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Old 29th October 2016, 5:35 PM   #31
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Alright guys. Update on what happened Friday night. First off, you're going to have to bear with me. You already know I'm not perfect, and I never claimed to be.

I will go ahead and come clean right off the bat. I ended up having sex with this girl again when my roommate was out of town. Yeah, so there you go. I know some of you are going to think I did it on purpose, but that is simply not true. But if you want to judge me I completely understand. That is the last thing that I wanted and I had absolutely no intention of doing this when I made the plan to confront her Friday night. She tricked me again there's no other way to look at it.

Here is what happened: On Friday my buddy left town to go visit his parents. My other roommate left for work around 4:45. So around 5:30 I message my buddy's GF on FB and said I need to talk to her. Literally about 5 minutes after I sent the message I hear the backdoor open and she comes into the house, so I realized she was on her way over to the house anyway. I hear her go into my buddy's room and close the door.

I am not the confrontational type people. I get nervous when I have to confront people about things. So I had a bunch of stuff that I wanted to make clear to her (I posted about it the other day) and was going through it in my head when she comes out of the bedroom and walks into the living room where i was sitting. She is not naked or anything just normally dressed.

She says whats up and asks what I'm doing. I told her I was just relaxing after class. Then I say I have to talk to her and did she get my message. She says "no" she didn't get it.

So I said listen, what we did the other day was wrong. I can't be doing that to my best friend. You're a cool person and everything but this is going to cause way more problems than we both need. As I'm saying this she has this look on her face like she is amused by what I'm saying. Then she tells me to "relax, it was just a one time thing. stop whining and being such a baby." Which kinda pissed me off, to be honest.

So I said it has nothing to do with whining and was actually very important, to which she laughed and said I was making too big of a deal about it. So I said as long as we're clear on where we stand then everything is cool. At that point she looked at me kinda mad and said "what do you mean "everything is cool"? I said it means what it means: if we drop this whole thing now then we won't have any more problems. She just stared at me for a minute then said "OK fine." and left the room. So I felt pretty good at that point like a weight had been lifted off my chest.

So about an hour goes by and I am still watching TV, and she comes back into the room and sits down on the couch next to me. At this point I am glad that everything got said that I needed to say and was feeling pretty relieved.

She then takes out some weed and starts rolling a joint on the coffee table. (we all smoke weed occasionally and when we're drinking so I didn't think much of it.) She asks me if I want to get high. I didn't think it was a good idea but I figured everything was cool between us so why not. So we smoke the joint which gets me pretty high.

This is when she seduced me again. We are sitting on the couch watching TV and she moves over and puts her hand on my groin near my zipper. I freak out and move her hand away. I tell her that it's not OK and we can't be doing this. She starts laughing again and asks me why I'm being like this. I told her what I said before was for real and I meant what I said. I turn away and start watching TV again trying to ignore her hoping that she will stop and get that I am serious.

At that point she gets up and walks over to where the TV is so she is standing directly in front of me. She turns around facing away from me and pulls down her pants, showing me her ass. She starts saying all kinds of dirty **** like " don't you want to spank my ass and pull my hair David?" and leans forward sitcking her ass out. In my head I am thinking "get out of here, go to your room" but she keeps saying it and I am just sitting there looking at her.

After a few minutes of this I got up and had sex with her.

If the time before was weird afterward this time was SUPER weird. When I finished and was walking away to my room and she says real sarcastically "is everything cool now David?" and is laughing.

I go to my room and close the door, feeling like complete ****.

So yeah. Pretty much all there is to say. At this point I'm holding no cards whatsoever. My plan failed and now I'm in a lot deeper than I was.
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Old 30th October 2016, 6:46 AM   #32
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Alright guys. Update on what happened Friday night.

I ended up having sex with this girl again when my roommate was out of town. Yeah, so there you go.

So yeah. Pretty much all there is to say. At this point I'm holding no cards whatsoever. My plan failed and now I'm in a lot deeper than I was.
Well, at least you know she's not on the verge of crying rape or anything like that. All you have to do is keep hittin' it and keep her smiling. It's not longer a practical problem –– it's an existential conundrum. Are you suffering from cognitive dissonance, or have you resolved it internally?

And of course the question we really want to ask... was it good?
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Old 30th October 2016, 7:11 AM   #33
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She didn't "trick" you. It wasn't an accident.

She showed you her ass and you couldn't say no. Just like when you saw her naked and couldn't say no.

