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Old 12th January 2006, 6:14 PM   #1
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My girlfriend is a whore?

Okay, I met my girlfriend on her 19th birthday. From the time she started college, until the time she met me, there was an 8 month span. In that 8 months, she claims to have slept with 9 guys. To me, that's a lot of damn guys in a 8 month period. She claims to have been depressed because she was so far away from home, and she wanted to fit in, etc etc.

Anyway, I've been with more people than her overall, not by much, but still more people, but I'm 4 years older than her!!!! I'm kind of hung up on this span of averaging more than one guy per month her first year in college.

Also, she tells me that this one guy was amazing in bed, but claims that "I am better". We've all heard the "your the best" line, but I don't believe it. I hold my own, but I make no claims to being a super-stud in the sack.

These two aspects of not being the best, and her very slutty past really bother me. We've been together for 7+ months.

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Old 12th January 2006, 9:00 PM   #2
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yeah 9 guys in an 8 month span is kind of a lot but it's not something to call her a whore over.

my cousin is dating a guy whose slept with about 51 people he admits! and he is 23!

but dont judge her over that, my boyfriend now says hes been with 20 something people and i've always said eww you're gross and what not because he was always the type of guy who was in relationships, and i couldn't figure out in the span of time where he had the chance to sleep with all these girls. he said in between breakups he'd sleep with like 3 girls a month (probably more though i think haha)..but i dunno it think it's gross but what can ya do..

everyone (mostly) goes through their little "i can get whatever i want" stages..it just depends or not if they're over it..hopefully she is especially if you've been together for what over a half a year..

and if she says you're the best..i'd believe her. a while back my boyfriend asked me out of what guys i said was best even though he didn't know them. i gave him the name and he will always say so-and-so is better than me when i tell him that HE is the best. especially if you're feelings continue grow..nothing can beat that type of sex
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Old 12th January 2006, 9:05 PM   #3
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Also, she tells me that this one guy was amazing in bed, but claims that "I am better". We've all heard the "your the best" line, but I don't believe it.


She shouldn't have told you that one guy was amazing in bed. If you don't believe that you're better than that one guy, though, you're probably right. But what's she supposed to say?

My advice is to leave her. She deserves someone without an inadequacy complex, and someone who won't judge her based on her past.
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Old 12th January 2006, 9:09 PM   #4
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You have no right judging your gf when you are the one that has been with more !! How come if a girl has been with alot of guys they are whores but when a guy is a man whore it is ok? People that live in glass house shouldn't throw stones!!!!!
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Old 12th January 2006, 9:13 PM   #5
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These two aspects of not being the best, and her very slutty past really bother me. We've been together for 7+ months.

Any advice?
It is not your business for either of you to JUDGE either on how many people each of you have slept with. It doesn't matter how old you are compared to her. She gave you her reason and still, you've judged her.

This is why bringing up sexual past isn't the greatest subject. I feel, if you ask, BE PREPARED for an answer you don't want to hear. And then deal with it.

DO you like her? Does this affect the relationship now? If so, end it with her NOW and let her find a guy who won't care either way about her sexual past.

We all have sexual pasts...And honestly, unless she is full of STD's (which I doubt) then don't worry about it.
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Old 12th January 2006, 9:18 PM   #6
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Hey man, what gives you the right to call a woman a whore?

Get your head screwed on right here, she was honest. Get over yourself.

What do you want her to do lie?

Would you happy if she lied?

Come on man, drop the double standards, even if she had slept with 500 guys she is still who she is.....

Sheesh, I get so p1ssed off by this kind of rubbish.
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Old 12th January 2006, 10:14 PM   #7
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It isn't about her sexual history or the comments she probably should have kept to herself.

If you can't accept who she is now, you shouldn't be dating her.
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Personally this number would bother me a lot.. But that's just me. It's definately not sexy to think my girlfriend has been pounded by THAT many guys in that time frame. And, that number is probablly higher, I'm sure that is a scaled down number.

