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Old 1st February 2017, 5:28 AM   #1
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Does anyone have any statistics on how common cheating really occurs?

If so I would love to see it.
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Old 1st February 2017, 6:20 AM   #2
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Kinsey Institute - Kinsey Report

Married males 50 percent, females 26 percent by age 40.

This is still considered the best survey in this area, however, we don't know if the numbers have changed over time, and since it's self-report we aren't sure how much societal expectation shaped the responses. Females may tend to underreport more often.
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Old 1st February 2017, 7:36 AM   #3
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OP, I very much doubt you are going to find reliable, objective and up-to-date statistics on cheating.
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Old 1st February 2017, 8:55 AM   #4
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It's somewhere between 0 and 100%.
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Old 1st February 2017, 10:03 AM   #5
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OP, while surveys are nice for publishing in research papers and curriculum required projects, in the real world, with billions of people who are all autonomous beings with their own mind, psychology and bias, IMO there will never be any factually accurate statistics on cheating.

However, I'll give you my biased opinion. I think, when it comes time to die, while it may not matter at all, everyone has cheated at least once. We may not think we have cheated, we may not remember we have cheated, but we have, even if we've never been married, looking at the cold reality of our lifetime of behaviors, from birth to death, something few if any of us will ever do.

This only pertains to interpersonal social interactions, not in general. In general, people lie and cheat whenever it benefits them to the extent that benefit supersedes their boundaries, and then rationalize it away.

Example : 'Prove it'

There's the challenge of compiling cheating statistics. People are interesting that way.
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Old 1st February 2017, 10:05 AM   #6
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Why are you asking?
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Old 1st February 2017, 2:20 PM   #7
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Infidelity Statistics – Statistic Brain

This is more recent and taken from Pew Centre research which is generally well respected.

57% of men and 54% of women admit to being unfaithful in at least one of their relationships...

So, yeah, cheaters are more common than non-cheaters..
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Old 1st February 2017, 2:26 PM   #8
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This article was interesting - I do take the results with a grain of salt, as they say. Still ....


Most people never get caught (especially true of women). Given how many are caught, that gives some idea of how many others are cheating.


Almost all women who cheat never get caught by their partners.... but a fifth of men DO get found out | Daily Mail Online


This one is also enlightening:


https://www.truthaboutdeception.com/...nfidelity.html

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OP, I very much doubt you are going to find reliable, objective and up-to-date statistics on cheating.
I figured as much honestly.
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Old 1st February 2017, 10:37 PM   #10
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That last big survey done, which appeared in Cosmo and in many news media all over the country, showed that 50-60% or women and 70% of men cheat with the women closing the gap each year. This was a few years ago but it sounds about right from my experience with friends and co-workers. I often think that when couples take the vow of fidelity it is with a wink and a nod.
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Why are you asking?
I've always just had a general curiosity for things and apparently people seem to have a hard time understanding that.
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Old 2nd February 2017, 1:26 AM   #12
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Kinsey Institute - Kinsey Report

Married males 50 percent, females 26 percent by age 40.

This is still considered the best survey in this area, however, we don't know if the numbers have changed over time, and since it's self-report we aren't sure how much societal expectation shaped the responses. Females may tend to underreport more often.
This has been proven

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When studies about sexual partners or fidelity use a mixture of face-to-face interviews and anonymous computer questionnaires, men will give the same answers to both, but women will report much higher numbers when the answers are anonymous.
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Old 8th February 2017, 11:49 PM   #13
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The Kinsey report was quite some time ago. Just a hunch, but those numbers have definitely gone up, not down, since then.
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Old 9th February 2017, 1:23 AM   #14
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OP, while surveys are nice for publishing in research papers and curriculum required projects, in the real world, with billions of people who are all autonomous beings with their own mind, psychology and bias, IMO there will never be any factually accurate statistics on cheating.

However, I'll give you my biased opinion. I think, when it comes time to die, while it may not matter at all, everyone has cheated at least once. We may not think we have cheated, we may not remember we have cheated, but we have, even if we've never been married, looking at the cold reality of our lifetime of behaviors, from birth to death, something few if any of us will ever do.

This only pertains to interpersonal social interactions, not in general. In general, people lie and cheat whenever it benefits them to the extent that benefit supersedes their boundaries, and then rationalize it away.

Example : 'Prove it'

There's the challenge of compiling cheating statistics. People are interesting that way.
So wait. You're telling me that you think that everyone has cheated in some point in life? Sorry mate but that's not true...unless I'm reading you wrong?
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Old 10th February 2017, 4:16 PM   #15
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The Kinsey report was quite some time ago. Just a hunch, but those numbers have definitely gone up, not down, since then.
The number of cheaters, or the number of people who admit it?

Or both?
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