What you're experiencing is 100 percent NORMAL. He's with you isn't he? Of course that means he loves you/adores you/appreciates your positive attributes/finds you attractive. He shouldn't have to say it to remind you, you should already know for fact he is with you. Don't like what I just said? Well, that's how our men view it. I know it's a pain in the B-U-T-T. That cloud 9 infatuation feeling wears off, but it isn't a bad thing, it just means your love is becoming more "real".Love takes work, a lot of it. But in my experience it's all worth it. You have to keep pruning and re-potting and allowing your beautiful little love "bulb" to blossom.
When men fall into the comfort stage, it just that. Their comfort stage. They feel happy, loved, cuddly and snuggly,peaceful and content. You feel..like last weeks news, unappreciated, attention-aneorexic. For them the chase is over- they've found their lovely maiden, after all that persuing and going out of their way to get you, now they've got you and it's time to rest and enjoy the spoils! Are we being taken advantage of? Yes, but not intentionally. Our men truly love, adore, and appreciate us and the minute a threat comes to town be it real or imagined they will be vigiliant and on their feet to protect you and their love with you, it's just that comfort is about relaxing, it implies things are now honky dory.
Something about us women that we don't deal with comfort very well. For one, a woman never stops. If you think about it..we're working or housemaking or entertaining guests. We're the natural born multi-taskers and we don't transition into the comfort zone the way our men do. We see any sign of slow down and suddenly think something is going on, suddenly we're not attractive to our lovers, or they are bored with us, or they are lazy ungreatful so and so's taking advantage of the lovely and wonderful women in their lives!
There has to be a balance! As I've learned in my experience, that balance just may start with YOU. I had something similiar happen to me, and one eye opening conversation at the end of my frustration later- a lightbulb turned on. Typically when we think men are withdrawing from us we do the same on some visceral level or another. Maybe we've talked to him, he's apologized but nothing has changed, so we think okay time to show him: the problem is it doesn't solve anything and only furthers our frustration. You begin to pull away subtley to get his attention, only he may not notice, when he isn't picking up on what you're trying to "say" to him you begin to try harder, in your head- your relationship feels like it isn't working and you turn yourself into a neurotic headcase, he may start noticing but still not clearly understand what it is you're trying to communicate to him.
If you want to get a little primal hunting action from your man once in awhile (Uh, not THAT kind of action http://www.loveshack.org/forums/imag...ons/icon11.gif
) make yourself available and open and supportive, there for him but also be just ever so out of his reach. It's a delicate balancing act but I've learned it works.Above everything, consider the differences between men and women and our reception and response to serious relationships and being in love, it might put your mind at ease just to realise how much your man really does love and appreciate it even if he expresses it differently.