She didn't force you to do anything and you can't be tricked into putting your d**k inside another person.

You're in deeper because sex is more important to you than you best friend.

Accept that and move on. You aren't a good friend and the sooner you get out of your buddy's life, the better it will be because once he finds out he's probably doing to kick your ass

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Old 30th October 2016, 10:20 AM   #34
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I'd put money on you not being the only other guy she's sleeping with.

Stop being such a selfish ass and tell your friend the damn truth!

And no, she didn't trick you. You're as bad as she is.
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Old 30th October 2016, 1:07 PM   #35
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And no, she didn't trick you. You're as bad as she is.
I don't see it like that at all. I made the effort to right this wrong, she is the one taking action to get me to have sex with her. I am not seeking it out.
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Old 30th October 2016, 1:53 PM   #36
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I don't see it like that at all. I made the effort to right this wrong, she is the one taking action to get me to have sex with her. I am not seeking it out.
Lol!

I made the effort to right this wrong, and instead screwed my buddy's girlfriend again. But it's not my fault! I've been seduced. It's not all my fault, she has to take some blame as it was her magnetic vagina pulling my iron manhood. I couldn't stop it. My buddy doesn't need to know this though, that's for sure. It would be best if I continue getting worked over by his girlfriend as I try to do the right thing.

Be prepared OP, because the first big fight her and your buddy have is going to be the catalyst of him finding out about you two...
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Old 30th October 2016, 2:10 PM   #37
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I don't see it like that at all. I made the effort to right this wrong, she is the one taking action to get me to have sex with her. I am not seeking it out.
...so you consider sticking your winky in her for a second time just because she was thrusting her butt in your direction as 'trying to right a wrong'?

It doesn't matter what she does to try to get you to have sex with her. Doing the right thing would have been ignoring her skank dance and going to your room. You don't get points for resisting for a few minutes before giving in.

You are exactly 0% victim here.

Out of curiosity though..if you truly think you've done nothing wrong then why haven't you told your 'friend' yet?
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Old 30th October 2016, 2:37 PM   #38
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Power Forward,

Nothing about your update surprised me in the least.

I knew when you had such a cavalier attitude towards my initial response in particular that you are probably the type of guy that would dismiss any advice that did not fit your narrative, and that you would simply have a positive response to those few that told you what you wanted to hear.

According to you, the truly guilty parties in this drama are:

1. The Girl you banged again
2. The friend of yours, who is totally in the dark, because if he didn't have such a tempting seductress for a GR this would ave never happened.
3. Weed. If you hadn't smoked that joint then you would have never unzipped your fly.

According to you there is only 1 victim in this story, and that is you.

By your account you simply could not resist said seductress when she made a pouty face it forced you to lose your balance with that raging hard on and you tripped over it and fell penis first right into the Seductress.


I do not know if you came back to update us out of Spite, or some underlying sense of guilt, as it is easier to accept being shamed by random strangers than actually taking ownership for your actions. Or fear of what will eventually happen. Or maybe you like the thought of putting one over on your roommate and wanted to come back and gloat about it under your breath as you regale us in the sad tale about how you were hoodwinked into sex that you didn't want to have. Maybe a combination of all of them.

One thing I do know. And that is eventually you will be discovered. One of you will not be able to keep your mouth shut about it. Maybe one of you blurt it out to someone you trust as a friend when you are a little tipsy and feeling a wee bit guilty and you just need to get it off your chest in real life.

Or maybe she will tell one of her college friends and then maybe that college friend of hers will tell another friend in confidence. And eventually the wrong person will be informed an then out of sheer pity tell this poor guy what his friend and GF are doing behind his back.

And if that happens you will find it difficult at best to keep many of your friendships with your best buds because even they will be wary of having their girlfriends in your company, or perhaps, they will feel forced to take sides. And if that happens they certainly will not be on your side. You see, they will also realize that you are not a person that can be trusted, about anything.

But again I am not shocked nor surprised. After all what do any of us who experienced know? We are just bitter schmucks who were stupid enough to be in love once upon a time with someone who betrayed us. We don't see reality because we are just bitter. We are losers because obviously if we reply to your update, we are certainly just bitter.

Of course that is in the back of your mind. Either you are a superb creative writer or you delight in recounting your cheating story. I am going with the latter.

I hope your parents kept you on their medical insurance. I think one day n the not too distant future, you are probably going to need it.

