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Hello i am a 21 year old guy from The Netherlands

who has fallen in love with a 22 year old korean girl

who i met online

The time difference is 8 hours

 

We both know we like each other simply because we both said

we met about 6 months ago and have been talking almost everyday

now she is very carefull about this because we only met online so far and videochat

but i will visit her this July

 

i have fallen madly in love with this girl and she does everything to make me feel comfortable because she knows i worry alot about things

but still i have this bad habit of making myself go crazy about very little things

 

i am very insecure and i don't know what to do

also there is the huge cultural difference

she takes it very slowly

because she has been in a bad relationship and has problems opening up to a boy she likes because she is scared of getting hurt

 

i really don't know what to do but i have a hard time

when she is not around

 

i hope you people can give me some help in how to deal with this kind of situation

 

Thanks for reading:laugh:

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I'll check in as the third Dutch speaker, small world I guess. I'll keep it English though:

I'm not really a fan of getting in a relationship when you haven't already figured your own stuff out, at least for the most part. I mean, let's say uin your case. You are very insecure. If you were more secure, would you still be as head over heels with this girl as you are now? Also, your insecurities will drag your SO down as well, which is why I believe you should always try to fix yourself as much as possible before getting it on with someone.

 

Anyways, more to what you're asking:

What exactly are you insecure about? Are you two in a relationship? And do both of you know that?

 

Oh, and use dots and capitals please, it helps my eyes.

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haha I will try my interpunction is not the best there is.

 

Ooh i know for sure i would be in love with her no matter whether i feel insecure or not.

in normal life i am not so insecure

But since i like this girl and being in this relationship if feel insecure about myself

I don't consider myself good enough for this girl.

so i am affraid i will lose her to the first boy that is slightly better then me.

even the smallest things make me think about it and feel insecure again.

I know its ridiculous but i keep getting these kind of things in my head

when something happens that is not how it normally goes.

so its also my negative thinking that makes me feel so insecure

but i can't find the off switch for my thinking.

 

I really like this girl and i need to be less insecure.

because i know if i stay like this i will definitely lose her.

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