bipbop Posted March 2, 2015 Share Posted March 2, 2015 Basically what the title says. My boyfriend has been showing an interest in them recently, and I feel really uncomfortable about them. I was just wondering what the general consensus is here? Link to post Share on other sites
barcode88 Posted March 2, 2015 Share Posted March 2, 2015 I would say no.. They lean more towards a fantasy. Would probably be comparable to going to a strip club, just less physical. Link to post Share on other sites
kendahke Posted March 3, 2015 Share Posted March 3, 2015 Basically what the title says. My boyfriend has been showing an interest in them recently, and I feel really uncomfortable about them. I was just wondering what the general consensus is here? No. Exchanging emotional intimacy with clear intention and/or having intercourse is cheating. But what we think is non sequitur. Is it cheating TO YOU? That's all that matters in your situation. Link to post Share on other sites
carhill Posted March 3, 2015 Share Posted March 3, 2015 If your boyfriend is telling you about calling sex lines or being interested in same, nope, not cheating. Why? Because cheating, by definition, involves deception, and he's disclosing and being transparent. However, if you find such behaviors inappropriate and he continues, you have a problem in your relationship to resolve. You could use the same definition for in-person infidelity, strip clubs, massage parlors, etc, etc. It's the deception which makes such interactions cheating, not the interaction itself. Think about if/when you passed notes with answers to tests in school or, today, texted or received answers on your smartphone. That's a great example of cheating in the general sense. It's deceptive means to effect personal gain. Should calling a sex line be inappropriate behavior in a romantic relationship? Up to the couple to decide. Some don't care. Others care a lot. Your call. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
CarrieT Posted March 3, 2015 Share Posted March 3, 2015 Should calling a sex line be inappropriate behavior in a romantic relationship? Up to the couple to decide. Some don't care. Others care a lot. Your call. OP, re-read this ^ ^ ^ There are no hard-and-fast rules for sex lines. Others may not believe it is cheating while, for some, it is taking the sexual act outside the intimacy of the relationship and is therefore wrong. Only you two can decide if it is a problem in your relationship. I personally would not want my husband to call someone else to get his rocks off. I would hope to be sufficient for him. Link to post Share on other sites
Gary S Posted March 3, 2015 Share Posted March 3, 2015 I personally would not want my husband to call someone else to get his rocks off. I would hope to be sufficient for him. - I'm betting most most women are going to feel like this, and feel that it is cheating. And since the OP made a post about it, I'm sure she feels the same way. Yup, he needs to stop. Link to post Share on other sites
Chi townD Posted March 3, 2015 Share Posted March 3, 2015 If he was watching porn or looking at pics like Playboy; then, no he's not cheating in my book. If he's engaging in conversations of a sexual nature with someone else. Then. yes. That's cheating Because you have two or more active and willing partners engaging in this behavior. They know what's going on. If he was watching porn, he would be engaging with pixels on a screen. Link to post Share on other sites
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