I'm getting at him, he may receive it differently and their could potentially be a change. I do love my man to pieces so I really am trying to make it work. I'll post it and if its helpful to anybody, your welcome:) its worked for me anyway! 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Author misspatience Posted February 28, 2015 Author Share Posted February 28, 2015 Your guide for knowing how to treat your woman right Nobody wants to hear constant nagging, especially when it can cause stress through the whole body! Have you ever wondered what it would be like to have a conversation your woman without her going on and on about the same ol' thing over and over again? Are you sick of having to listen to her continually moan at you for things that you are NOT doing. Are you feeling like just listening to her is an effort? If this sounds like you then here are a few helpful tips that should help you understand your woman a little better and then hopefully in turn you will be able to treat her like the princess she really is! The first thing to remember, every woman has different needs, wants and wishes which they require from their man. ( if she is requesting something from you, don't assume its because she has heard it from her friends or read it in a book) she genuinely does have needs believe it or not! • Every woman (in particular me) loves to communicate. It is vital for a partnership to be successful. Miscommunication can lead to two individuals being on separate pages, different levels,it is important that you are clear about your feelings and your thoughts, if you wasn't this could cause misunderstandings, confusion an people end up getting hurt. There could be times when you're going through your trials and tribulations and she might not have a clue, she could be making things worse and not be aware she is doing it. You may not be the talking type, but researchers have found that being able to talk about your problems—even ordinary stresses and strains with your partner can help protect your relationship. • Be direct, don't beat around the bush The worst thing you can do in a relationship is play mind games. Be straight, there's nothing more confusing and tiring than trying to figure out what someone is trying to put out there, dropping hints may not work because if you are on two separate pages the other person may not catch on to what your trying to say. It links back to good communication . Let your yes mean yes and your no mean no, say what you mean and mean what you say. ( we know life happens but if you try and stick to it, it will then become easier for it to turn into reality) • Remember honesty is the best policy. A solid foundation cannot be built on lies and what is done in the dark will always be revealed in the light. To avoid drama always tell the truth, it can never come back and catch you out. As my grandma used to say, the truth may offend but it is not a sin. • Your lady may appreciate and accept that you are not the soppy and affectionate type Just as she has accepted this, you must acknowledge that she is completely opposite, she's still a human, a woman, who has needs that are different from your own. Although emotional stuff may not be set as a high importance to you, it is for your woman, Small nice gestures now and again wouldn't gounnoticed or unappreciated! • Consideration is key. There is thousands of miles of distance between you both. You may feel like your woman is being unreasonable at times in those circumstances try and put yourself in her shoes before becoming ignorant to the situation. She misses you soo much. She may not be being nosey or idol. She may be trying to get a true sense of the right now, so she can feel a little closer to you. It may sound crazy but its her way and if it helps why not? When you ending a conversation why not give her something to look forward to or put a smile on her face. • Make an effort, be consistent. This will show your woman you care. To ensure your lady feels confident in you and in your relationship you have to do things which you may not have to do if you were single. Its just the way it is, if you really love her though its worth it. Give her your time and show you are interested. Be consistent this will end paranoia and avoid questions that annoy you and get you stressed out. • Respect and manners are crucial. You may be older and and think yourself a little wiser than your lady but that doesn't mean she doesn't have anything to offer. You may feel like you have the handle and be confident your woman is not going anywhere. You should respect and appreciate that knowledge and not abuse it. Everybody has different tolerance levels and you will never know when an individual has reached their limit until they have, nurture and cherish it and who knows what will happen.• Make her feel special and Important. Your woman doesn't want to know or feel like you class her or look at her the same as everybody else. It won't make her feel good when you generalise her with the rest of society. How is she suppose to feel confident that you are not going anywhere when you see her the same as everyone else! She is yours, she belongs to you, your friends don't the rest of the world doesn't , but she does, make her see and feel that way. If you follow these few tips you are guaranteed to relieve the sound of nagging voices whilst also making your woman extremely happy! Part two will follow when you are home. Wrote lovingly by your future wife Xxxxxx 1 Link to post Share on other sites
ExpatInItaly Posted February 28, 2015 Share Posted February 28, 2015 I generally agree with the points you've raised. Nothing unreasonable in what you want. How long have you been together? How long have you been long-distance? However, if you don't see changes after he's had a chance to read this, I would definitely re-consider the "future wife" part. Link to post Share on other sites
CrystalShine2011 Posted March 1, 2015 Share Posted March 1, 2015 Ha! That is great. Good for you. Link to post Share on other sites
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