wiseman6716 Posted September 12, 2017 Share Posted September 12, 2017 Been out with this girl couple times, asked her out again and she texted she really wants to go but has a family obligation. (went into detail about it) My response was going to be . Your killin me over here. Timing sucked on that one but I understand. Ill let ya make it up to me some other time. Hope everything goes well with them. What do you think trying to keep it relaxed and not so serious. THanks Link to post Share on other sites
MidwestUSA Posted September 12, 2017 Share Posted September 12, 2017 Been out with this girl couple times, asked her out again and she texted she really wants to go but has a family obligation. (went into detail about it) My response was going to be . Your killin me over here. Timing sucked on that one but I understand. Ill let ya make it up to me some other time. Hope everything goes well with them. What do you think trying to keep it relaxed and not so serious. THanks That's not relaxed, the undertone 'you can make it up to me' implies your disappointment. If you like her, why not be polite? She went into detail because she's sharing a part of her life with you. Tell her you hope she has a good time, and ask when she would be available to do what you had planned. Is communication really this difficult nowadays? 10 Link to post Share on other sites
kazen Posted September 12, 2017 Share Posted September 12, 2017 I'll reply with "Okie Dokie" 1 Link to post Share on other sites
d0nnivain Posted September 12, 2017 Share Posted September 12, 2017 You can be disappointed & you can say so. Wish her well & contact her again in a few days. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
smackie9 Posted September 12, 2017 Share Posted September 12, 2017 Be cute and cheeky with : "Aww really?? *disappointment*, that's OK, I look forward to seeing you soon" 7 Link to post Share on other sites
coolheadal Posted September 12, 2017 Share Posted September 12, 2017 Been out with this girl couple times, asked her out again and she texted she really wants to go but has a family obligation. (went into detail about it) My response was going to be . Your killin me over here. Timing sucked on that one but I understand. Ill let ya make it up to me some other time. Hope everything goes well with them. What do you think trying to keep it relaxed and not so serious. THanks Okay contact me when you can, bye take care... 5 Link to post Share on other sites
olivetree Posted September 12, 2017 Share Posted September 12, 2017 Express a little disappointment in a cute way and tell her to have a good time. I'd skip out on the "ya" and "you can make it up to me" in future communication. "Ya" is too casual and "you can make it up to me" leaves the feeling of being obligated/indebted to someone when she has done nothing other than already have plans... counters attraction. 6 Link to post Share on other sites
CautiouslyOptimistic Posted September 12, 2017 Share Posted September 12, 2017 Express a little disappointment in a cute way and tell her to have a good time. I'd skip out on the "ya" and "you can make it up to me" in future communication. "Ya" is too casual and "you can make it up to me" leaves the feeling of being obligated/indebted to someone when she has done nothing other than already have plans... counters attraction. I agree. I think a simple, "OK, rain check then! " would suffice. "you're killing me" and "you can make it up to me" is a off-putting. 7 Link to post Share on other sites
Author wiseman6716 Posted September 13, 2017 Author Share Posted September 13, 2017 Well I went with: Damn. Timing sucked on that one but I understand. I'll let ya make it up to me some other time lol. Hope everything goes well with them. We've known each other awhile and its kind of our humor and the way we took. If I would have went with something like Looked forward to going with you or look forward to seeing you soon, it wouldnt of been me. I think adding the lol showed I was disappointed but still kept it in a casual matter and not so serious. She responded right away complaining why her obligation was scheduled for that night. Link to post Share on other sites
kendahke Posted September 13, 2017 Share Posted September 13, 2017 She responded right away complaining why her obligation was scheduled for that night. Doesn't mean she's going to follow up, tho... Link to post Share on other sites
stillafool Posted September 13, 2017 Share Posted September 13, 2017 Or, "Okay. Have a good time." Link to post Share on other sites
amaysngrace Posted September 13, 2017 Share Posted September 13, 2017 Well there's two minutes of my life I'll never get back 8 Link to post Share on other sites
coolheadal Posted September 13, 2017 Share Posted September 13, 2017 Well I went with: Damn. Timing sucked on that one but I understand. I'll let ya make it up to me some other time lol. Hope everything goes well with them. We've known each other awhile and its kind of our humor and the way we took. If I would have went with something like Looked forward to going with you or look forward to seeing you soon, it wouldnt of been me. I think adding the lol showed I was disappointed but still kept it in a casual matter and not so serious. She responded right away complaining why her obligation was scheduled for that night. You say to that statement Well when you can find the time to reach out to me, just let me know? Otherwise my schedule seems full as well too. Take care bye You have to ump your game as well, otherwise she'll walk all over you with this one. Excuse after excuses. Do what you like but don't make it sound needy or weird... Link to post Share on other sites
