Originally Posted by jeremyhoward
One of her girlfriends told me she claimed she wanted stability and to eventually get married and live "happily ever after". So I dont know why she would blow this opportunity to do that? Unless she's a drama-magnet and she just has to create some kind of drama? Ill admit, she does have alot of drama in her life. She comes from a broken home and she's had a rough life
That's the thing...
Her GIRLFRIEND told you that..she didn't.
All people like to say that type of stuff that they want the American Dream of the White Picket Fence and the Nuclear Family. It rarely happens.
Because that Traditional American Dream of The White Picket Fence and the Nuclear Family and all the stability that comes with it is BORING for most young people. They see it as a waste of time and energy.
And that is what is exactly going to happen with this girl. You will eventually be too boring to waste much time on for more than a fleeting moment in her eyes.
Coming from a broken home or having a bad upbringing has nothing to do with it. I had one of the worst upbringings you can imagine on the South Side of Chicago. I never cheated on a girl or even thought about it. That environment excuse is just that, an excuse.
It is all about choices.
Again, you provide stability emotionally for her for awhile, until you begin to bore her. It is much like the Binge Drinker who gets plastered one time too many and decides to go home for a few days and dry out. Life seems a lot better because the Binger has mom and dad to make food for them and do their laundry and it's ok for a few days until they realize that sticking around teh house is going to be not much more than that. it becomes boring pretty fast and the Drinker will feel obligated to go out on Friday Night and see his friends. Then it's Lather, Rinse , Repeat.
The analogy I just gave you is pretty much your girlfriend in a nutshell.
She will behave with you until she gets bored with your validation and needs it, even for one night, from someone who is not you.. Then she will claim that it is a turnoff and go bang some bad boy. Then she will feel bad about it and come back to you and make it a big secret between the girlfriends that covered for her until she runs afoul of one of them and they threaten to tell you. Then more drama wil ensue and either she will act squirrelly or dump the friend like a hot potato without any explanation while always wondering when the shoe will drop and Jeremy may figure this out and her emotional crutch may finally have had enough.
People like your girlfriend rarely deviate from this script. They usually are willing to go total scorched earth if need be in order to hide their shenanigans from the one person they take for granted. I know it sounds a bit much, but it is gong to happen between you two at some point.
I'd bet on it.
So yes your relationship with this chick is doomed to failure. You two might be ok through the Winter or even part of the Spring, but you are one argument away from all of this going south on you. And you can expect that argument to be on a Friday.
Sorry kid, you are just marking time with this one. Do no have unprotected sex with her lest you get her pregnant.