ELS_sn777 Posted January 3, 2006 Share Posted January 3, 2006 Hi everyone, I'm a college student and, so far, have been pretty busy and haven't had much experience with girls (I'm pretty disgusted at the idea of randomly going to parties and bagging girls just for one-night stands). However, the few times that I have asked a few girls out on campus, they already had BF's, and a couple of them seemed really offended at my asking them out--like I'm supposed to already know that they're already taken. Have many of you run into situations like this? Is the best way to find out still just asking a girl out directly, or is it better to do "research" by asking different other people that may know this about her. Actually, this kind of thing pisses me off. When I was a first-semester freshman, a lot of girls were still going steady w/ BF's from high school, and by spring semester, some of them had already found new boyfriends. It seems that finding that transient window of time when she's free is just a matter of blind luck. Link to post Share on other sites
Lucasarts Posted January 3, 2006 Share Posted January 3, 2006 not a matter of blind luck friend, its a matter of just trying to make friends with as many college girls as possible in hopes that when one breaks up and you like her...well thats the time to swoop in for the kill. Link to post Share on other sites
Author ELS_sn777 Posted January 3, 2006 Author Share Posted January 3, 2006 Well, Lucas, I guess I've been pretty ignorant all these years. I'm gonna be in the second sem of my junior year, and I'm 20 yrs old, but my social life consists of a few male friends (~10) and like 2 female friends (with neither of which I'm interested in having a relationship). And I usually only hang out with them on weekends (SOME weekends). How do you (responses from anyone else viewing are welcome) think it would be received if suddenly I started being "more social" and hanging out around people that I've known before but with whom I didn't make much contact? Would they welcome me as a positively changed person, or would they just avoid me and think I'm some sort of loser w/ a strange change in character? I know that everyone is different and opinions about me will differ, but there has to be an "average" instinctive human response to a person that would have such a sudden change in behavior. I'm asking about that average. The thing about my situation is that I've really been focusing on my schoolwork and competitive sport (which, by the way is a singles racquet sport--not much social contact there) and other extracurriculars up until now. I will continue to work hard at these, but I also want to start developing a halfway decent social life--I can feel the lack thereof starting to take a toll on me, with my getting more jumpy and pissed off than I used to be. Thanks Link to post Share on other sites
Lucasarts Posted January 3, 2006 Share Posted January 3, 2006 hmmm well at least you have some friends to help you out here as long as you're an outgoing person, friendly, knows how to dish some sh*t on people as well as take some, be good natured and keep a conversation up i think many ppl will welcome your new behavior as a good one. plus this will get you more guys and girls. a good way to start, you say you're focused on your school work right? are there any girls in the class? now dont be thinking you have to get with the hot ones in it, just simply try to be friends with those you feel would be the most comfortable to be talking to. oh and make an effort to hang out with your two female friends more, they'll be a good way to help interact and be more at ease with girls. the average response for someone who is reclusive to be all of a sudden outgoing and social depends on how this "changed" person's new behavior is like. If it's a behavior thats arrogant or extremely annoying, then obviously no one is going to like you. and also, it depends on the crowd a lil bit as well. i guess if you really want to become social its all about adapting to the people you're socializing with. Link to post Share on other sites
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