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Cheating, Flirting, and Jealousy Being unfaithful to your significant other or suspect them of the same? Can't stand the way they flirt? Jealous? Discuss your experiences here.

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Old 8th November 2017, 8:49 AM   #16
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I havent mention she has a horrible past, lost her dad at a young age, spent most part of her adolescence taking drugs and on clinics to get healed of her addiction. But she is very clever and refined, has lot of culture and passion. True she has a very dark sexual past too, to be euphemistic about it..
Actually she has very few friends and i think her only support now are her sisters and mother
So what?

Many of us have dark pasts. By the time I as 22 years old, I'd been in jail multiple times, been shot and stabbed, and had shot one person myself.

Yet all of that never made me stick my dick in somebody else when I was dating someone.

I was pretty much the poster boy for violent behavior, but at least I never cheated on anybody. I wonder if that was something The Joker could have hung his hat on....

Boo effing hoo. Delete this chick from your life and if she shows up at your doorstep again have her removed by the cops.


Give her an opening, and she is gonna follow you around like a fart in a windstorm.
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Old 8th November 2017, 11:32 AM   #17
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She is lying...

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Thanks for your insight. She is 22. She didnt go at his place on a night, she went there at an afternoon. Maybe i should have mentionned it. But on the counterpart, she didnt mentioned me to him, letting him think she was single, and it was her that took contact with him. Looked like to me she knew him from her past in clinic and was not totally over. I asked her be honest about what happened and she said she has never cheated.
Now she went NC till yesterday night. if she struggle more, maybe i'll give it a second chance.
If you give her another chance you will regret it.

The other thing you should know is that addicts are never healed. They may get sober but they are never ever healed.

Further, how big a deal do you think it would be for a woman (girl really) who has a dark sexual and drug past to have sex with her ex and lie to you about it? Answer, not very hard.

She just thought you would not find out and if you did she thought that you would be too weak to break up with her.

She is not worth it, you cannot save her and it is not worth the trouble...
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Old 9th November 2017, 12:59 PM   #18
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If you give her another chance you will regret it.

The other thing you should know is that addicts are never healed. They may get sober but they are never ever healed.
Agree 100 percent.

I have been clean and sober for almost 25 years now. Most people would say "Wow, really? So you must be cured".

BP, you are so right. I will always be an alcoholic and an addict.

To this day I always have to be cognizant of my surroundings. It is very hard for people who struggle with it to come around the the notion that we are one bad day away from disaster. I dabbled with that for a couple of years until I got sick of saying I was gong to have 1 drink with my friends and the next thing I knew it was 2 days later and I was broke, drunk and higher than a kite. I will always be on the precipice of it. I had to learn a whole new set of coping skills that didn't involve, drugs, drink, or violence.
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What was her reasoning for going there and if it was innocent like she said, then why did she have to lie about it?
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