mustbe Posted June 6, 2012 Share Posted June 6, 2012 I am a 50 yr. old guy and have been devoiced for 9 years; I am dating a woman a couple of years older than me and we have been dating for about 6 months. I am having a problem with all of her male friends that she hangs out with a lot. While I trust that she is not sexually involved with these guys, she calls them buddies and hangs out a lot. I know she loves the attention she gets from single guys and they must like her boob job. I have tried to deal with my jealous but I can’t seem to get over it. I have talked to her about it when she hinted that maybe her ex-boyfriend was coming into town and my need to stay at her place. I told her that if she did that I wanted her out of my live, she said she understood. But that is really just the tip of the ice berg. This weekend she has a male friend coming into town that she said she will be hanging out with for about 4 days, the male friend will be staying at a hotel. The only thing I know to do is give her a taste of her own medicine. I have started dating a new lady, a real looker, somebodies ex-trophy wife. I really care for my girlfriend but I am starting to think that I need a woman that does not need to be surrounded with dudes to bust up her ego. I would like to fine someone I can build a life with and maybe my girlfriend is not the one. I feel like I am under constant pressure to find other woman to hang out with to make up for my feelings of jealousy. I have a young daughter so I don’t have as much time to be out running around with the ladies. I know I need to end this relationship and start chasing the new hottie I’ve meet. If I were in a happy relationship I would not be out looking for something else. Any advice would be greatly appreciated Link to post Share on other sites
WonderKid Posted June 6, 2012 Share Posted June 6, 2012 When she told you that she understood its obvious she knows what she's doing and not playing games about it. I'm not a jealous person but I'm not naive neither. Why the hell would her ex have to stay at her place? Why would she even bring something like that up? Why even suggest it? It's been 6 months and maybe she feels different about the relationship. Me personally, i would go and see the other woman as well. Because at 50 you should already know what you want. And at 50 you should know how to treat people in a relationship. If you don't know by now then you don't need to be in a relationship because all you'll do is hurt others. She should know this. Don't let her see you vulnerable and needy. Trust your instincts and investigate a little bit. If you feel there's fowl play then break it off. If you feel this can be worked around then talk with her. But it looks like she's over 50 years old and haven't grown up yet. Link to post Share on other sites
Chi townD Posted June 6, 2012 Share Posted June 6, 2012 Geez, over 50 and still playing games. She told ou that some dude is coming into town and she's going to be hanging out with HIM for 4 days? Well, that shows you where her priorities are! I would say move on. There's a better life out there for you. Oh! and if you're hanging around an ex-trophy wife. You're acting no better than her and it's CERTAINLY not fair to the girl you're dating. Link to post Share on other sites
Lil1 Posted June 6, 2012 Share Posted June 6, 2012 (edited) you're both playing games in my opinion. Dating someone's ex-trophy wife to get a rise out of your current GF (give her 'a taste of her own medicine')? C'monnnnn:rolleyes: Why not have an open relationship? Seems like there are many older folk doing this nowadays. That, or be the adult and walk away with grace. Edited June 6, 2012 by Lil1 Link to post Share on other sites
sally4sara Posted June 6, 2012 Share Posted June 6, 2012 She has male friends and you don't like it even though you don't think she is romantically involved with any of her male friends. Okay that's not uncommon. You decide to give her a "taste of her own medicine" by cheating with a side piece? REAL MATURE You already got a new GF and don't like the way the first one handles friendships. Why not just break up first and then move on? Link to post Share on other sites
jnj express Posted June 8, 2012 Share Posted June 8, 2012 She's a 53 yr old woman who has probably many friends, from her past----she is not marrying you---why should she suborn her life to you????? Link to post Share on other sites
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