RegretfulLove Posted August 29, 2013 Share Posted August 29, 2013 (edited) Recently I made a huge mistake and I cheated on the girl I love, we've only been together for a little while but I know she's my soulmate. I had nude pictures of other girls on my phone some sent to me and some downloaded from the internet. Fact is they hurt her and I never intended to do any such thing. It's eating me up inside knowing she may end the relationship at any time. I know I am truly in love with her, you may say that I didn't because if I had I wouldn't have done what I did. That's not the case. I know I love this girl. I am a college student right now in a different state and we are calling each other all the time. I have sworn to her this won't happen again and I know she wants to believe me but I need to find a way to prove my love to her and I don't exactly know how from this distance. I know I hurt her and hurting her has hurt me, I always wanted our relationship to be perfect, no lies, no cheating, none of that. But I went and messed it all up. I wish I had a time machine to go back so I could not cheat but that isn't possible. I know I want to stay with her and I love her with all my heart and more and regret what I did to the fullest. I need her in my life, she is my rock, my one true love, my soulmate. Even though we are fighting right now she still makes me happy as can be. I hate myself for doing this I have always been the one cheated on, never been the cheater, I will do anything to make it up to this girl as best I can. Please I hope someone can help me. I love her so much and I can't lose her )'= Edited August 30, 2013 by a LoveShack.org Moderator Link to post Share on other sites
KungFuJoe Posted August 29, 2013 Share Posted August 29, 2013 awwww...pobrecito 1 Link to post Share on other sites
GorillaTheater Posted August 29, 2013 Share Posted August 29, 2013 1. So did you "cheat" cheat on her, or just have some nekkid pics on your phone? 2. If she's in another state, how did she know about the pics? 3. What's this "soulmate" bullsh*t you speak of? 2 Link to post Share on other sites
Author RegretfulLove Posted August 29, 2013 Author Share Posted August 29, 2013 1. No I did not physically cheat on her but I had the pictures on my phone and I had messages to other girls on facebook. I dont know why I did it, I am trying to figure it out. 2. She is back home and I am at school, I recently went home for a break and I let her go through my phone because I wanted her to be comfortable with me and using my phone. She has the key to unlock my phone and my facebook information. 3. I know she is the woman I am supposed to spend my life with. I can't see myself without her 1 Link to post Share on other sites
GorillaTheater Posted August 29, 2013 Share Posted August 29, 2013 Well, it's good that you're doing some introspection. The true test of integrity is what you do when nobody's looking. The ball's in her court, though. I don't know the story behind you getting some of the pics, or your chats with other women, but it sounds like you seriously crossed a line. When was the last time you spoke with her, and what is she saying about her thoughts on the matter? 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Author RegretfulLove Posted August 29, 2013 Author Share Posted August 29, 2013 I did cross a line, a huge one. There's no going back but I am trying to do everything I can to prove to her she is the one for me and that I will never hurt her again. I love her so much. She has said she is hurt and disappointed but she is willing to give me another chance which I am so grateful for I can't even put it into words. I am changing myself for her. No more lies, no more other girls, no more cheating, just her and I like it should have been from the start. I know my love for her is true. I made the biggest mistake I could have ever made, aside from physically cheating on her. I will do anything for her, she has my heart and she gave me and hers and I broke it, but she is giving me a chance to show her I am changing. She has told me she still wants to be my wife and I want to be her husband. She got me a ring and I got her a ring. She says she still loves me and I'm so happy she does, it means the world to me that she is even still talking to me. Link to post Share on other sites
GorillaTheater Posted August 29, 2013 Share Posted August 29, 2013 She has told me she still wants to be my wife and I want to be her husband. She got me a ring and I got her a ring. How old are you both, and how long have you been together? Link to post Share on other sites
Author RegretfulLove Posted August 29, 2013 Author Share Posted August 29, 2013 Were both relatively young Im 21 and shes 20. This all happened last week on my birthday. I know it sounds like a short time but we've been together for 3 months but I feel like I've known her my whole life. It might sound stupid to others saying I love her and am in love with her, but I know my feelings and thats what matters to me. Link to post Share on other sites
GorillaTheater Posted August 29, 2013 Share Posted August 29, 2013 It's hard for me to argue with your feelings, but just from an objective standpoint both of you are way too young and have known each other for far too short a time to be talking marriage and engagement, but good luck man. 6 Link to post Share on other sites
Author RegretfulLove Posted August 29, 2013 Author Share Posted August 29, 2013 I know it seems that way but we both know, we're both ready to settle down and in that first month I think I wasnt quite ready for the commitment and thats why I did what I did. Its all over with and I'm trying to prove my love to her but I dont know how to do that exactly I want to but I cant figure out a way to show her my feelings. I've never been great at that sort of thing, I always kept everything bottled up inside which I know isnt healthy, thats another thing Im trying to change for her. I want us to be completely open about everything. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
giblesp Posted August 30, 2013 Share Posted August 30, 2013 If the pictures you're talking about are pornography form the internet, then just forget about it and don't do it again if it bothers you. If the pictures where given to you personally by a woman you know and involved an exchange of messages on your part, then yeah you've cheated. You're going to have to be fully honest and tell her, she deserves to know. She might stay with you or she might end it. But it's a chance you have to take. You know now not to do it again, best of luck. Link to post Share on other sites
giblesp Posted August 30, 2013 Share Posted August 30, 2013 If the pictures you had were pornography from the internet, then forget about it and don't do it again if it bothers you. If the pictures were sent to you personally and you did something to instigate them, then yeah you've cheated. The most honest thing to do would be to own up to her. Maybe she'll forgive you maybe she'll end it. It's a chance you'll have to take. Link to post Share on other sites
crederer Posted August 30, 2013 Share Posted August 30, 2013 (edited) You dun f*cked up, kid. I've been on the other end of this before and it's painful and humiliating and very selfish on your part. Did your girl even cross your mind when you were doing it? You don't have to answer that because it was either, "yes, I did, but I didn't care because it was exciting and it doesn't matter if I hurt her feelings because I'm having fun", or "no, she didn't cross my mind because I'm so wrapped up with what I'm doing and I don't care". You are not ready for a relationship right now. You'd rather go chasing poon, which is fine, just do it while single. Edited August 30, 2013 by crederer Link to post Share on other sites
Author RegretfulLove Posted September 3, 2013 Author Share Posted September 3, 2013 I know I messed up huge and there is no being forgiven for this but I do love her. You can say "If you loved her so much you wouldnt have done this in the first place." But youre not me. I do love this girl with every inch of me mind,body , and soul. She is my reason for living. I have never been this happy with anyone I've ever been with. I have been completely honest with her about the whole situation and will continue to be. I hate fighting with her, it tears me up inside. She says she still loves me, she is just hurt which is understandable. I know what I did was wrong and I will be making it up to her until my final breath. Which I hope will be a very long time from now because one thing I am doing to prove to her how much I really do love her is, I am quitting smoking. I will do anything to show this girl how much she really means to me. I want to show her I am ready for the commitment and ready to be completely open with her. I have never been able to do this in a relationship before so this is all completely new to me. For her I am willing to do it, I am not the type of person to be completely open with just anyone, I am usually one to keep most of life behind a closed door, even with family. She is different she makes me want to be more open about my life and with her I can be, I made a big mistake and want to show her how much I regret my stupid decisions and show her she is the only one for me. Link to post Share on other sites
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