Take care
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Old 30th October 2016, 3:52 PM   #39
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You are totally owned, friend. You might as well just chop you manhood off with a sharp knife, put a bright blue bow on it and send it to her in a gift box. But don't fret, your winkey will have a lot of company when she adds it to the chain of withered winkeys around her neck. The next move in this chick's arsenal will be when your pal gets back from break, and she begins to play you both against each other. Your pal will be clueless, and she will have that evil smirk on her face and you will feel the chill of death flow in your veins.

When this girl gets done with you, you will truly know the meaning of fear...the next half year will not be fun for you, but hopefully you will have learnt an important life lesson (if you survive). Break the chain that connects little Power Forward to your brain before that chain gets wrapped around your neck...
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Old 30th October 2016, 4:24 PM   #40
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Power Forward,

Nothing about your update surprised me in the least.

I knew when you had such a cavalier attitude towards my initial response in particular that you are probably the type of guy that would dismiss any advice that did not fit your narrative, and that you would simply have a positive response to those few that told you what you wanted to hear.

According to you, the truly guilty parties in this drama are:

1. The Girl you banged again
2. The friend of yours, who is totally in the dark, because if he didn't have such a tempting seductress for a GR this would ave never happened.
3. Weed. If you hadn't smoked that joint then you would have never unzipped your fly.

According to you there is only 1 victim in this story, and that is you.

By your account you simply could not resist said seductress when she made a pouty face it forced you to lose your balance with that raging hard on and you tripped over it and fell penis first right into the Seductress.


I do not know if you came back to update us out of Spite, or some underlying sense of guilt, as it is easier to accept being shamed by random strangers than actually taking ownership for your actions. Or fear of what will eventually happen. Or maybe you like the thought of putting one over on your roommate and wanted to come back and gloat about it under your breath as you regale us in the sad tale about how you were hoodwinked into sex that you didn't want to have. Maybe a combination of all of them.

One thing I do know. And that is eventually you will be discovered. One of you will not be able to keep your mouth shut about it. Maybe one of you blurt it out to someone you trust as a friend when you are a little tipsy and feeling a wee bit guilty and you just need to get it off your chest in real life.

Or maybe she will tell one of her college friends and then maybe that college friend of hers will tell another friend in confidence. And eventually the wrong person will be informed an then out of sheer pity tell this poor guy what his friend and GF are doing behind his back.

And if that happens you will find it difficult at best to keep many of your friendships with your best buds because even they will be wary of having their girlfriends in your company, or perhaps, they will feel forced to take sides. And if that happens they certainly will not be on your side. You see, they will also realize that you are not a person that can be trusted, about anything.

But again I am not shocked nor surprised. After all what do any of us who experienced know? We are just bitter schmucks who were stupid enough to be in love once upon a time with someone who betrayed us. We don't see reality because we are just bitter. We are losers because obviously if we reply to your update, we are certainly just bitter.

Of course that is in the back of your mind. Either you are a superb creative writer or you delight in recounting your cheating story. I am going with the latter.

I hope your parents kept you on their medical insurance. I think one day n the not too distant future, you are probably going to need it.

Take care
That was my first thought, something seems off here.

"Hai guys. Oops, I accidentally had sex again. LOL!"

OP is trying too hard to deliver. She will find out she is pregnant in his next post, you wait.
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Old 30th October 2016, 5:06 PM   #41
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She didn't "trick" you. It wasn't an accident.

She showed you her ass and you couldn't say no. Just like when you saw her naked and couldn't say no.

She didn't force you to do anything and you can't be tricked into putting your d**k inside another person.

You're in deeper because sex is more important to you than you best friend.

Accept that and move on. You aren't a good friend and the sooner you get out of your buddy's life, the better it will be because once he finds out he's probably doing to kick your ass
I don't know if you are male or female, but you obviously have never been in the position where you are a straight guy alone with a hot girl trying to have sex with you. You can sit there and judge me all you want and say what I should of done and how I have no self control, but when you are a guy in that situation it is like you can't even do anything. Your mind just overloads and you can't think right.
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...so you consider sticking your winky in her for a second time just because she was thrusting her butt in your direction as 'trying to right a wrong'?

It doesn't matter what she does to try to get you to have sex with her. Doing the right thing would have been ignoring her skank dance and going to your room. You don't get points for resisting for a few minutes before giving in.

You are exactly 0% victim here.

