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GF jealous of porn, I'm jealous of real guys


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The other night the SO and I were at a dance. Lots of mutual friends, a few of her guy friends. It was hot in there, for sure. Her guy friend keeps saying that he's too hot - she enthusiastically tells him to take off his shirt right in front of me. Tacky and inconsiderate or cute and harmless? I took offense and got jealous for sure. She could tell and later semi-apologized and told me that she'd like it if I'd take off my shirt as well - I have a real problem with that as I see guys with shirts off at dances to be meat-head idiots. I love to dance, with clothes on, unless everyone else is naked too! lol.

 

I know she's attracted to other guys, I'm fine with that and I'm not a jealous person. Let it be known that I'm certainly attracted to other girls too, I just though it was a rude thing to say right in front of me. If the tables were turned you know I'd be sleeping on the couch that night!

 

Meanwhile I decided to be honest about my porn collection. Yes I like porn. It's a tool for when I'm single or when the GF is not around or not interested. I liken it to her sex toy box under the bed and I do not see a difference. She can fantasize about any guy she wants to when she's diddling herself so what's the dif? Why such a problem with porn but it's OK to tell your guy friends to take off your shirt? What would have been said if I wasn't there?

 

critisms and opinions...

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I don't think there's anything wrong with watching porn, but then, I'm not your girlfriend.

 

And I'm the kind of person who always jokes about people being naked, so I don't know if your girlfriend was truly being inappropriate, or if it was just harmless flirting. I think telling a guy to take off his shirt is a bit different than telling a girl to take off her shirt, though. At least in this society.

 

The fact that she said it in front of you may indicate that she was maybe just engaging in harmless flirting. I do that too, as does my boyfriend.

 

Do you trust your girlfriend? Is she loving and attentive and does she satisfy you? If so, then don't worry about her.

 

I can't give you any good advice about the porn thing. You have the right to look at porn, and she has the right to decide if she wants to be in a relationship with a man who looks at porn.

 

In other words, I'm at a loss, but I think your situation sounds pretty normal, and no red flags are popping up. :bunny:

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