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Old 2nd January 2018, 11:58 PM   #16
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you think suggesting another day/time would be better? I mean it would be customary to suggest an alternate date if you are unavailable, right?
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Where in the hell did you get from his post that he thinks you need to suggest another day!?
I'm confused by your comment since that is exactly what he asked.
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Old 3rd January 2018, 12:02 AM   #17
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I'm confused by your comment since that is exactly what he asked.
looking back at our texts, she hasn't been the best texter

I see no harm is proposing another date. If she wants to go she will, if not, quicker to move on!
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Old 3rd January 2018, 12:06 AM   #18
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Ok I read your other post. Is it possible, that suggesting something that's HER thing, is trying too hard when you've only been out twice?
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Old 3rd January 2018, 12:07 AM   #19
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looking back at our texts, she hasn't been the best texter

I see no harm is proposing another date. If she wants to go she will, if not, quicker to move on!
Yeah, propose a date idea to her tomorrow late afternoon, which would be perfect since how many people actually plan this ahead for weekend plans. I would start by asking her how her week has been. Good luck!!
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Old 3rd January 2018, 2:21 AM   #20
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The problem with dating in today's world of instant text gratification is that people cannot be patient. Then, you throw in online dating profiles where men and women can juggle up to 10, 15, 20, 30 possibilities at a time. It's no wonder that there is any commitment level going on in today's world. I am 52 years old and frankly, you couldn't pay me to post another online profile anywhere. I got caught up in all this rubbish of "what does it mean when he texts this?" "If he doesn't text back right away, does it mean he isn't interested?" Good god Lemon! Dating is turning into a whole new level of neurosis and anxiety ridden disorders. And, those friggin emojis??? What does it mean if he sends the blowing kiss with a wink versus the kiss without a wink? People are having severe angst over a stupid emoji!
My advice to you avoforastig - just pick up the phone and call her. Ask her out to a movie, dinner, theater, music festival...whatever. If she says no, move on and if she says yes, then tell her you will follow up with details on the time, etc.
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Old 3rd January 2018, 2:54 AM   #21
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The problem with dating in today's world of instant text gratification is that people cannot be patient. Then, you throw in online dating profiles where men and women can juggle up to 10, 15, 20, 30 possibilities at a time. It's no wonder that there is any commitment level going on in today's world. I am 52 years old and frankly, you couldn't pay me to post another online profile anywhere. I got caught up in all this rubbish of "what does it mean when he texts this?" "If he doesn't text back right away, does it mean he isn't interested?" Good god Lemon! Dating is turning into a whole new level of neurosis and anxiety ridden disorders. And, those friggin emojis??? What does it mean if he sends the blowing kiss with a wink versus the kiss without a wink? People are having severe angst over a stupid emoji!
My advice to you avoforastig - just pick up the phone and call her. Ask her out to a movie, dinner, theater, music festival...whatever. If she says no, move on and if she says yes, then tell her you will follow up with details on the time, etc.
Well said.

Iím 50 and even in 7th grade I had to have the courage to ask a girl, in person, to ďgo steadyĒ. I couldnít hide behind a text.

FYI, it only lasted two days once her parents found out. Haha But guess what, even in 7th grade she told me the bad news...over the phone.
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Old 3rd January 2018, 8:01 AM   #22
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I think she is no longer interested.
It happens.

I would move on and not contact her again.
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Old 3rd January 2018, 8:55 AM   #23
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It's strange that she texted after the second date. It's been 24 hrs---so make other plans. Sorry!
This is very bad advice and without ANY thought.

Its ONLY been 24 hours. Given an average human need 8 hours sleep, and has working hours in their life.

I dsay leave the ball in her court. She`ll get back in touch if shes interested.
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Old 3rd January 2018, 8:58 AM   #24
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The problem with dating in today's world of instant text gratification is that people cannot be patient. Then, you throw in online dating profiles where men and women can juggle up to 10, 15, 20, 30 possibilities at a time. It's no wonder that there is any commitment level going on in today's world. I am 52 years old and frankly, you couldn't pay me to post another online profile anywhere. I got caught up in all this rubbish of "what does it mean when he texts this?" "If he doesn't text back right away, does it mean he isn't interested?" Good god Lemon! Dating is turning into a whole new level of neurosis and anxiety ridden disorders. And, those friggin emojis??? What does it mean if he sends the blowing kiss with a wink versus the kiss without a wink? People are having severe angst over a stupid emoji!
My advice to you avoforastig - just pick up the phone and call her. Ask her out to a movie, dinner, theater, music festival...whatever. If she says no, move on and if she says yes, then tell her you will follow up with details on the time, etc.
Great advice! I also agree people want everything in one go. We`re just human. We make mistakes along the way nor do we always know what the other person wants.

Take a bit of time and dont give up too soon. She may be busy at work or have other commitments. If youre too pushy and needy. It can also drive the other person away.
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Old 3rd January 2018, 12:21 PM   #25
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I sent her another message just to see how her workday went, we had been texting daily so I thought I'd give this possible ghoster a last try.

Ugh was that a bad idea?
No it was not a bad idea. Technology fails it's not perfect and when things have been unfolding smoothly and you don't get a response from a text you don't start assuming anything you just reach out again and see for yourself.

Now you have done that, you know she isn't dead and she is not ignoring you.

From here let her get back to you. It sounds like she lost a bit of interest over the weekend, maybe she went on a date with someone else and it clicked, who knows. Bottom line is you had 2 dates only so the hunting season is still open for someone else to catch her. Keep an open mind, make dates with other women, she may come around or she may not.
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This is very bad advice and without ANY thought.

Its ONLY been 24 hours. Given an average human need 8 hours sleep, and has working hours in their life.

I dsay leave the ball in her court. She`ll get back in touch if shes interested.

I couldnít disagree more. She said she had Pilates - fine, but why not suggest alternative date plans if she really liked him? If I liked a guy but had plans when he arranged a date, I would be tripping over myself to organise something else and hoping he doesnít think Iím being flaky.

She isnít interested anymore. Watch and see.
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