Is she in a rebound relationship??

[MrGreenJeans95]

so my girlfriend who I dated for a year and 2 months broke up with me for the second time, on the 1st of October to be exact. I met her on July 2016 and started dating toward the end of August that same year, The first break up was in July 2017 because she says we would fight too much and she wasn’t sure how she was feeling towards me, and started getting feelings for her best friend/sorta ex from high school, I tried fighting to keep the relationship going but she wouldn’t accept it and so all I could do is let her go... Anyways, her and her best guy friend, they had a thing in high school(about a year or two ago) and he ****ed her over somehow and she was really hurt, so he then deeply apologized to her, they then decided to stay close friends since then..

 

Anyways, she broke up with me the first time in July, we were broken up for about two weeks. She broke up with me then right after she started hanging out with that guy from high school again. But during those two weeks of being broken up, they both had a thing again and she would always contact me, asking how I’m doing, what I’ve been up to and telling me how much she needed me in her life and missed me but still wouldn’t get back with me. And sometimes she would call me while I’m out with girlfriends and I’d tell her I’m with them and she’d start crying and hang up. It was like she hates that I’m with them but still won’t do anything about as if I dumped her or something so I was confused on why she gets sad, she kind of asked for this.. But until two weeks later from the break up, I went to her house to drop off her stuff and as I was giving her her stuff she started crying and saying things like she doesn’t know why she did what she did and that it was a big mistake and how she wanted me back and how much she couldn’t go without me. And shortly after that she started getting a panic attack because she realize that she was losing me. After I calmed her down that day, we went to the park and we talked and she ended up calling the guy and telling him that they can’t be a thing anymore and that she still loves me.. So that day she cut him out and then we dated for another two months (till October 1st) then she started telling me things like she’s unhappy, thefighting was back and nothing really changed from the first time around, like when we got back together, as soon as we got comfortable again, we went back to all the problems we had the first relationship so she broke up with me again saying she wants to better herself and that she’s not ready for a relationship and that she’s stressed but then... I Find out 2-3 days later she’s officially dating that guy.... she’s already posting things about him saying that she loves him and stuff, how so quick?? and she hasn’t reached out to me or told me she misses me, doesn’t care I’m out with girls or anything like she did the last break up it’s like she literally doesn’t care about me anymore... we haven’t talked for about a month, I feel like she’s forgetting about me... I plan on not reaching out to her at all... is her mind set on dating this guy or is he just a rebound? Should I just move on?

[act00]

The first time it didn't work, and the second time it didn't work. Don't bother with her anymore. Plus she's ping-ponging with this other guy. She is YOU in this situation with this other guy who keeps bouncing back and she keeps getting sucked in. She will prioritize him as long as he'll have her or until she realizes he's messing with her. I suspect you'll do the same...hopefully you'll wise up. If you were "it," she wouldn't have entertain this other guy, let alone any guy who takes interest.

 

She doesn't know what she wants. Things were probably rocky and unsure with #1, so she tried to maintain something with you, but she was clinging to something, and now since #1 has decided to keep her, she's focusing on him. Who knows if she'll reach out again, especially if #1 starts pulling back or is not the man she thought he was. You may decide to give it another shot, but what makes round three any different than the first two? How long before she loses interest and moves on again...and again.

 

You two bicker a lot and that's not a good sign. Who starts it? What are these fights about? If it's her, it's probably because she really isn't that into you and things aren't meshing well/incompatible. Little things can become huge issues when relationships are unhappy. Maybe it's you starting these arguments and she just can't do it anymore.

 

Stop the cycle. It's not working.

[elaine567]

Of course you need to move on.

She dilly dallied, didn't know what she really wanted but now she does, so let her go.

The past is irrelevant as is the future as far as you are concerned.

 

It doesn't actually matter if this is a rebound or not, she ultimately did not choose you, so that is no good for you.

 

Go find a girl who who will put you first, who is not always fighting with you, who doesn't have a ex/bff hanging around her, and who knows that you are the one for her.

[basil67]

No, it's not rebound. She's been on her way out the door since all the fighting prior to your first break up way back in July. Getting back together and starting fighting again simply underscored your basic incompatibility.

[smackie9]

What does it matter? It's over, it wasn't meant to be, so move on. You need to stop lurking on social media too.