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YOu know guys, masterbation gets the job done to:-/
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Old 12th January 2006, 11:00 PM   #10
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The first bit of advice I think you should get is " Stop calling your girlfriend a whore " what is wrong with you ? this is someone your have feelings for..

The other bit is your the pot calling the kettle black.. WTF ????
You number is higher.. so what the time frame is different.. if you guys go married today your number would still be higher..
Maybe your the slut..

Grow up some.. show some respect for your girl and forget about it.. it is nothing
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Old 12th January 2006, 11:10 PM   #11
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YOu know guys, masterbation gets the job done to:-/
"Hey. Blanks get the job done, too."

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Old 13th January 2006, 3:19 AM   #12
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What a ****tard!

How does the number of people she's slept with change who she is? Are you dating an individual or a number?

Do you like her as a person? Do you know she is free of diseases? Are you confident she won't cheat on you? Do you enjoy your time with her? If you answered yes to all of the above questions, then it means her so-called promiscuity obviously has not affected anything, and you're being a fool for letting something so meaningless as a NUMBER get in the way of your happiness. So she likes sex. That's a good thing. So she got plenty of it while she was single. She's with YOU now, for a fairly long time, and presumably has been faithful, so what the hell is the problem?

Some people attach importance to the most ridiculous things. I think you don't really know what you should be looking for in a woman.

And stop disrespecting women. You have absolutely no right.

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Old 13th January 2006, 3:49 AM   #13
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And, that number is probably higher, I'm sure that is a scaled down number.
Yeah, I'm pretty sure too. Sounds like she was trying to keep it in the single digits, so she went with the highest single-digit number in order to be as close to the truth as possible. Keep a relatively clean conscience and whatnot.

But with a guy this judgmental, who can blame her? I'd have lied too! Wait, scratch that, I'd never have gotten involved with him in the first place. I'd want a real relationship, not one based on shallow crap like that.

His irrational hatred of his girlfriend for her sexual past eclipses anything he might like/love about her. Notice in his entire post he did not mention a single positive trait of hers, or acknowledge any emotion or care for her. He doesn't like her! Why is he with her at all? Sounds like just the kind of empty relationship that high-schoolers would engage in. What a waste of time.

I say leave her, quick. Don't waste your time and hers. Go find someone you actually love.
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Old 13th January 2006, 7:35 AM   #14
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This laddie seems very threatened by the thought of a woman knowing what she wants and getting it, and probably he's just frightened to be really a bad number in her bed - and the way he sounds, he is.
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Old 13th January 2006, 10:23 AM   #15
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Why is everyone getting on this guy? His biggest mistake was probably labeling this girl a whore, Cuz this is in no way the first topic,male or female. where someone is upset about their SO's number. I mean, I see people saying he hates her and is incredibly judgemental, you got all that from his post? Jeez

To answer the OP's question? 9 guys in 9 months? err, to answer your question? Yes. I think thats pretty skanky, no offense to any ladies out there. She was riding a different guy every month, thats a nasty ass thought and I wouldnt be too pleased to hear some girl I was with did it either. It also tells you a bit about her sexual behavior, she has a habit of going out and sleeping with guys, this mean if she's ever hanging out somewhere without you, the chances of her picking up some dude are increased, this is only a logical conclusion judging from her past. Also, the fact that she blames it on being depressed and wanting to fit in is a bad sign too. Umm, what if you guys have a fight and she gets upset? or shes feeling insecure one day, is she gonna go hump some guy? These are real issues, and they were created by her scandalous behavior. Also, why is everyone bringing up the fact that she was honest? Why do people get points now for just being decent to people? Being honest doesnt take away from the issue at hand.

And also, he said his number was higher, but not by much. Combine this with the fact that he's 4 years holder? and it isnt that big a deal. He said she was 19, so he must be mid 20's, at best he's been sexual since probably age 16-18, and she almost matches this 5-10 years of sexual partners in 9 months? Yeah, I'd be disturbed too

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