prplpny2 Posted September 26, 2004 Share Posted September 26, 2004 I have been with my boyfriend now for 6 years, we have a 17 month old daughter together. One afternoon while I was at work I got a phone call stating there was a car that has never been at our home before, when I tried calling to see who was there I couldn't get and answer the phone had been taken off of the hook or whatever. When I get home that evening I comfront him asking who is was at our house and I am told noone.. I once again ask whom was at our house and still I get the answer noone. I then go to our bedroom where he's been sleeping and say, okay who's been at our house and I get the answer "I had a man over" I then go balalistic and say it's over, I want nothing more from you, you have just ruined everything. He then says, please, please don't leave me it was a mistake. I will never do it again. How would someone respond to this and is this something that can be worked out by counseling. Should I forgive him and see if counseling works for him or should I give up and go on with my life? I have asked him to contact his family and let them know what he did to myself and his daughter. feel free to leave me answers on what you feel I should do I really am mixed up and have no idea what to do. Link to post Share on other sites
JoL Posted September 26, 2004 Share Posted September 26, 2004 He had a man over? Um, can we assume from that information that this is an issue of sexual preference? did you know your partner is gay/Bi? Or is this something you just recently discovered from his admission? Link to post Share on other sites
Merin Posted September 26, 2004 Share Posted September 26, 2004 Your boyfriend cheated on you with another guy? Cheating is cheating.... regardless if it's with a male or a female, however if your boyfriend cheated on you with a male... then obviously this adds a different element to the table than he cheated.... sexual identity issues would be there as well. Link to post Share on other sites
prplpmy2 Posted September 26, 2004 Share Posted September 26, 2004 Originally posted by JoL He had a man over? Um, can we assume from that information that this is an issue of sexual preference? did you know your partner is gay/Bi? Or is this something you just recently discovered from his admission? A few years ago he had mentioned to me he thought he might be Bi/but I never put it together at the time. He doesn't want our relationship to be over and has asked for my help. I have suggested counseling to him and told him I will not make my decision until he decides if he wants to be with a man or a woman Link to post Share on other sites
Crux- Posted September 26, 2004 Share Posted September 26, 2004 GET TESTED!!!! Link to post Share on other sites
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