Rcjh Posted August 15, 2014 Share Posted August 15, 2014 My bf and I are on vacation and I woke up to a notification on his phone of an escort add in the town we are visiting. I confronted him about it and he said he didn't know what I was talking about and finally said it happened because his phone is jail broke which causes adds. I believed him and that was the end of it but it hasn't been settling well with me. I went to the escort website and found the add that I saw and it was from the day before we left for vacation, which doesn't seem like it would make sense if it were just an add popping up for no reason. He got upset that I wasn't trusting him to begin with so I am hesitant to bring it up again.. It just isn't settling well with me. I don't know what to do. Link to post Share on other sites
ExpatInItaly Posted August 15, 2014 Share Posted August 15, 2014 My bf and I are on vacation and I woke up to a notification on his phone of an escort add in the town we are visiting. I confronted him about it and he said he didn't know what I was talking about and finally said it happened because his phone is jail broke which causes adds. I believed him and that was the end of it but it hasn't been settling well with me. I went to the escort website and found the add that I saw and it was from the day before we left for vacation, which doesn't seem like it would make sense if it were just an add popping up for no reason. He got upset that I wasn't trusting him to begin with so I am hesitant to bring it up again.. It just isn't settling well with me. I don't know what to do. I'm not sure what you mean by this. Do you mean the ad was dated? Or that a user would need to be registered to the site in order for the ad to appear? Link to post Share on other sites
Author Rcjh Posted August 15, 2014 Author Share Posted August 15, 2014 I'm not sure what you mean by this. Do you mean the ad was dated? Or that a user would need to be registered to the site in order for the ad to appear? It seems to me like if an add were going to spontaneously pop up, it would be a current one. I am not familiar with the sites or anything so I could be wrong, but it definitely looked like one would have to click on the adds and show interest in them for there to be a response. Link to post Share on other sites
preraph Posted August 15, 2014 Share Posted August 15, 2014 Make sure I understand. So this ad was for an escort specifically in the town you just happened to be going on vacation the next day? If so, that is very suspicious. You know, you can get a prostitute in 30 minutes almost anywhere. They keep them in motels and hotels ready to go in almost every location and you order them online. So he could only be gone for 20 minutes and go do that right there where you are or nearby. Now, if I'm misunderstanding and it wasn't specific to the vacation town, it might be random. I am female and I do get spam from whores all the time in my email. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Rcjh Posted August 15, 2014 Author Share Posted August 15, 2014 Make sure I understand. So this ad was for an escort specifically in the town you just happened to be going on vacation the next day? If so, that is very suspicious. You know, you can get a prostitute in 30 minutes almost anywhere. They keep them in motels and hotels ready to go in almost every location and you order them online. So he could only be gone for 20 minutes and go do that right there where you are or nearby. Now, if I'm misunderstanding and it wasn't specific to the vacation town, it might be random. I am female and I do get spam from whores all the time in my email. You are understanding correctly, the dad was for this specific town. And to make matters worse, my bf will be here an additional week after I leave. Link to post Share on other sites
maysj18 Posted August 16, 2014 Share Posted August 16, 2014 You are understanding correctly, the dad was for this specific town. And to make matters worse, my bf will be here an additional week after I leave. In his defense, the Internet is a smart little ****. I will have ads for the shopping center I'm at pop up when I pull up my Internet browser. It's very common. Seriously. I was at a shopping center yesterday and an ad popped up for a tire rotation at the Jiffy Lube next door. I have never been to that Jiffy Lube, any Jiffy Lube, or that shopping center. Ever. Haha it was ridiculous! Link to post Share on other sites
Michelle ma Belle Posted August 16, 2014 Share Posted August 16, 2014 Sorry but I'm going to play devil's advocate and call bullsh*t on this one. This all seems TOO coincidental if you ask me. He's a dirty pig and you're falling for his pathetic excuses hook, line and sinker in my humble opinion. Good luck with this one. 3 Link to post Share on other sites
Author Rcjh Posted August 16, 2014 Author Share Posted August 16, 2014 Sorry but I'm going to play devil's advocate and call bullsh*t on this one. This all seems TOO coincidental if you ask me. He's a dirty pig and you're falling for his pathetic excuses hook, line and sinker in my humble opinion. Good luck with this one. That's what's I'm afraid of. I've had the biggest pit in my stomach all week and if my gut is telling me something I should probably listen to it. Thanks for the help. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
Michelle ma Belle Posted August 16, 2014 Share Posted August 16, 2014 That's what's I'm afraid of. I've had the biggest pit in my stomach all week and if my gut is telling me something I should probably listen to it. Thanks for the help. If I've learned anything in my 45 years it's to ALWAYS listen to your gut...and I mean really listen to it because it is rarely ever wrong. Don't let this guy make a fool out of you. You deserve better than that. 3 Link to post Share on other sites
ExpatInItaly Posted August 16, 2014 Share Posted August 16, 2014 That's what's I'm afraid of. I've had the biggest pit in my stomach all week and if my gut is telling me something I should probably listen to it. Thanks for the help. Has there been any other suspicious behaviour? Link to post Share on other sites
