noknow Posted September 25, 2017 Share Posted September 25, 2017 I've been dating two women for just over a month Ms. A and Ms. B. Recently Ms. A and I have decided to become exclusive. So how should I tell Ms. B? Should I call or text? What do I say to her? Link to post Share on other sites
Grey40 Posted September 25, 2017 Share Posted September 25, 2017 I've been dating two women for just over a month Ms. A and Ms. B. Recently Ms. A and I have decided to become exclusive. So how should I tell Ms. B? Should I call or text? What do I say to her? This is a tough one. You need to call. The right thing to do is to just tell her that you've been thinking and you just don't think it's going to work out and just mention the things about the relationship you didn't like. Or you could just ghost and stop talking to her completely. But that's not a nice way to handle it at all, and that would suck for her. Link to post Share on other sites
Steve51 Posted September 25, 2017 Share Posted September 25, 2017 I always told the girl in person but these days everyone is afraid of confrontation but telling in person is the honorable thing to do. I have broken up with a lot of girls, 30 of them exactly. What I did was tell them that I did not see a future with them and do not want to waste any more of their time. When she asks why, simply tell her that although she is a lot of fun to be with, you are not having the type of feelings for her that you should at this point. You simply do not feel what you should at this point of the relationship. Then she will either cry or attack you viciously. Be prepared for either. Look, do it and then it is done. It will be 15 minutes out of your life and you will never have to deal with that again.. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
rushed Posted September 25, 2017 Share Posted September 25, 2017 It's only been a month. I'd just text her. Something simple like it's been fun but you don't think you guys are a good match together. Link to post Share on other sites
rightondude Posted September 25, 2017 Share Posted September 25, 2017 do you guys talk on the phone a good bit now? If so, end it with a call. If not, after just a month, I think a long respectful text is fine. Link to post Share on other sites
Author noknow Posted September 28, 2017 Author Share Posted September 28, 2017 I did it. It was hard, I felt sorry for her. But that's the reality of dating. This is what I said, I typed it out and read from it. Helps for the nervousness. "Listen, it’s been really fun getting to know you, hanging out, and getting into trouble with you at the park, but I just want to let you know that recently I’ve become exclusive with someone. I don’t want to waste your time so I think it would be best if we went our separate ways. I definitely don’t want this to end badly, I wanted to give you the courtesy of a call. I want to be able to say hello and catch up on the streets if I see you." That's essentially what I said. She was very accepting but I could tell she was sad. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Cersei Posted September 28, 2017 Share Posted September 28, 2017 Well done! Honesty is best. Link to post Share on other sites
LovelyRose Posted September 28, 2017 Share Posted September 28, 2017 I did it. It was hard, I felt sorry for her. But that's the reality of dating. This is what I said, I typed it out and read from it. Helps for the nervousness. "Listen, it’s been really fun getting to know you, hanging out, and getting into trouble with you at the park, but I just want to let you know that recently I’ve become exclusive with someone. I don’t want to waste your time so I think it would be best if we went our separate ways. I definitely don’t want this to end badly, I wanted to give you the courtesy of a call. I want to be able to say hello and catch up on the streets if I see you." That's essentially what I said. She was very accepting but I could tell she was sad. Well done sir! And good luck with the other woman Link to post Share on other sites
todreaminblue Posted September 28, 2017 Share Posted September 28, 2017 you tell the truth say that you have met someone who you really feel for, you have decided to be exclusive and you want to be honest about your intentions.... let her know you dont have the same feelings for her, that she deserves a guy to have those feelings about her.....tell her you wish nothing but the best and that is what she deserves to have.....its gentle......and hopefully it is true it is what you do feel for her.... i have done this in the past when making a decision on who to date and who to not.....i only date one man at a time..and i have copped abuse back for being honest...(they are just hurt and i accept that i have hurt them)...but...my heart is clear when i am truthful and i prefer to have a clear heart and cop abuse than a guilty conscience which is not true to who i am or what i do..... and i still wish the best for them.....and i offer my friendship...which they often choose not to pursue.... do it soon and do it quick.......you can be truthful and gentle..it is the only right thing to do....best wishes........deb Link to post Share on other sites
smackie9 Posted September 28, 2017 Share Posted September 28, 2017 you tell the truth say that you have met someone who you really feel for, you have decided to be exclusive and you want to be honest about your intentions.... let her know you dont have the same feelings for her, that she deserves a guy to have those feelings about her.....tell her you wish nothing but the best and that is what she deserves to have.....its gentle......and hopefully it is true it is what you do feel for her.... i have done this in the past when making a decision on who to date and who to not.....i only date one man at a time..and i have copped abuse back for being honest...(they are just hurt and i accept that i have hurt them)...but...my heart is clear when i am truthful and i prefer to have a clear heart and cop abuse than a guilty conscience which is not true to who i am or what i do..... and i still wish the best for them.....and i offer my friendship...which they often choose not to pursue.... do it soon and do it quick.......you can be truthful and gentle..it is the only right thing to do....best wishes........deb Deb, he already did....read through the thread. Link to post Share on other sites
smackie9 Posted September 28, 2017 Share Posted September 28, 2017 She was very accepting but I could tell she was sad. It's an ego buster that's for sure. Link to post Share on other sites
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