LovelyRose Posted September 13, 2017 Share Posted September 13, 2017 (edited) You say to that statement Well when you can find the time to reach out to me, just let me know? Otherwise my schedule seems full as well too. Take care bye You have to ump your game as well, otherwise she'll walk all over you with this one. Excuse after excuses. Do what you like but don't make it sound needy or weird... Really? Do we even know the real story here? We don't even know why she couldn't go with the OP and how many times she has done this. OP said she has family obligation. Is this how crazy the dating world is now where everything has to be a game and everything translates to being needy, pushy, too much and walking all over someone? How sad. And for the OP, why even ask for advice on how to respond to her if you have known her for a while. That's a bad sign on your end that even knowing her a while and yet you're still unsure on how to respond to her and had to post first on here. Then none of the advice you even followed, lol. Edited September 13, 2017 by LovelyRose 3 Link to post Share on other sites
The Urbanyst Posted September 13, 2017 Share Posted September 13, 2017 When this happens I just say "cool" then I make plans with one of the other girls I'm dating lol. Link to post Share on other sites
Hbroken Posted September 13, 2017 Share Posted September 13, 2017 Been out with this girl couple times, asked her out again and she texted she really wants to go but has a family obligation. (went into detail about it) My response was going to be . Your killin me over here. Timing sucked on that one but I understand. Ill let ya make it up to me some other time. Hope everything goes well with them. What do you think trying to keep it relaxed and not so serious. THanks No probs. Family should always come first. best wishes 1 Link to post Share on other sites
kendahke Posted September 13, 2017 Share Posted September 13, 2017 Is this how crazy the dating world is now where everything has to be a game and everything translates to being needy, pushy, too much and walking all over someone? How sad. . Yep. It's the not well adjusted children playing "I'm going to punish you" games. Link to post Share on other sites
Pumpkin008 Posted September 13, 2017 Share Posted September 13, 2017 (edited) Ugh. I used to have an employee that said "you're killing me" when I gave him work. I had to point out that I was not actually killing him in the process, but paying him to do work. Drove me batty. It is too late now but I also would have left out the "you can make it up to me" part. I would HATE when boys said that to me. Note: I said "boys" and not "men". One knows better than the other. Edited September 13, 2017 by Pumpkin008 grammar Link to post Share on other sites
Author wiseman6716 Posted September 13, 2017 Author Share Posted September 13, 2017 After sending the text. I read it and have to agree. I should have simply replaced it with I looked forward to going with you. I simply overthought it out and was trying to not come across so serious. Hopefully it wasn't a game changer Link to post Share on other sites
coolheadal Posted September 13, 2017 Share Posted September 13, 2017 Really? Do we even know the real story here? We don't even know why she couldn't go with the OP and how many times she has done this. OP said she has family obligation. Is this how crazy the dating world is now where everything has to be a game and everything translates to being needy, pushy, too much and walking all over someone? How sad. And for the OP, why even ask for advice on how to respond to her if you have known her for a while. That's a bad sign on your end that even knowing her a while and yet you're still unsure on how to respond to her and had to post first on here. Then none of the advice you even followed, lol. I say are you very sure to say really about this, come on now.. Push her or now she's coming up with excuses. Why should a man wait for a woman to decide either she going to do it or not. Exit out softly or push her to give him the answer he wants to hear right now! Link to post Share on other sites
todreaminblue Posted September 13, 2017 Share Posted September 13, 2017 you have known each other a while so trust your own instincts in the future.......which you did this time..and obviously it worked...best wishes...deb 1 Link to post Share on other sites
CoolJoe Posted September 14, 2017 Share Posted September 14, 2017 Is this how crazy the dating world is now where everything has to be a game and everything translates to being needy, pushy, too much and walking all over someone? How sad. And for the OP, why even ask for advice on how to respond to her if you have known her for a while. That's a bad sign on your end that even knowing her a while and yet you're still unsure on how to respond to her and had to post first on here. Then none of the advice you even followed, lol. LOL deja vu! You wrote the same thing to another poster in one of my threads and once again, I have to agree with you. I can't stand this petty gamesmanship and manipulative scheming. Just be real, respectful and loving. The world and relationships would be so much healthier if people had more of that mentality. 3 Link to post Share on other sites
LovelyRose Posted September 14, 2017 Share Posted September 14, 2017 LOL deja vu! You wrote the same thing to another poster in one of my threads and once again, I have to agree with you. I can't stand this petty gamesmanship and manipulative scheming. Just be real, respectful and loving. The world and relationships would be so much healthier if people had more of that mentality. I'm just blown away. Anyway, I'm going to keep the rest of my thoughts to myself for now, lol. Link to post Share on other sites
LovelyRose Posted September 14, 2017 Share Posted September 14, 2017 I say are you very sure to say really about this, come on now.. Push her or now she's coming up with excuses. Why should a man wait for a woman to decide either she going to do it or not. Exit out softly or push her to give him the answer he wants to hear right now! You lost me here, lol. But ok Link to post Share on other sites
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