Jump to content

cam 2 cam...should i feel jealous?


Recommended Posts

truelovedoesnthurt

my boyfriend and i have a close relationship...i dont think he'd ever cheat. a while ago he said something about something he'd seen on a porn vid so i looked at his history...i found he'd been on netlog (a site where people can add eachother and chat etc) and he'd been looking at pictures of different girls.

 

i was fine about him looking at pictures, i dont mind that he watches porn-but looking at pictures and porn there is no interaction with another person. Also we've experimented with cam2cam with other couples before.

 

however, he'd been sending messages to girls eg. "you're stunning, do you have msn" and girls had sent back their hotmail addresses etc.

 

his profile says stuff like "looking for sexy girls to cam2cam with" and although he made it about 2 years ago hes been using it obviously without changing this and so im guessing he stil wants the same things...is this acceptable? i dont mind when im there but i dont know if i should be feeling jealous about him doing it alone.

 

also, im not really jealous of the cam2cam stuff its the interaction they would have...for example he might say she had lovely boobs or obviously he sent that message saying she was stunning etc. and the fact another girl could turn him on...

 

any comments would help...please!

Edited by truelovedoesnthurt
additions to story
Link to post
Share on other sites

That is totally unacceptable. Tell him to stop it else you're out. And make sure to do it if he doesn't. If you allow this to continue it will end in disaster.

 

Oh and make sure you don't tell him everything you know... if you do, he might just get better at covering it up.

Link to post
Share on other sites
lordWilhelm

Yes, this is awful... your feelings of jealousy are more than warranted. Really, he doesn't sound like a keeper, but you should at least give him the chance to see what he's doing is wrong.

 

Have a talk with him and be assertive about your position on this.

Link to post
Share on other sites
  • Author
truelovedoesnthurt

i almost feel like i have no right to confront him about it as i probably shouldnt have looked on his internet history, and if i hadnt i wouldnt have these concerns

 

i dont know if its just something exciting for him and its not the same girl all the time so he has no relationship with any of these other girls, as ive said we've experimented with things like this before as a couple, i dont know if its really any of by business what he does when im not there...am i being too trusting and naive?

 

AND i trust him completely that he wouldnt ever kiss etc anyone else, and its not emotional cheating...

 

i guess its just made me feel a little inadequate

Edited by truelovedoesnthurt
had more to add
Link to post
Share on other sites

You know what my ex did this kind of crap except his excuse was it made the other girls feel good about themselves and that it was "just interactive porn". Looking back it wasn't just porn, it was a form of cheating because although it wasn't physical he was being sexual with another girl other than myself, and to me that is cheating. Talk to your boyfriend, tell him how you feel, and if he doesn't see a problem with his actions you have to decide do you stay or do you walk away.

Link to post
Share on other sites
xpaperxcutx
i almost feel like i have no right to confront him about it as i probably shouldnt have looked on his internet history, and if i hadnt i wouldnt have these concerns

 

i dont know if its just something exciting for him and its not the same girl all the time so he has no relationship with any of these other girls, as ive said we've experimented with things like this before as a couple, i dont know if its really any of by business what he does when im not there...am i being too trusting and naive?

 

AND i trust him completely that he wouldnt ever kiss etc anyone else, and its not emotional cheating...

 

i guess its just made me feel a little inadequate

 

If you're thinking confronting him on this would make you a hypocrite, I sincerely doubt it.

 

He's off flirting with girls without your knowledge, that counts towards emotional cheating.

 

He really doesn't sound like a keeper.

Link to post
Share on other sites
  • Author
truelovedoesnthurt
You know what my ex did this kind of crap except his excuse was it made the other girls feel good about themselves and that it was "just interactive porn". Looking back it wasn't just porn, it was a form of cheating because although it wasn't physical he was being sexual with another girl other than myself, and to me that is cheating. Talk to your boyfriend, tell him how you feel, and if he doesn't see a problem with his actions you have to decide do you stay or do you walk away.

 

i dont really know how to bring it up...i dont want him to know i went on his internet history cause i feel like i shouldnt have

 

then again hes the one on the wrong so do you think he has a right to be annoyed that i went on it?

Link to post
Share on other sites
×
×
  • Create New...