megnog Posted November 23, 2006 Share Posted November 23, 2006 i was looking at the last page of that eXTrEMELY long post "why do taken men look at porn?" and i began to think about how i feel on the subject. seemingly irrevelent, i started to think about how my bf told me i was an 8 on a 1-10 scale. also said that he's never seen anyone that could be a 10 on his scale. while i appreciate his honesty (i'm probably lower than an eight anyway) i kind of wish he would say i'm a 10! tell me i'm drop dead gorgeous and the prettiest thing he'd laid eyes on. of course the world knows this would not be true, but maybe just to him it would be. maybe he would just think i'm perfect. once again, if he said i was a 10 i would probably lightly argue about how i want to know what he REALLY thinks and of course i never win because i always want what i don't get... anyway my point IS is that bad? is it bad that he said i was an 8? and that no one is a ten? and what about that one day when he meets some girl that could be a ten? and shes a breath of fresh air and they just CLICK. i shouldn't fret because the chances are unlikely.. but i just wonder.. what would he do? hes met his 10 right.. idk.. maybe i'm losing it. thoughts anyone? Link to post Share on other sites
Trialbyfire Posted November 23, 2006 Share Posted November 23, 2006 Not too many women can be 10's without surgery, camera angles, photoshop and airbrushes. Don't worry about it. An 8 is pretty good. Link to post Share on other sites
magichands Posted November 23, 2006 Share Posted November 23, 2006 Does personality come in to this equation? Link to post Share on other sites
thelipless Posted November 23, 2006 Share Posted November 23, 2006 Does personality come in to this equation? yeah. there needs to be a balance. i need girls who i can get along with, that turns me on just as much as someone whos phsicaly hot. Some of the girls i know might be an 8 or 9 to me, but my friends think i'm crazy and say they are only a 5 or 6, but then they dont know their personality. just realised i went a bit off topic... Link to post Share on other sites
IpAncA Posted November 23, 2006 Share Posted November 23, 2006 See now that's why we shouldn't ask our SO what we are on a 0-10 scale. No one is happy no matter what he/she says. You wanted him to say you were a 10 but then you said you would lightly argue about it. You got the honest truth out of it. What more do you want? Seems like you wouldn't have been happy no matter what he said. Everyone has their own views of whos hot and whos not. I wouldn't worry about it or compare yourself to those women in porn videos because there is more to yourself then your looks. Just be glad he didn't say you were a 5 or less. I know I'm not a 10 but if I asked my H what I was, he better say I'm a 10 regardless if it's true or not. Link to post Share on other sites
alphamale Posted November 23, 2006 Share Posted November 23, 2006 idk.. maybe i'm losing it. thats a definite possibility... Link to post Share on other sites
Author megnog Posted November 23, 2006 Author Share Posted November 23, 2006 i was just curious as to what other people thought on the matter. i'm pretty sure (i can't remember) he said i was a 7 when we first met and now with personality i'm an 8. now thats kind of crummy... but i could be very wrong, this was long ago. its not something that i would get mad at him for. i can't change his opinion of me, physically at least. i was just wondering.. so thanks for the replies. except for alphamale.. i'm not losing it. just curious. Link to post Share on other sites
My Fair Katie Posted November 23, 2006 Share Posted November 23, 2006 ii'm pretty sure (i can't remember) he said i was a 7 when we first met and now with personality i'm an 8. now thats kind of crummy... Crummy, not to mention immature. Ratings are for figure skating, not the people you care about. Link to post Share on other sites
cutegirl Posted November 25, 2006 Share Posted November 25, 2006 I'm not sure how the rating scale has to do with porn. I've watched A LOT of porn, and most of those girls are very sub-par and not very attractive, certainly not in the caliber of Hollywood actresses or Playboy models. Many are very flawed, have acne, crooked teeth, cellulite. Even the ones who are all glammed up, many don't have real "beautiful faces", many age really fast, I can see wrinkles etc... Porno girls are usually not that hot. For example, I always thought Tera Patrick was ok looking but then I saw a candid shot of her smiling and her teeth were jacked! For most guys any hole will do, they would probably stick it in a girl who was a "4" as long as she has a hole, their small head can't think clear enough to judge beauty. But as to your question, I suggest you don't ask these type of questions anymore in the future, because no matter what the guy says it will make you wonder, like why am I an 8, why not a 9, and what makes a 10 etc... I know this because I used to ask this question myself a lot and then get pissed when I hear the answer. If the guy is smart he would say something to the equivalent of "You are the most beautiful to me in the world, no one else compares to you." Cause seriously, no matter what he rates you, if it's below a 10 you will question it. And even if he does rate you a 10 you would probably question his sincerity, such as "Am I REALLY a 10, or what does he mean by THAT?" Link to post Share on other sites
