LoveShack.org Community Forums

Reload this Page LoveShack.org Community Forums > Romantic > Dating

Damn date sites, what do you do with this ?


Dating Dating, courting, or going steady? Things not working out the way you had hoped? Stand up on your soap box and let us know what's going on!

Like Tree41Likes
Reply
 
LinkBack Thread Tools Display Modes
Old 12th December 2017, 9:49 PM   #1
Established Member
 
Join Date: Feb 2017
Posts: 1,684
Damn date sites, what do you do with this ?

Damn date sites and people , what do l do with this ?

l'd only ever been on one for a few wks after my divorce . later l met someone we've been at it a few yrs but it hasn't worked out and just for a bit of fun really, nothing serious just yet, a few wks ago l joined one again.
like l said not too seriously and l've met a few nice ladies but no one that hits the spot.

Wasn't too fussed , until !
4 or 5 days ago , low and behold l came across someone l really , really , like. and not only but we have a shyt load going for us.
So l liked her and she liked me back , sent her a message and damn , nothing .

She's been on , took a little peak.

l can't effg believe it. Got all these other women chatting away and coming and going but this one hasn't gotten back to me. FFFFF.

What do you do with a situation like this, is there anything l can do ?
l mean she liked me almost straight away, now, nothing.
Chilli is offline   Reply With Quote
Old 12th December 2017, 9:55 PM   #2
Established Member
 
Join Date: Feb 2008
Posts: 47,023
Journal Entries: 39
It doesn't sound like you met this person. Correct?

If you didn't meet, premature assessment?

There's a lot of sizzle on dating sites but as Clara Peller used to opine, where's the beef? That's in the pressing of the flesh.

Soldier on. Most of us have been there. Makes the ones that do work out even more sweet.
carhill is offline   Reply With Quote
Old 12th December 2017, 9:58 PM   #3
Established Member
 
Join Date: Jul 2016
Posts: 2,181
First, donít like them before you even meet them. You might hate her in person or more likely you will never meet.

Iíve had many women on bumble reach out to me and go completely silent after I respond. Still kept me matched, just never responded so I give them a week and unmatch them.

I only get excited when we are having sex. Anything before that is bs.

And chances are it wonít work out long term anyway so the excitement doesnít last long.

Sorry to be a downer, but this is online dating.
SevenCity is offline   Reply With Quote
Old 12th December 2017, 10:00 PM   #4
Established Member
 
Join Date: Feb 2017
Posts: 1,684
Weirdest thing is , we're both unusual people yet our pages read like twins, she's been on it a couple of years , likes me straight away, no brainer , yet nothing !

No we haven't met yet , she still hasn't gotten back to my first message !

Yeah om my site you have to like each other back first before you can email.

Last edited by Chilli; 12th December 2017 at 10:06 PM..
Chilli is offline   Reply With Quote
Old 12th December 2017, 10:10 PM   #5
Established Member
 
Join Date: Feb 2017
Posts: 1,684
Yeah l mean you don't know until you meet but yaknow, if all looks great then at least the first part's good.

Pretty damn frustrating these date sites aren't they.
Chilli is offline   Reply With Quote
Old 12th December 2017, 10:44 PM   #6
Established Member
 
Join Date: Oct 2017
Posts: 660
I'll preface this by saying I'm a bit cynical by nature, but I think all online contact is phony. Until you meet somebody in the real world, it's just fantasy. I don't even understand the concept of "liking" a woman I've never met or talked to.
joseb likes this.
Highndry is offline   Reply With Quote
Old 12th December 2017, 10:58 PM   #7
Established Member
 
Join Date: Apr 2016
Location: Queensland, Australia
Posts: 221
Bad manners abound on date sites because people think if they have no intention of meeting the person it's OK to be ignorant and ill-mannered, despite the fact that it costs absolutely nothing to be polite. The upside of this is that if someone thinks that way they're probably a douche so you're actually better off not wasting your time or energy meeting them. People are fickle too, they will 'like' a profile but then suddenly not have the courage to follow it up with chat. Lots of people are shy and/or lacking in confidence and it's a big thing telling some random stranger you think they're a hottie and opening yourself up to possible rejection. Date sites are also full of people who just get on there for the ego boost. They love getting 'likes', they're addicted to it. They don't want to date, or even chat, they just want you to admire them. The really attractive women are waiting there for some rich, handsome dude to spot them, meantime they'll take as many 'likes' as they can get just so their massive ego gets fed it's daily requirement of Narcissistic Supply. On the other hand, many men use dates sites as a way of preying on emotionally vulnerable women, so at any given time you'll have a LOT of women on there too afraid to speak to someone because they're still licking their wounds over their last encounter with some sleazy creep.
Another thing to keep in mind is that many date sites, (especially free ones), are chockablock full of OS scammers, (mostly from West Africa), and if a profile is good-looking and seems sincere and charming there's a good chance it's one of these scumbags looking for a victim.
Date sites - meh!
Chilli likes this.
MsJayne is offline   Reply With Quote
Old 12th December 2017, 11:23 PM   #8
Established Member
 
