Originally posted by Guest202
Iand we don't have the romantic elements of dating present anymore (and we're more in a "married" type of situation), or if it's because my feelings are truly just changing for him. 6 months ago I was ready to marry him and now I wonder if I'd be happier with somebody who wasn't SO exhausted at the end of every day, and had a different job, and who I didn't have this type of a past with.
I'll give it my best shot. BTW, why not become a member of the site? We really could use YOUR help too.
Romance doesn't HAVE to end in any long-term relationship. I'm trying to help MY partner understand that it's importnat not to just let it all atrophy.
My wife seems to be falling out of love with me lately, but I'm just doing my own thing. If she realizes that her feelings for me have waned, then so be it. We'll have to figure something out. In your case, let me say this, The grass is not greener. It'll be novel for a time but then the reality of the relationship will settle in and you could be right back where you started, except without the first guy.
I've often thought the only way to be happy was to have a partner who was 100% compatible with you. But then I accepted that as fantasy. So you learn to cope. coping.org is a good place to learn how.
I, personally, find it insulting (for lack of a better word) when my partner is always SO exhausted at the end of the day that she has nothing left. It's as is she's saying, you're not important enough for me to save some of my strength for you. But then you learn to use an interesting concept I dreamed up one night.
Just F.U.C.K. 'em!
F- Forgiveness, U-understanding, C- compassion, K-kindness.
It works. It may not bring your boyfriend around, but it will surely help you with your duobtful heart.
Much Love, Luck, and Happiness.