pricillia Posted November 25, 2006 Share Posted November 25, 2006 Being confident will boost your number way up. Every woman has imperfections it is accepting those imperfections and moving on.. Being sexy/sensual is not all about being a perfect 10 also with porn... it is just a way to get aroused... if a man would rather jerk off to a tv screen vs real woman the he is really insecure! Link to post Share on other sites
InLimbo2 Posted November 25, 2006 Share Posted November 25, 2006 Exactly - it's one of those 'chick trick questions' - the ones guys dread - and avoid at all costs - because no matter what they say, it's a lose/lose proposition for them. I'm a woman and I recognize it as such! I'm not sure how the rating scale has to do with porn. I've watched A LOT of porn, and most of those girls are very sub-par and not very attractive, certainly not in the caliber of Hollywood actresses or Playboy models. Many are very flawed, have acne, crooked teeth, cellulite. Even the ones who are all glammed up, many don't have real "beautiful faces", many age really fast, I can see wrinkles etc... Porno girls are usually not that hot. For example, I always thought Tera Patrick was ok looking but then I saw a candid shot of her smiling and her teeth were jacked! For most guys any hole will do, they would probably stick it in a girl who was a "4" as long as she has a hole, their small head can't think clear enough to judge beauty. But as to your question, I suggest you don't ask these type of questions anymore in the future, because no matter what the guy says it will make you wonder, like why am I an 8, why not a 9, and what makes a 10 etc... I know this because I used to ask this question myself a lot and then get pissed when I hear the answer. If the guy is smart he would say something to the equivalent of "You are the most beautiful to me in the world, no one else compares to you." Cause seriously, no matter what he rates you, if it's below a 10 you will question it. And even if he does rate you a 10 you would probably question his sincerity, such as "Am I REALLY a 10, or what does he mean by THAT?" Link to post Share on other sites
pricillia Posted November 25, 2006 Share Posted November 25, 2006 yes a woman that is secure does not need to ask a man how she looks, she believes in herself therefore she looks great. If a man gives you a complement such as you are a 8 say thank-you... so are you Link to post Share on other sites
pricillia Posted November 25, 2006 Share Posted November 25, 2006 I would take that I was an 8 a compliment... but I would also not ask those kind of questions. I would spend more time taking care of myself, inside and out...physical and emotional. Also if a man wanted to watch porn go ahead! as long as it does not interfere with our relationship... a little arousal could be just what the doctor orders. Take time to find out what pleases him but take the time to let him know what pleases you... men want to please. Encourage the things that you like and it will continue. But when you ask things like is my butt to big or are my breasts too small that just opens up the discussion for disapointment, I personally think that it is damaging to any relationship. A woman can be a 5 but be very confident which will make her an 8 and another woman can be a 10 but be unhappy ect and that would make her a 5... Link to post Share on other sites
magichands Posted November 25, 2006 Share Posted November 25, 2006 If a man gives you a complement such as you are a 8 say thank-you... so are you That's brilliant! Hahahahaha!! Link to post Share on other sites
Anka Posted November 26, 2006 Share Posted November 26, 2006 Good LORD! First off, i would love to see HIS picture!! Im sorry, rating a person on a scale is pretty shallow IMO. If my fiance said this to me i would smack him. And you are an 8 because HE said so, pffft. he should be apprecaiting you for who you are, not measuring you up, how utterly classless and disrespectful. Honey, do NOT lisen to him. Do not allow his foolish comment to take away your confidence, and remeber, noone is perfect. If he is going to make you doubt yourself and feel bad, you need to lose him and find that man that makes you feel like 10. Link to post Share on other sites
magichands Posted November 26, 2006 Share Posted November 26, 2006 If my fiance said this to me i would smack him. That's what I'm talking 'bout!! Link to post Share on other sites
Author megnog Posted November 27, 2006 Author Share Posted November 27, 2006 thanks for all the comments, i didn't expect to get such feedback! i know, i shouldn't have asked him what i was. i wouldn't now but it was back then when i felt like i shouldn't care because in all honesty, we don't rate people but we do in a sense where we think oh so-and-so is more attractive than so-and-so. i was just wondering what he felt i was. he actually told me he thought i was higher than he would be on a 1-10 scale so i guess he was just trying to be honest with me. of course, i would prefer he say something sweet but in reality i know for a fact i'm not a 10 based on looks and i would probably be like "no, tell me for real!!" i need to figure out when to stop though because i tend to ask questions that will have no good answer. questions like "what do you get off about when watching porn" . this is not exactly what i asked him but close to it and of course any answer he would give me is not something i want to think about. i don't like porn , i don't like the idea that my guy is jerking off to other women and i know for a fact my guy doesn't want to think about it the other way around. but i have to deal with it because i guess its "human nature" . now i'm going to go off subject here, but it makes me mad that in all (or i guess most) movies there is some kind of female nudity. and the one movie that apparently has male nudity, jackass 2, my bf says he doesn't want me to watch it. HA! man if only the tables were turned on this one, i think a lot more guys would be understanding as to why some of us females don't like porn. but there are women who like it, saying "i'd rather him get off to porn than a real woman", or "its perfectly healthy and natural" anyway, back to the real deal, in the future i will not ask a guy what i am on a scale of 1-10 because it can be degrading. sometimes my curious mind gets me into emotional trouble because i ask questions that i really shouldn't want to know the answer to. Link to post Share on other sites