Join Date: Jun 2014
Posts: 1,735
What exactly was your message to her?
basil67 likes this.
dumbass2 is offline   Reply With Quote
Old 13th December 2017, 12:21 AM   #9
Established Member
 
Join Date: Feb 2017
Posts: 1,684
Yeah it's ridiculous really.
l mean she's on there 2 yrs, because l know as a a guy she's very different and not many will be interested. She wouldn't find another match like me our stuff is too out there, yet hasn't answered.

My message , ahh, nothing flash , talking to plenty of other women though hasn't been a problem.
Typical isn't it , ya see it all over LS , the one ya really want , nada.

She's not a scammer , did some checking.

Should you message someone again or just drop it , youch ?
Chilli is offline   Reply With Quote
Old 13th December 2017, 12:24 AM   #10
Established Member
 
Join Date: Feb 2008
Posts: 47,023
Journal Entries: 39
A woman, or man, who's been on a dating site 2 years would raise a red flag for me, different or not. We're all different. A woman, given the normal deluge even a 'different' one gets, has reviewed a lot of stuff in two years and hopefully gone on a lot of dates too. Fishy.
carhill is offline   Reply With Quote
Old 13th December 2017, 12:25 AM   #11
Established Member
 
Join Date: Feb 2017
Posts: 1,684
Although , could one of he other 20 things msjane talked about l guess.
Chilli is offline   Reply With Quote
Old 13th December 2017, 12:27 AM   #12
Established Member
 
Join Date: Feb 2017
Posts: 1,684
Quote:
Originally Posted by carhill View Post
A woman, or man, who's been on a dating site 2 years would raise a red flag for me, different or not. We're all different. A woman, given the normal deluge even a 'different' one gets, has reviewed a lot of stuff in two years and hopefully gone on a lot of dates too. Fishy.
Would it huh.
So what 2 years is fishy is it ?
hmm, got a lot to learn about these damn date sites.
Chilli is offline   Reply With Quote
Old 13th December 2017, 12:31 AM   #13
Established Member
 
Join Date: Feb 2008
Posts: 47,023
Journal Entries: 39
Back when I was getting divorced I happened to date a couple of such ladies, meaning we went on dates, did stuff, etc, one for about a month and another for six weeks or so. They came across as 'professional daters'. Went through the motions, perhaps enjoyed things a bit, but it all struck me as superficial. It was at that point I closed out my OLD profile and never dated again. Done.
carhill is offline   Reply With Quote
Old 13th December 2017, 12:39 AM   #14
Established Member
 
Join Date: Feb 2017
Posts: 1,684
Yeah right, last thing l'd go for is a pro dater and l've generally always had a very good eye in women. l'd be amazed if she was doubt that very much butttt, never can tell on one of those places l suppose.

So what did you do after you closed the account?
Chilli is offline   Reply With Quote
Old 13th December 2017, 12:54 AM   #15
Established Member
 
Join Date: Feb 2008
Posts: 47,023
Journal Entries: 39
Used the money I spent on it and bought beer.

As I shared, I never dated again. That was back in 2010. I think I posted about it at the time, can't remember.
Chilli likes this.
carhill is offline   Reply With Quote
Reply

Bookmarks

Thread Tools
Display Modes

 

Similar Threads
Thread Thread Starter Forum Replies Last Post
Can other people see who you contacted on date sites ? Chilli Dating 8 14th March 2017 8:54 AM
Are there any 'blind date' sites? JuneJulySeptember Dating 12 1st April 2015 2:18 PM
How I tried to pitch in for date night and how he told me to put my damn wallet away mammasita Dating 61 22nd November 2013 5:48 AM
If not for online dating sites, I'd never have a date! SnowandStars Dating 6 6th June 2011 4:29 AM

 

All times are GMT -4. The time now is 5:11 AM.

Please note: The suggestions and advice offered on this web site are opinions only and are not to be used in the place of professional psychological counseling or medical advice. If you or someone close to you is currently in crisis or in an emergency situation, contact your local law enforcement agency or emergency number.


Copyright © 1997-2013 LoveShack.org. All Rights Reserved.