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Does my partner have a crush on my best friend?

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Old 7th February 2017, 10:27 PM   #16
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I don't have any issue with him finding other people attractive and having a momentary lusting after them. He used to be the kind of guy though who just went with however he felt and was a remorseless cheater. It all back fired on him and he lost everything; that coupled with getting older, it took the edge off his hedonism and the most reassuring aspect of his behaviour is that he no longer goes out clubbing, or works in bars. He puts us first in his plans.

About my friend, I feel that even if I did say something about it he'd only lie to protect my feelings. One of my best and worst features is I do speak up if not happy and I did with this situation but fear I may have shown my hand. I need to let what will be will be and let the situation pan out itself. However I'm to scared of rocking this life I've worked so hard to build that I put off having them in the same room.

We are a lot closer now because we understand each other. If I mention her now he doesn't get all misty eyed but it's been over two years since he saw her. My instincts are often spot on. I need my life to be natural...but I feel sick at what I may see.
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Old 14th February 2017, 8:34 AM   #17
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If this girl is such an important friend why has it been 2 years since you've seen her? The only way you will get your answer as to whether he truly wants her is to let them be around each other. Are you planning to not see your friend again because of fear?
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Old 14th February 2017, 11:28 AM   #18
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There should never be a point in time in your relationship that you have to question whether or not your partner has a crush on your best friend. It's nothing you've done, or that your friend has done. It's ALL him and the things he says and his reactions toward her that is making you think this way.

Do you still trust him?
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