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Cheating, Flirting, and Jealousy Being unfaithful to your significant other or suspect them of the same? Can't stand the way they flirt? Jealous? Discuss your experiences here.

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Old 13th December 2017, 9:08 PM   #16
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you should talk to him..its the right thing to do..he might not even be aware...communication is key ...if things don't change after speaking to him....that's when you need to reassess his commitment to you...deb
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Old 13th December 2017, 9:08 PM   #17
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Oh so this is an old friend of his. I thought this was one of the new girls at the gym. Well if it doesn't bother you why did you bother posting about it?
No, I thought I said so in my first post.
And it bothered me a bit. I don't need to explain why I post things when it bothers me for days.
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Old 13th December 2017, 9:09 PM   #18
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you should talk to him..its the right thing to do..he might not even be aware...communication is key ...if things don't change after speaking to him....that's when you need to reassess his commitment to you...deb
Thank you for your reply! I talked to him about it and it's okay now. Not 100% reassured but hey...
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Old 13th December 2017, 9:45 PM   #19
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It bothered me a bit. I told him I didn't like it but he can have female friends, especially when he knew them before he even knew me. I can't expect nor ask him to ditch all his female friends because he's in a relationship, I don't ditch my male friends either. He texted her because she texted him first and he didn't see any harm in replying since she's in a difficult situation now.
So him having female friends is really no different to you having male friends. He probably doesn't see it as any different either.

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Thank you for your reply! I talked to him about it and it's okay now. Not 100% reassured but hey...
I'm glad you had a chat about it and everything seems fine! It will still feel a little off, this is the sort of thing where time will tell.
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Old 13th December 2017, 9:52 PM   #20
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Thank you for your reply! I talked to him about it and it's okay now. Not 100% reassured but hey...
might take a little time for you to feel sure....actions do speak louder than words....and thats when you will be sure...when his actions match what he says...and i hope they do for you.....best wishes.....deb
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Old 14th December 2017, 12:56 AM   #21
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I was in a similar situation with my husband, he was constantly ringing his son's girlfriend's mother who was a single lady and it really irritated me. I met her at the same time as him.


The final straw came when he invited her over to my house while I was at work (nothing happened as my son was home and I asked him to keep an eye on both of them) after that episode I told him to chose who he wanted as I wasn't going to put up with it and felt disrespected.


Other people had noticed their strange friendship and started mentioning it to me as well. He apologised and reassured me that he only cares about me and actually started treating her pretty poorly for a while there, they're still in contact as they have a mutual grandson, but the regular calls for very no good reason have stopped and he's completely dedicated to me.


As the others have said time will tell, actions speak louder than words. I hope your partner stops his behaviour too after your talk. Wishing you well.
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Old 14th December 2017, 10:57 AM   #22
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No, I thought I said so in my first post.
And it bothered me a bit. I don't need to explain why I post things when it bothers me for days.
I thought you said it didn't bother you. I'm confused.
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Old 15th December 2017, 3:27 AM   #23
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puh-lease.

There have been studies done that say if a man even TALKS to a woman, it means he's attracted to her. I tend to believe it. Try getting a mere grunt out of a man, letting alone one who initiates text chats and conversations... unless he's thinking sex when he looks at you. That just doesn't happen.

Op, he's already cheating... he has the hots for this girl, and just because he told you he was texting with her "when you were out" (let's not forget that little morsel, he waited until you left and not around to be privy to what they were saying) it only means he's playing it clever, keeping his butt out of hot water and you safely on the hook until he can nab this girl.

Sorry, but I'm sure in your heart you know this.
Hate men much do you. This is so untrue I am actually laughing my azz off. You actually believe if a guy talks to a girl it means he wants to have sex with her?
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Old 15th December 2017, 3:36 AM   #24
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It bothered me a bit. I told him I didn't like it but he can have female friends, especially when he knew them before he even knew me. I can't expect nor ask him to ditch all his female friends because he's in a relationship, I don't ditch my male friends either. He texted her because she texted him first and he didn't see any harm in replying since she's in a difficult situation now.
Hereís the thing CM, he has known these girls longer yes. But he is with you, he could have chosen to be with them before he even met you. He didnít.

Does he ever question you when you go out with your friends?

Also quality time is just time spent together focusing on one another. Doesnít matter where.
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Old 19th December 2017, 11:53 AM   #25
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I am a guy who can get jealous. Do you think he does it to "get even"? . Maybe he is jealous or possessive about you. You went out one night to have fun without him. He might not like that. Maybe to make a point and he wanted to make you jealous intentionally. Just a thought.
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