Out of curiosity though..if you truly think you've done nothing wrong then why haven't you told your 'friend' yet?
I'm guessing from your username that you are a woman. So really you have no idea what its like to be a man alone in a room with a super hot girl when she is taking her clothes off. At first my brain was telling me to run out of the room, but I just gradually lost my willpower as the minutes went by. The level of arousal that I felt was uncontrollable when she did what she did. It's not like I conciously decided "OK to hell with it, let me have sex with her again". I felt like I was taken over and couldn't do anything. Ask a guy who has been in the same situation. He will tell you.
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She will find out she is pregnant in his next post, you wait.
Christ I hope not.
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Power Forward,

Nothing about your update surprised me in the least.

I knew when you had such a cavalier attitude towards my initial response in particular that you are probably the type of guy that would dismiss any advice that did not fit your narrative, and that you would simply have a positive response to those few that told you what you wanted to hear.

According to you, the truly guilty parties in this drama are:

1. The Girl you banged again
2. The friend of yours, who is totally in the dark, because if he didn't have such a tempting seductress for a GR this would ave never happened.
3. Weed. If you hadn't smoked that joint then you would have never unzipped your fly.

According to you there is only 1 victim in this story, and that is you.

By your account you simply could not resist said seductress when she made a pouty face it forced you to lose your balance with that raging hard on and you tripped over it and fell penis first right into the Seductress.
It seems from your comments that you have never been in the situation I was in. If you had been, you might think differently. Have you ever been alone in a room with a really hot girl you're not supposed to be with and she suddenly gets naked? I don't think so. If you had you would know the conflict that I am talking about. It is not so easy to walk away as you make it out to be.

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I do not know if you came back to update us out of Spite, or some underlying sense of guilt, as it is easier to accept being shamed by random strangers than actually taking ownership for your actions. Or fear of what will eventually happen. Or maybe you like the thought of putting one over on your roommate and wanted to come back and gloat about it under your breath as you regale us in the sad tale about how you were hoodwinked into sex that you didn't want to have. Maybe a combination of all of them.
Who is shamed? I don't know you from Adam. This forum is the safest bet for me to be honest and open and not be found out. Like you say, running my mouth to other people I know would be inviting disaster. Judge me all you want. I don't care. You, like the others, seem to give no weight to my buddy's GF's actions towards me. I DID the right thing. I made the effort to resolve it. Then she used dirty tricks to mess that up.


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One thing I do know. And that is eventually you will be discovered. One of you will not be able to keep your mouth shut about it. Maybe one of you blurt it out to someone you trust as a friend when you are a little tipsy and feeling a wee bit guilty and you just need to get it off your chest in real life.

Or maybe she will tell one of her college friends and then maybe that college friend of hers will tell another friend in confidence. And eventually the wrong person will be informed an then out of sheer pity tell this poor guy what his friend and GF are doing behind his back.

And if that happens you will find it difficult at best to keep many of your friendships with your best buds because even they will be wary of having their girlfriends in your company, or perhaps, they will feel forced to take sides. And if that happens they certainly will not be on your side. You see, they will also realize that you are not a person that can be trusted, about anything.
Maybe, maybe not. You seem to be letting your past experiences color your judgement. It seems you still have a lot of pent up anger and hatred about your own episode of being cheated on.

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But again I am not shocked nor surprised. After all what do any of us who experienced know? We are just bitter schmucks who were stupid enough to be in love once upon a time with someone who betrayed us. We don't see reality because we are just bitter. We are losers because obviously if we reply to your update, we are certainly just bitter.
I'm not saying your a loser. You just don't seem to be able to empathize with me and cannot relate to being in my situation. Your coming from the other side of being cheated on.

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Of course that is in the back of your mind. Either you are a superb creative writer or you delight in recounting your cheating story. I am going with the latter.

I hope your parents kept you on their medical insurance. I think one day n the not too distant future, you are probably going to need it.

Take care
Proves the point I made above.
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Old 30th October 2016, 5:27 PM   #45
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You are totally owned, friend. You might as well just chop you manhood off with a sharp knife, put a bright blue bow on it and send it to her in a gift box. But don't fret, your winkey will have a lot of company when she adds it to the chain of withered winkeys around her neck. The next move in this chick's arsenal will be when your pal gets back from break, and she begins to play you both against each other. Your pal will be clueless, and she will have that evil smirk on her face and you will feel the chill of death flow in your veins.

When this girl gets done with you, you will truly know the meaning of fear...the next half year will not be fun for you, but hopefully you will have learnt an important life lesson (if you survive). Break the chain that connects little Power Forward to your brain before that chain gets wrapped around your neck...
I think your being a little overly dramatic.
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