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Old 10th November 2017, 12:39 PM   #31
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Surely you jest.

I understand where you are coming from - but do you read anyone else's posts? I did not tally but I estimate that 7 out of 10 posters on that other thread, if not more, would never even consider adding strangers just starting to date on their social media.

The answer to the OP's problem would have been to delete her friend request. Then he would not be in the position to have to worry about what a stranger thinks about how he manages his social media.

Where is the head banging smiley?
I'm going to assume that people are exchanging last names right out the gates otherwise how else would she have found you if you didn't reach out to her first.

My FB profile is unsearchable, meaning I don't use my real name, don't have a PFP of myself and have my account on lock down.

Any guy who asks me about friending one another on FB, I just straight up tell them that I don't add random people and that my list is very small with only close friends and family.

I have yet to meet someone who didn't respect or appreciate that.

Not sure if there are double standards here but it seems pretty simple to me.
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Old 10th November 2017, 12:42 PM   #32
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I'm going to assume that people are exchanging last names right out the gates otherwise how else would she have found you if you didn't reach out to her first.

My FB profile is unsearchable, meaning I don't use my real name, don't have a PFP of myself and have my account on lock down.

Any guy who asks me about friending one another on FB, I just straight up tell them that I don't add random people and that my list is very small with only close friends and family.

I have yet to meet someone who didn't respect or appreciate that.

Not sure if there are double standards here but it seems pretty simple to me.
You can type their phone number into Facebook and find people that way. In my case, I have a very unusual first name so it wasn't hard to find me.
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Old 10th November 2017, 12:48 PM   #33
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You can type their phone number into Facebook and find people that way. In my case, I have a very unusual first name so it wasn't hard to find me.
Gotta love FB and their love of transparency.

Again, you can only track someone down if they want to tracked down. The more info you add in your FB profile, the more searchable you become. 2+2=4.

Regardless, it's a mute point. What's done is done and now you've deactivated your account. Ball is in her court.

Lesson learned about FB and friending newbies.
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Old 10th November 2017, 12:50 PM   #34
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Surely you jest.

I understand where you are coming from - but do you read anyone else's posts? I did not tally but I estimate that 7 out of 10 posters on that other thread, if not more, would never even consider adding strangers just starting to date on their social media.

The answer to the OP's problem would have been to delete her friend request. Then he would not be in the position to have to worry about what a stranger thinks about how he manages his social media.

Where is the head banging smiley?
Nuevo, that's true, but many do care. The OP of that thread. Someone admitted they wouldn't entertain the thought of a first date with a guy unless he was searchable online and they were able to extract enough info about him prior.


Hasn't been my experience online guys are cool with ignoring their friend requests/follow requests either. They don't just forget. They will continue to lowkey harrass you. One went so far as to accuse me of perhaps being underaged because I go to great lengths to not be searchable online. I am on the sad side of 20. It's a shame, but if you're in your 20s and have no or little social media presence,you are viewed as a bit of a pariah...

Like I said, I believe it's heavily age-dependent. Older people won't care as much. The older the person is the more likely they are to be against the sharing of personal information online, sometimes approaching a bit technophobic. Normal. You won't see too many 23 year olds say they are afraid of putting pics or information about themselves up online though. I think if someone said that at 23 they would be viewed by their peers as a paranoid - someone who most likely also believes government mind control and chem trails are a pressing issue


But your point stands. OP should be themselves and only do what they're comfortable with so they will find someone who is compatible with them.

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Old 10th November 2017, 1:09 PM   #35
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Gotta love FB and their love of transparency.

Again, you can only track someone down if they want to tracked down. The more info you add in your FB profile, the more searchable you become. 2+2=4.

Regardless, it's a mute point. What's done is done and now you've deactivated your account. Ball is in her court.

Lesson learned about FB and friending newbies.
She knows when she added me on Facebook that I told her I don't use it much, I'm sure she won't take offence but she'll wonder what's up. Social media has caused more problems than not for me in dating.. Relationships fine, but dating no.

I'll be honest, my last text didn't warrant a response but I don't know whether to stay incognito and let her reach out to me. I'd assume if she likes me still, she will, because I sent the last text.
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its social media likes doesnt mean much i sometimes like my female friends photos cause they look good or sometimes they put nice photos of them being somewhere cool

some of these females i dont even interact with in person
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Nuevo, that's true, but many do care. The OP of that thread. Someone admitted they wouldn't entertain the thought of a first date with a guy unless he was searchable online and they were able to extract enough info about him prior.
That's valid. My issue on the other thread was the beating the guy was taking for being one of the vast majority of people who do not share all personal information with randos no matter how attracted they are.

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I go to great lengths to not be searchable online.
Confused. Haven't you been very adamant that if a person does not reveal all their personal info, photos, friends, dating history, etc. around first meeting they are a sneaky liar?

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Like I said, I believe it's heavily age-dependent. Older people won't care as much.
My daughter is early 20's and she tells me that Facebook is for old people like me. She laughed when I talked to her about this thread.

Cookies, believe me when I tell you that I am not trying to change your mind. You do you. My issue is when you and a couple of others persist in casting the majority of folks who would not add a new dating prospect on social media as shady or that no one would maintain interest. Not the case as many here will tell you if you wanted to hear us. Mostly we value whatever privacy we have in this digital age and also, frankly, do not want people who we might not be interested in next week (or vice versa) inspecting our personal lives. It's not appropriate, and it's awkward to then delete them.

I agree that everybody should have the real name of someone they are going out with.
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Old 12th November 2017, 8:43 AM   #39
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Is the deeper question here that you're "liking" the pic of someone else apart from this girl who you might be interested in romantically? And you're wondering if continuing to cultivate that prospect is ok? Two dates in, probably fine. Further down, I'd be careful.

If it's not what you're getting at I apologize.
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So you've been on two dates with a guy but you're not exclusive. What if he likes another girl's picture on Facebook? Does that put you off and annoy you? Or do you see it that he possibly has other options?

I'd understand if you were exclusive/in a relationship, this would be a huge problem but for someone you've only gone on two dates with, it would be okay right? If you both met through OLD and you're both online on it, I figured it would be the same as you're still "looking".
My boyfriend likes photos of his friends all the time. Sometimes they are girls. I do the same. So what?
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