magichands Posted November 27, 2006 Share Posted November 27, 2006 , i would prefer he say something sweet but in reality i know for a fact i'm not a 10 based on Can you imagine a really deep moment (no pun intended) with your bf, where you melt into his eyes and think to yourself "I love you so much!"? That's a 10. And why wouldn't he have moments like that too? With you, I mean. I think that if you truly love someone, then they mean the world to you. Love is multi-dimensional. Life is multi-dimensional. You are multi-dimensional. I think all this comparison stuff never gets us anywhere. If he wants to share his life with you, then you're the 10 in his life. And vice versa. Or maybe I'm wrong and you really are an 8. And if I shine my tusks up I reckon I'm a really solid 7. Link to post Share on other sites
aeren944 Posted November 27, 2006 Share Posted November 27, 2006 Can you imagine a really deep moment (no pun intended) with your bf, where you melt into his eyes and think to yourself "I love you so much!"? That's a 10. And why wouldn't he have moments like that too? With you, I mean. I think that if you truly love someone, then they mean the world to you. Love is multi-dimensional. Life is multi-dimensional. You are multi-dimensional. I think all this comparison stuff never gets us anywhere. If he wants to share his life with you, then you're the 10 in his life. And vice versa. Absolutely!!!!! That's so true!!!!! Link to post Share on other sites
Walk Posted November 27, 2006 Share Posted November 27, 2006 You were saying he never thinks of any girl as a ten... could it be that he wants an 8 because it makes him comfortable? I don't know... my bf likes that fact that I have some pudge in the middle, he says it makes him feel less self-concious about his body. He likes the fact that I don't have a perfect face because he knows he doens't have one. Maybe your bf verbally just threw up on himself trying to answer a loaded question... but sometimes being an 8 helps others to feel like they don't have to stay at the gym for 4 hours a night.. maybe an "8" allows him to sit on the couch like a slug shoving pizza and chips in his mouth while his "only an 8" gf sits next to him. Maybe an 8 allows him to be himself, and sometimes be gross and a little pudgy, or not quite motivated to look his best 100% of the time. I wouldn't ever want a 10. Call it lack of confidence or self-esteem or whtaever. But I love the fact that my bf isn't a 10. I just feel comfortable with him. That's more important to me then any scale on the look departments. Link to post Share on other sites
magichands Posted November 27, 2006 Share Posted November 27, 2006 I just feel comfortable with him. That's more important to me then any scale on the look departments. And that's exactly why your bf is a 10. There was never any mention of the "looks department" in the original post - that has been inferred. If you want to do an assessment, then consider all the angles. Link to post Share on other sites
Storyrider Posted November 27, 2006 Share Posted November 27, 2006 Speaking of shallow rating systems...I used to work with almost all men. Sometimes they treated me as one of the guys, and during one of these moments they told me their system. It was a 1-3 scale "to keep things simple," they explained. 3 was a goddess. 2 was, "I'd do her." (their words, not mine.) 1 was, well, you can guess. I told them under no circumstances were they to rate me within my hearing. Link to post Share on other sites
IpAncA Posted November 28, 2006 Share Posted November 28, 2006 Speaking of shallow rating systems...I used to work with almost all men. Sometimes they treated me as one of the guys, and during one of these moments they told me their system. It was a 1-3 scale "to keep things simple," they explained. 3 was a goddess. 2 was, "I'd do her." (their words, not mine.) 1 was, well, you can guess. I told them under no circumstances were they to rate me within my hearing. I can see it now: Guy one: I'll give her a 2.. Guy two: 2.56 Guy three: Undecided. Need to see a$$ again Link to post Share on other sites
magichands Posted November 28, 2006 Share Posted November 28, 2006 It was a 1-3 scale "to keep things simple," they explained. 3 was a goddess. Come on, Storyrider... you are most definitely a 3. Philosophically speaking, of course. Link to post Share on other sites
Anka Posted November 28, 2006 Share Posted November 28, 2006 People that rate other people on a scale are shallow idiots:mad: Everyone is different, and everyone has there own special appeal. Maybe that one of the difference between boys and men, and girls and women. Link to post Share on other sites
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