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Old 9th November 2017, 8:16 PM   #1
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odd situation with girl I'm dating

To give some background, I've been going out with this girl a little over a month. We usually hang out/go on dates a few times a week. We are both 30, she lives with a roommate, and I live by myself.

Here's the situation...I'm ALWAYS the one driving to see her (she lives about 35-40 minutes away). Anytime I come up with an idea out my direction she always acts totally uninterested and comes up with ideas of things to do out her way, or she tells me to come over and sleep at her place for the night. Weird thing is, her parents don't live too far from me (10 minutes), and when she does go to see them and I offer for her to come over, or do anything near me, she doesn't seem to want to.

Literally the past 15 times I've seen her (possibly more), it's always been out her direction...she's never seen my place, and again, even when she is out this way she doesn't seem to want to.

I find this behavior very weird. I feel like there is maybe someone else in the picture she doesn't want to run into? Not really sure how I should handle it or if I'm thinking too much into it...all I know is I'm racking up so many miles, and I feel like I'm not home half my days off because I'm always out her way.

She always says, "I'm so sorry for making you drive to see me, I'll come your way next time" but she never does. Ugh
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Old 11th November 2017, 8:50 AM   #2
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Tell her you want to take her out round your way. If she declines don't go on a date with her round her area. Ask her again a few days later if she wants to do something round your way. If he declines again then i would think about moving on.

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Old 11th November 2017, 9:10 AM   #3
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I think you are on to something. She has someone or something going on where you are and she wants to avoid it or him/her.

I would find out what is going on. As her straight-up why she wont see you where you are? Is she trying to avoid someone?
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Old 11th November 2017, 10:05 AM   #4
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How long has she lived where she does now? I dated a girly once who did exactly this....the difference was that she had an ex that hurt her terribly and he lived in the town that i lived. She was terrified to run into him. Not necessarily a deal breaker for me other than the fact that she lived 3 hours from where i was.

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Old 11th November 2017, 11:35 AM   #5
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All the information is right here, in your other two threads about this gal. Nothing has changed, she's just not that into you. You're like plan B or C.

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