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Old 30th September 2017, 4:58 PM   #16
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Almost everyone meets more than one person they are compatible with. Most date several throughout their lives. But like Zahara said, you barely knew this guy , so you don't know if he's one you're compatible with. Most likely not. I think you got swept away by the physical and the front he put on...

Try to stay busy and active with hobbies and activities. Too much free time can really drive you crazy. Every time you feel yourself checking your phone compulsively, overthinking things, getting antsy...busy yourself with something productive.
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Old 1st October 2017, 9:19 AM   #17
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You're all right. So as him saying "How about Monday?" for trying to see each other again... I should not reach out to him at all and confirm him saying this? If he really meant that, do you think he will initiate a text to confirm that on Monday?

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Old 1st October 2017, 10:21 AM   #18
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Nah you should move on. Block/delete. This guy is bad news for you. I know you're going to try anyway xD but I think you're going to prolong your suffering
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You're all right. So as him saying "How about Monday?" for trying to see each other again... I should not reach out to him at all and confirm him saying this? If he really meant that, do you think he will initiate a text to confirm that on Monday?
Wait!

All this texting really wasn't needed! Why didn't just call him up and meet somewhere to talk over things, before you both had jump to conclusions!

I're read all to this point you clearly have shown me you really like this guy and sure your 4 years older than him again that doesn't matter. He's still in training or going to school whatever he has to do that is work related can be a toll on his life. EMT/Fire Rescue etc.. He will always be on the go 24/7 for his career.

Either you have to have patience or just move on... But it seems you like him dearly. Wait no more texting let him reach out to you, but to me it looks like there has been damage already to this new affair.. Where do you both stand now. Are you both looking good or not?
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Old 1st October 2017, 11:59 AM   #20
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Wait!

All this texting really wasn't needed! Why didn't just call him up and meet somewhere to talk over things, before you both had jump to conclusions!

I're read all to this point you clearly have shown me you really like this guy and sure your 4 years older than him again that doesn't matter. He's still in training or going to school whatever he has to do that is work related can be a toll on his life. EMT/Fire Rescue etc.. He will always be on the go 24/7 for his career.

Either you have to have patience or just move on... But it seems you like him dearly. Wait no more texting let him reach out to you, but to me it looks like there has been damage already to this new affair.. Where do you both stand now. Are you both looking good or not?

I honestly have no idea where I stand with him. The last communication I had was with him yesterday, when I was apparently losing my dignity over him by saying I was sorry and that I would make it up to him. The last text I had was indeed "I will make it up to you somehow" which probably came off sexual to him somehow. So, he stopped responding.

I do REALLY like him and everything felt so "different" with him from the start. I do feel like there is damage to this, but he did say yesterday "we can definitely try" to start fresh on Monday. The thing is, I am not sure I should reach out and confirm plans for Monday or just let it go unless he reaches out to me... I keep giving it hope but I just have a feeling Monday's a no-go to...
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Old 1st October 2017, 2:31 PM   #21
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Stop. When you chase a man the way you have done so far, it only pushes them away. It's a turn off.

Let him confirm plans. If he doesn't, move on. If he does, I'd still advise to move on. There are red flags. You're enthralled with his looks and charm. Focus on how he's treating you and making you feel. It's already gone off the tracks.
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Old 6th October 2017, 1:16 PM   #22
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Jesus... you know you're talking to an American when someone offering to buy them a gun is considered a sweet gesture.:
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Old 6th October 2017, 1:29 PM   #23
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All the sweet things he was saying were actually red flags.
He doesn't know you well enough to be saying that stuff to you.
His actions have shown you he is insincere and now you are definitely losing your dignity by waiting around and chasing.

You should cancel Monday and just move on.
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I honestly have no idea where I stand with him. The last communication I had was with him yesterday, when I was apparently losing my dignity over him by saying I was sorry and that I would make it up to him. The last text I had was indeed "I will make it up to you somehow" which probably came off sexual to him somehow. So, he stopped responding.

I do REALLY like him and everything felt so "different" with him from the start. I do feel like there is damage to this, but he did say yesterday "we can definitely try" to start fresh on Monday. The thing is, I am not sure I should reach out and confirm plans for Monday or just let it go unless he reaches out to me... I keep giving it hope but I just have a feeling Monday's a no-go to...
Why bother, my dear you should move on... I didn't know you replied back.. I just seeing your response right... Just giving you stories of what IF.. There is no hope to this.. What happen on Monday? No-go or pretty much the same crap?
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