preraph Posted August 16, 2014 Share Posted August 16, 2014 You are understanding correctly, the dad was for this specific town. And to make matters worse, my bf will be here an additional week after I leave. He's whoring. Sorry. It's pretty common. For some reason guys think if they're out of town, that's the time to cheat and it somehow doesn't count. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Author Rcjh Posted August 16, 2014 Author Share Posted August 16, 2014 Has there been any other suspicious behaviour? Not that I have noticed.. Nothing like this has ever even crossed my mind though. So now I am worried I have been nieve. Link to post Share on other sites
ExpatInItaly Posted August 16, 2014 Share Posted August 16, 2014 Not that I have noticed.. Nothing like this has ever even crossed my mind though. So now I am worried I have been nieve. How's the relationship been in general? Link to post Share on other sites
Author Rcjh Posted August 16, 2014 Author Share Posted August 16, 2014 How's the relationship been in general? Awesome really. We hardly ever fight and he does so much for me. I never saw anything like this coming. Thats why I don't know what to do.. It's out of nowhere Link to post Share on other sites
preraph Posted August 16, 2014 Share Posted August 16, 2014 Ideal situation for a woman is having a boyfriend they can count on. Ideal situation for a lot of men is having a woman they can count on who will trust them enough that they can get away with getting sex on the side. We are all naive before it happens to us. A whole lot of men cheat. It's easiest not to get caught if you do it out of town with a pro. Link to post Share on other sites
Minnie09 Posted August 16, 2014 Share Posted August 16, 2014 How did it "pop up" and what did the message say? Link to post Share on other sites
Author Rcjh Posted August 16, 2014 Author Share Posted August 16, 2014 (edited) How did it "pop up" and what did the message say? It was like any notification on an iPhone. Like a comment on Facebook or Instagram or something like that. But the problem was I tried to open it when I saw it and his phone is locked so after I didn't know his password it went away. It was from an a website called Edited August 17, 2014 by a LoveShack.org Moderator Link to post Share on other sites
smackie9 Posted August 16, 2014 Share Posted August 16, 2014 If you are that worried about it, play detective and check phone records, credit card statements, bank withdraws, check his emails, phone messages, etc. There is also computer software that logs their activity. If you have the money hire a private detective to follow him $250+ a day, OR you can say you are leaving and stay at another hotel, and do the following yourself. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
Minnie09 Posted August 16, 2014 Share Posted August 16, 2014 (edited) It was like any notification on an iPhone. Like a comment on Facebook or Instagram or something like that. But the problem was I tried to open it when I saw it and his phone is locked so after I didn't know his password it went away. It was from an a website called Well then that's something he has programmed - duh........will not just pop up like that without prior registration - yeah like smackie said ......... catch him by keeping quiet for now and then, when you've left and he is staying, go in spy mode.......I bet my annual salary that you'll find something within 48 hours after you leave Edited August 17, 2014 by a LoveShack.org Moderator Link to post Share on other sites
mikethemechanic Posted August 16, 2014 Share Posted August 16, 2014 How's the relationship been in general? How's your sex life with him? Link to post Share on other sites
smackie9 Posted August 16, 2014 Share Posted August 16, 2014 I took a look, and if you sign up, you get an app that notifies you what is available in your particular area. random popups usually hit you when you are on the net or in your emails, not random text messages, if he is just visiting porn sites. Porn sites see your IP address and send you emails usually, not popups. Popups hit you when you are on actual sites. So I say it's BS on his part. There are some men out there that do live a double life without any conscience. Men don't pay prostitutes for sex, they pay them to keep their mouths shut. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Author Rcjh Posted August 16, 2014 Author Share Posted August 16, 2014 How's your sex life with him? To be blunt... I have the biggest sex drive of any of my girlfriends that I know. I am usually the one to crave it. And when it's that time of the month.. It's unlimited oral at his request. So I can't even imagine WHY he would be looking elsewhere. Link to post Share on other sites
Minnie09 Posted August 16, 2014 Share Posted August 16, 2014 To be blunt... I have the biggest sex drive of any of my girlfriends that I know. I am usually the one to crave it. And when it's that time of the month.. It's unlimited oral at his request. So I can't even imagine WHY he would be looking elsewhere. Yeah but that's not the point anyways........guys don't use hookers because there's no sex life at home, they use it because they feel entitled 2 Link to post Share on other sites
Author Rcjh Posted August 16, 2014 Author Share Posted August 16, 2014 Yeah but that's not the point anyways........guys don't use hookers because there's no sex life at home, they use it because they feel entitled I could be wrong but it could also be an age thing. He's 28 and I'm 22. I've never felt that the age difference was an issue but in this situation I almost feel as though he feels like he can get away with things because his mayority. Even though I'm 6 years younger doesn't mean I'm dumb... 2 Link to post Share on other sites
smackie9 Posted August 16, 2014 Share Posted August 16, 2014 Yeah but that's not the point anyways........guys don't use hookers because there's no sex life at home, they use it because they feel entitled Not only that, some guys feel they need variety, and sex with the same person is boring. Who knows maybe he has a kink that you may find offensive so he gets it through a professional. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
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